My dad wld spend alot of time chattg w the girl on msn at home. I found out bout this cos there was once he did it blatantly with me in the room and i saw the pic of a girl frm e reflection of a glass casing behind him. I scoured e home PCs for any alien email add n easily guessed e password. started reading his emails (n print them out so i have proof should the need arise) and found out he visits her whenever he goes to china. problem is, he has every business to be in china because he is a businessman! I would like to keep this from my mum and sister.My family do not live in china so it is very hard for me to do ath. He is VERY careful w covering his tracks. He deletes e internet cookies/history/recycle bin everytime he uses the PC and also all calls in and out of his cellphone. Pls give me some advise on wht to do. Wld like 2 confront my dad as she was asking for an OMEGA watch. Qt afraid she'd cheat him dry, yet fearful e whole thing will backfire when he know i was stalking him.
2007-07-19 03:29:18 · 11 answers · asked by lost and forlorn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Okay, first it's called "spell check" secondly, it's not your place to spy on your dad. If he wants to be a cheater than it's his own fault if this woman rips him off. Since you've already gone there and invaded his privacy you may want to tell your mother since it could be a risk to her health (if he is having unprotected sex with both women, you don't know anything about the other and your Mom could be at risk for an STD). Not to mention that your mother shouldn't have to put up with a philandering husband, but most wives know about their husbands cheating anyways. I mean if it was that easy for you to find out about it, she probably already knows too.
2007-07-19 03:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by Krystal O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this. I don't know your dad, so I hesitate to advise. As far as stalking him, all kids are curious.... if it gets turned around on you, that's ridiculous.
If I was in your shoes, I would tell him that I know and how I FEEL about it. It may not be wise to tell him what to do or to threaten to tell someone. By knowing, you are in a horrible position. He is your Father and it is his responsibility to take care of you. If he doesn't take care of it FOR YOUR SAKE, I would hope that you will find a counselor (maybe one at school?) No young person should have to deal with such an issue!
I would really hesitate to advise you to tell your mom. You could be left feeling responsible for the break up of your family and that does NOT belong on the shoulders of a child.
2007-07-19 03:39:43 · answer #2 · answered by Bentley 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you are in a hard situation your dad should of never put you in! I am sorry to say, but I think your mom should know. I know it isn't fair that you should have to tell her. But, she has the right to know. He could give her an STD (sexually transmitted disease), including AIDS! Which is deadly. Not to mention, if he is having sex with this women. He could get her pregnant. It is best that your mom find out now, and deal with the pain. Then you, as a child, live with the guilt of not telling her and have to deal with this on your own. I hope the best for you sweetie. Affairs are one of the worst things in the world. I am sorry this has happened to your family.
2007-07-19 03:38:02 · answer #3 · answered by chris_n_chrisie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost you were wrong to get into your father's emails and wrong for getting into his business. Yes, what he's doing may be wrong, but YOU have no right to invade his privacy like that.
If you're worried about it, then you need to go to your father and you need to talk to him. Where it goes from there is how adult BOTH of you are about the whole matter. It's not your business, but his, and he deserves to know exactly what you've been doing poking around in it.
It's also not your place to tell your mother or sister, so yes, keep quiet. But if it is really bothering you, then you DO need to talk to your father and tell him that.
2007-07-19 03:36:50 · answer #4 · answered by ivy_shadowfare 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off you need to tell your father that you know and tell him to stop seeing this girl in china or you will tell your mother but if this backfire why your mother ask why you didn't tell her you does need to say i was scare of seeing my two love one separate by someone and remember to never spy on your dad it the painest thing you can do to your father. but good luck or talk someone not a family member or maybe your his mother your grandparent can wake him up before thing get worse
2007-07-19 03:45:11 · answer #5 · answered by mike2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is just like in movies!lol!anyway...if u have REAL guts and i mean REEEEAAAAL guts go up 2 him and say "do you love mum a lot?" if he says yes then tell him "why wont the whole family go on a dinner one night then?" but if i were u i would just w8 and see wat will happen.boy i would hate 2 be in ur boots!
2007-07-19 03:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by Aaron F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your parents' problems do not belong to you.
what good would it do to confront him? you can't change his actions.
your mother might already suspect something anyway.
let adult and parental problems alone... it's not your business.
i'm sorry you're hurt over this... it's not abnormal to be upset.
take care of your stuff, and let others take care of theirs.
hugs
2007-07-19 04:18:45 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u are so wrong for keeping this from your mom i am so glad you are not my son . how do u hurt your own mother she should no the truth i hope she doesn't get something from your cheat ting father but i hope she finds out how little you cares about her i would hate for my son to keep that from me i am not sure if i could ever trust him again if he did U ARE SO WRONG FOR DOING THIS TO YOUR MOTHER
2007-07-19 03:42:00 · answer #8 · answered by rue 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
tell your dad you know what he is doing and you want him to stop it now.
2007-07-19 03:33:14 · answer #9 · answered by Yes I am here!! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as his son or daughter i'd be furious. i'd tell him that i know and how horrible it is.
2007-07-19 03:37:30 · answer #10 · answered by c dyan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋