Why to people fall out of Love? Please give me your opinion or reasons. Thank you.?

Answer 1

There are several reasons:

-Some people rush into relationships and later find out that they really don't have much in common - it was more physical at first- after being with them a while (and the physical dissipates- they make the realization)

-some people were not truly in love in the first place. They might have felt feelings and perhaps loved being in a relationship; however their mate never really lit their fire. (It’s sad to see relationships that are one sided. Where people start dating and once one of them gets totally in love- the other one feels bad and continues the relationship without that true romance /fire between them.

-some people say they fall out of love because their day to day life is boring (not filled with passion) You might been in love with someone however if they don't appreciate you and demonstrate that "love" – to you on a consistent level, will get bored and get into a friendship mode (or feel your spouse is more like a room mate then a soul mate)

-some people lose communication and trust because the other one cheated... After that respect is lost, it's hard to gain back feelings

-some people are in abusive relationships. It's easy to fall out of love when someone is beating you physically/mentally

To prevent this, make sure you really know your partner, have the same values/goals. Obviously make sure you are physically attracted to them. Talk to them an see if you could plan out your life. Talk about children. Respect one another. Keep the passion alive by doing the silly beautiful things you use to do when you dated. When you mess up ask for forgiveness or tell them you are sorry- (mean it). Shower your mate with overwhelming love and gratitude and the love will be returned 2 fold.

-I hope this helps,

Answer 2

This is a very confusing topic.... but sometimes people change. Out of nowhere you can start to notice things that never bothered you before. Sometimes it's not necessarily that someone has fallen out of love, but instead that they have fallen in love with someone else and they could feel that the new love is stronger and more promising than the old. Sometimes there are things brought into the equation that test the love's strength and it ends up breaking. (For example, someone might move away creating distance in the relationship and it could fall out from there) These are some of the things that I have dealt with, but I know that there are several other reasons. Hope I answered your question. Good luck!

Answer 3

people fall out of love for so many reasons. lost trust. to much baggage, don't pay attention enough. wont let things go. cant 4 give. you name it, i am on my second marriage. 10 yrs now.we have had our ups and downs. but our love has changed, it is not all that physical stuff, yes we are still intament but we have grown with each other , our love is deeper and not just about the physical..so why dose love go away . because somewhere along the line one or both stop trying, you slowly stop caring how the other feels.,,,,, never give up, keep on, work on communicating with the other person care share be loving and 4 giving. be open to change, and except the things that will not change, give you and the other person room to breath, its great to be together. and all so to be separate. time away gives each person a chance to be an individual. and when you come together there is your own unique blend of you, which only adds to the relationship. good luck

Answer 4

It depends on the person and the circumstances. Sometimes people just drift apart or don't work hard enough to maintain their love. Sometimes it is because of abuse. Often people are immature or do not really know what love is. Sometimes it is the circumstances, like having a cheating spouse or being stressed out. Sometimes it is depression or mental illness. Sometimes it is just a bad match. Sometimes the person was never really in love in the first place and only got with someone because they were lonely or in need. Sometimes a person was smothered, or conversely, did not get enough attention. Sometimes it is because they had a poor childhood and do not know how to maintain their love. The reasons are pretty much endless.

Answer 5

They don't know what it is and that's why they call it so.
In Love is not Love.
In Love is a feeling, it's lust and passion. It is a feeling of joy and excitement.
Love is a choice. You choose to love because you know what it requires. Love is about knowing the person you love. You know the good, you know the bad. You care about that person no matter they do. You know what they will do and you still care. You put them before yourself. You take them into consideration. That's love (in a nutshell).
You can still love the person you are having a fight with but I'll bet you wont feel "in love" at that moment.
So, they fall "out of love" simply because the lust and excitement has gone.
You stop loving because you choose to give up.

PS, If you really are a Reverend, then you know 1st Corinthians Chapter 13 and though I am not a Follower after years of being pressured in a Born Again Christian School, I did learn what love is.

Answer 6

People don't fall out of love. The only thing that makes people not want to be together is that they change. In a couple where one or both people don't want to be together anymore or feel they don't love one another is that they changed and it caused them to grow apart. Being in love is going to be full of changes and usually we wouldn't really like for our partners to be the same as when we got married or together. Some become lazy emotionally and become neglectful of the others feelings. Some people just get bored and want that new in love feeling. Relationships are difficult but worth it. So hopefully when you are in a relationship you will grow together not apart...its more a choice than you think.

Answer 7

I think people mistake falling out of love alot of the time. When you find someone new, and first fall in love its intense. Then after a few months... a year.. wahtever you start to get comfortable. And people take that comfortable feeling as not being in love anymore since its not as intense as the begining.

Answer 8

I'll tell you - it has happened to me! I tried to warn my significant other that if I things continued the way they were, that I would fall out of love with him- he didn't bother to change or talk about our issues, and so I did eventually fall out of love.

Example. I loved my bf more than life, worshipped him! We started a life together, lived together, got married and had a child. This is when it starts- he didn't like having so much responsibility- when I would HAVE to ask for him to help out, he would say "don't treat me like a little kid". My point- then don't act like one.

If he would have just done his part, I wouldn't have to ask! Because I had to always ASK him to do stuff for the kids or the house, I did feel like his mother. Then, he started to resent me, as if I really WAS his parent "harping on him to do this or that".

So, then we moved into "parent/ child" relationship. He resents me for the fact that he is lazy and chooses not to step up and be an adult. Doesn't make sense does it? Well, that's all it takes. After about 5 years, our relationship changed from lovers to parent/son. Ick.

I tried warning him, that if he treats me like a mother (by MAKING me have to remind him all the time to do stuff) that I would eventuallly fall out of love with him. He obviously thought I was just trying to "be mean" to him, and nothing ever changed.

Now I have 3 kids instead of 2 (he is my third). GROSS. I could never sleep with him now, and I only love him as my kids' father.

Answer 9

Many reasons. Cause they grow up and their interests change. Because they notice another person and think they are a better catch. Because they find to many faults with their current lover. Because they get bored in the relationship. Or maybe they haven't fallen out of love and they are just lying to make themselves feel better.

Answer 10

Its not something that happens in one day, its just like how you fell into love, you fall out of it too. As for why, that differs for everyone. In the begining everything is so wonderful and sometimes in the end its so bad, it just becomes a process of in and then out.