My guy friend of a few years likes me and has (he said) for a while...I'v had many guy friends who have liked me and no matter how cool i play it like no big deal...they always seam to end our friendship...be it because i started dating another guy and they said they cant stand to see me with another man or they make me choose between being being "with them" and ending our friendship or never talking to me again.....i can never seam to just get back to normal with them......how do i keep my best friend without ending out friendship and not getting into a relationship?????
2007-07-19 03:39:19 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You really need to discuss with your friend how you feel. You may even need to take some time before you do that to reflect inwardly on how you feel. If you are not attracted to this person, be sure that you are gentle when you let him know that is the reason that you do not want to have a deeper relationship with him. From what you posted, it sounds as though you are fighting to keep platonic relationships because it is what you have always done. You might want to consider what would happen if you didn't. If you are attracted to your friend, you could take a chance and develop a deeper relationship with him. Just make sure if you do choose that option that you let him know you want to go slow with it. The only person who really knows what you are thinking and feeling is you, and if you don't ever share that with anyone, they will rejected and hurt by you and won't want to continue their friendship with you. Good luck!
2007-07-19 03:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by Joanna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let them know you value your friendship more than an intimate or dating relationship.
hopefully someday you will meet people who have grown up attitudes and who are understanding.
it's not against the law to date more than one person at the time. in fact, it opens the field of selection.... if a date wants to be possessive, then he's not giving you any freedom to live your life, and he is too pushy.
people are in too big of a hurry to make a committment without first weighing their options and living a little!
do what you feel is right for you.
2007-07-19 10:44:22 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give him what he wants. Make him a happy man. If you don't put out and give him what he wants if he's already had an extremem lack of success with women, you'll leave him miersable and we don't want that, do we?
2007-07-19 10:43:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just tell him, he is like your brother so you would never feel for him in that sense
that should do the trick
2007-07-19 10:41:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you truly feel and that you're not interested in him like that...
2007-07-19 10:43:02 · answer #5 · answered by sexychocolate91 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋