Are any of you aware of how isolated some of us are?

Question

I realize that most of you, given national demographics, are living in urban jungles or just on the periphery of one.

When you talk of "get out and do things" you are, of course, talking about all the services and amenities of living in a city.

But when I walk out, I am in the middle of several thousand square miles of forest and farmland, dotted by tiny teensy towns where half the residents are in retirement homes, a quarter have yet to graduate high school and the other quarter are, primarily, married.

For some of us, -this- is "our community". Coming here is "getting out" and socializing. We make friends, share triumphs and tragedies, here.

There are many benefits to country living, but being able to easily socialize with like-minded others is not one of them.

What do you say?

Answer 1

I understand how you feel, Orion. Really, I do, and I can sympathize. I'm a single mom without a car, in a town of 534 people. I have no friends and my kids have no friends, simply because there is no one else around. My neighbors are elderly, or else they work all day and are rarely home in the evenings. During the day, my kids and I are the only people on our block. Everyone else is just *gone*.

I never learned to drive, there was no one to teach me, so walking is our only mode of transportation. I have rheumatoid arthritis, and I confess I am crippled by this, so that pretty much makes me home-bound. I am isolated indeed, and spend far too much time talking to strangers on the computer because there is no one else around to hear what I have to say.

I worry about my kids having no social lives. Especially when I see what good, hard-working boys they are. My house would have fallen apart if it wasn't for all they do, and the help they give me. It breaks my heart that I can't offer them more.

Answer 2

I lived in Dallas until six moths ago, crime city USA. Just moved to a small city on the out skirts of Madison WI to live with one of the most intellectually stimulating women I've ever known. It is so nice, this slice of near country life.

I do miss the Hub and bub of city life, but Madison is a collage town, so there is a beautiful spark of culture here. It's nice to feel safe on the streets, to deal with the common sense people that make up a farming state. They are county folk, not hicks, and have agile minds that are not inclined to accept the buttery rich nonsense that passes for discourse in so many urban circles. Ah, to escape the thin airs of Post-Modern thought.

I have enjoyed the web. It is a new window onto the world. It must be a vital one for you. You might be suffering an overdoes of sensible country thought. All things in moderation, I suppose.

Enjoyed chatting, be well.

Answer 3

Personally, I'm looking forward to moving out of the "urban jungle" and back into small town mountains. I have always found them more accepting, regardless, filled with more realistic and down to earth people.

But finding people who believe just as you do? A bit harder. But the tradeoff is perferable to me.

I could never live in a huge city like NYC - I'd have to kill a few dozen people just for their sheer shallowness.

Answer 4

I live in a very small town in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan, surrounded by federal forests. Isolated yes, but I honestly don't think I could deal with city living again. It's easier to come here than to try to socialize with people I really don't have much in common with.

Answer 5

I know what you mean. I grew up on a farm that is rather isolated. Our house was always bustling and busy, but now my mom lives there by herself. I'm sure she finds a lot of the same social restrictions that you do.

Sometimes I wish I still lived in the country instead of the city, but at this point in my life I'm sure I'd go stir-crazy. I can't even commit to living in one city for more than a year!

Answer 6

I live out in the middle of nowhere too. Its a half hour drive to get to town, and hour drive to get to work... but I love living out in the country. I prefer to be isolated, I guess... its peaceful. Less worry over crime. Not so much social pressure. Beautiful nature surrounding us...

Answer 7

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Answer 8

It must get lonely, and spending time developing community on the internet, is a tough way to go.

People tend to magnify their personalities on the internet, so they get more ornery or more outgoing. The normal social niceties disappear.

I wish I could help, but you are the only one who can branch out.

Just know that many of us enjoy your responses and questions, and you do provide many of us with entertainment and some level of joy.

You are important.

Answer 9

i live in a town that has a population of 300 and i wouldn't have it any other way

Answer 10

yes, i'm aware. sell the house and move into town!