It's not like we haven't tasted of each other's carnal flesh, we have, plenty. The sex is one of the better things about the relationship. We are having this huge formal ceremony and my fiance just gave me this present last night. I opened it and found this really intricate chastity belt he had made for me. It is inset with some semi-precious stones and has beautiful metal work. He wants to put it on me a few days before the wedding and then take it off on our wedding night. Am I the only one who thinks this is weird? I feel like I am living in some B and M movie. And my relatives are helping me get dressed, what if they see this? The thing is that he got really mad when I said I wouldn't do it. He said he has gone to a lot of trouble and expense and that it stands for something really important. What should I do?
2007-07-19 03:33:07 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Oh, and it's going to be locked on and he'll have the key, so I won' thave anyway out of it!!!
2007-07-19 03:33:45 · update #1
I'm sorry, but romantic, kinky, wierd....who cares. What if u had to use the bathroom are you supposed to pee on yourself????? Don't do it unless you have the key.
2007-07-19 04:33:42 · answer #1 · answered by ☺ ♥ ☺ ♥ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Chastity Wedding
2016-12-12 08:06:18 · answer #2 · answered by llerena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I had quite a laugh at the "He's not gay!" comment. Of course he isn't! He's marrying you (a girl). Hopefully, you fiance is trying to get a rise out of you by suggesting a color as ridiculous as orange for your wedding. If he isn't kidding, god help you. Sit down with him and explain to him the importance of the wedding. It's okay to have a good time, but it is a serious ceremony and not a joke. If you are like most girls I'm sure you have been thinking about your special day since you were a little girl. Explain to him how important it is for you to have your dream wedding. If push comes to shove, you might have to go over his head. I'm sure both your mother and his would object to an orange tux, this a wedding not a prom. If he is confronted by all three of you he is bound to throw it the towel and if he doesn't.... that's really something to think about.
2016-05-17 09:39:22 · answer #3 · answered by juanita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices...
1. Go ahead and wear it. Enjoy it because you'll likely have to wear it later on in the relationship. You should ask if he plans on using whips or riding crops in the future and whether you are supposed to call him master from now on. Because quite frankly, that is where all this is headed. He has a major control fetish and that will only end up with you becoming a submissive to him as you slowly become nothing more than a sex slave.
2. Call off the wedding, send the chastity belt to his mother with a note explaining how sick of a freak her son is and move on with your life.
There is no in between. You cannot simply get married an not expect things to get worse and far more twisted. These are not the expectations of a normal man. These are the expectations of a bondage freak that thought he could bring you into his world. Well his world will not change, you will never get him to become free of it and he will continue to try and pull you into his. So don't even pretend there is a middle ground. You either cut your loses now or get ready for him to use and abuse you as he slowly plots how he will get you to let him put out cigars on your breasts.
Is that clear enough? He doesn't want to be your fiance or husband he wants to be your master.
2007-07-19 08:06:26 · answer #4 · answered by IG64 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I would call off the wedding. It sounds like your fiance has serious control issues. This could be just the tip of the iceberg of crazy things he might expect you to do over the course of your marriage. It sounds like he is into bondage and other S&M things you just don't want to get into. You said he got really mad when you said you wouldn't wear the chastity belt, which only he has the key to, and you can't remove. You must never give up control over your body and mind. How will he react when you are married and you refuse to do certain things?
The signs read that he is a control freak and an abuser. Consider yourself lucky that you have time to run away from him as fast as you can. This is a warning. It could save you much pain and suffering, and your life.
Believe me, the women in shelters for battered women did not see it coming. You do -- if you would remove the "blindfold" you are wearing before he slaps that chastity belt on you,
2007-07-19 04:52:35 · answer #5 · answered by soupkitty 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Go to the motorcycle store and get some leathers and handcuffs, rope and let him know that you like leather, whips and bondage. Wear the belt and don't him use the key for about 5 years---cause you really don't want kids. .. Three days before the wedding stay at a friends house or your parents. Play the virgin and no touchee before the wedding. Play this up real big with him.....Weat the belt ---OK The lock can be changed to your key... You could be heading down a sexual experience that is fun and exciting..
2007-07-19 03:53:23 · answer #6 · answered by Gerald 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My fiance had me wear a chastity belt for 2 weeks before the wedding and did not take it off on the wedding night. It was all oral and for his pleasure on the wedding night. Yes it was romantic, weird, kinky but loved it. But it was pure torture...not to mention the embarrassment of getting dressed for the wedding, You would have to confide in your maid of honor or your matron of honor though...and still keep it a secret from your guests, family etc. and yes, as mentioned by someone else here...
Your Husband is very likely have you wear it later on in the relationship...and there will be other such such as leash, collar, Whips, *********, cage and not to mention a whole lot of kinky training as well. You will have to address your fiance as Master or Sir. My Master started training me using a dog shock collar...and you may find such kinkiness in your fiance too. You will become his sex slave eventually. So ask yourself if you are up to it or you want to break it off. As for me...after 16 years of marriage, I could not have asked for anything else..but that's me..you need to decide for yourself.
2016-09-23 05:37:49 · answer #7 · answered by Fairfax Pet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I second Soupkitty's reply.
You have 3 big red flags:
1. He asks this of you
2. He didn't consult with you first.
3. "...he got really mad when I said I wouldn't do it. He said he has gone to a lot of trouble and expense and that it stands for something really important."
So he's really mad at you for not caving in to his RIDICULOUS demand. If you stay with him, it will only get worse from there. I strongly recommend you immediately call off the wedding/relationship. That will be far worse than the verbal and emotional abuse you WILL endure, and possibly physical abuse.
P.S. Some of the other replies think he's just acting out a fantasy. The clue that he's controlling is that he's really mad that you don't want to do this. He's trying to control YOUR body.
2007-07-19 06:07:34 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's S&M, or B&D . You two need to sit down and have a LONG talk. Your honey is into some kinky stuff - better find out now - WHAT it "stands" for - are you now his "property"? That's okay, but if you're not kinky, it's signs of trouble ahead in your marriage. Your fiance sound like a Dominant who is starting to express that part of his personality - is that something you will be comfortable with - are you submissive? Or are you just a normal, "vanilla" person? I highly suggest you read this book - http://www.amazon.com/When-Someone-You-Love-Kinky/dp/1890159239/ref=sr_1_2/104-8020005-3571965?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1184857998&sr=8-2 marriage can work between the kinky and the vanilla, but it takes communication and trust. Good luck!
2007-07-19 04:16:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should have discussed this with you before investing so much effort and fantasy into it. What's he going to pull out of the blue next? He'll come home saying I just bought a new house or car that you are going to have to like and pay for. Tell him you might give it a try sometime on the honeymoon, with you keeping the key, depending on his attitude. Get some real handcuffs for him too. It all sound real stupid and childish and I sure see a lot of red flags..
2007-07-19 03:42:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
This may be fun but honestly it needs to be consenual between the both of you. It sounds like your very uncomfortable with the idea and worried about others maybe seeing it and that is understandable. I think he is trying to build up to something special for you on your wedding night and I don't think its weird but I think its something he should have talked to you about before buying it and expecting you to go along with the idea. Why don't you tell him that you can experiment with it on your honeymoon(thats if your insterested and willing to surrender yourself in that way) but that the wedding day is out of the question. He was wrong for becoming angry with you for refusing. If as a couple your going to experiment with this sort of thing it has to be safe,sane and consenual and this does not meet the consenual requirement.
I am a guy and have worn a chasity device on several occasions for my partner the longest was several months(getting out of it on occasion when with her) but wearing it everyday other than that. It can build sexual desire and is sort of a love/hate thing to wear and can be an interesting way to surrender to your partner. But this is something you both must choose to do and it doesn't sound like you have even discussed this type of thing which is no good. He needs to take better care of you.
2007-07-19 04:19:12 · answer #11 · answered by snoopy22564 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋