Maybe this is a silly question, I'm not sure, but...
It seems most people expect to drink at wedding receptions. My fiance and I are having a non-alcoholic reception. Do you think we need to make mention of this in our invitation? Or trust that people know us enough not to be bothered about something like that?
We're having entertainment at the reception, so they shouldn't be bored.
2007-07-19 03:03:47 · 27 answers · asked by muchadoaboutnothing 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Thank you for all of the answers so far. Eek, I hope no one brings any alcoholic.
Our reason, besides the fact that we don't drink... is that after I had cancer and radiation treatments in the head and neck area... my sense of smell became really acute and alcohol is one smell that really makes me ill.
(Water, of all things used to too, but that has gotten better.)
2007-07-19 03:14:12 · update #1
Ordinarily, I would say there is no need to put anything on the invitation about what will or will not be served at the reception.
However, since you have a serious medical issue that I'm sure most of your family/friends know about, you might want to include in SMALL type,
"Due to ___'s sensitivity to the smell of alcohol, none will be served at the reception. Thank you for understanding."
I would only do this if you are fairly certain people will bring their own. A better tactic might be to have your moms, bridesmaids and groomsmen verbally spread the word that the reception has to be alcohol free because of your medical situation.
2007-07-19 03:26:31 · answer #1 · answered by sparki777 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the ten years I was in the wedding business I can't recall anyone doing that for a reception invitation. Generally, I don't even see the need for an R.S.V.P, if you are only having cake and small finger foods? What is the purpose? You will have already booked the venues by the time the replies would come back, and all you'd save might be some on the cost of the cake and a few munchies. So why bother? Send invitations with "reception following". Don't mention a dinner, and don't mention "munchies". An added benefit might be that even more people might decide to come if they weren't under the pressure of an RSVP
2016-05-17 09:22:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't mention it on the invitation. Your closest family & friends probably know about your sensitivity to that smell and understand. And word can get around to most of the guests through just a few family members and close friends knowing your plans. I wouldn't worry about it, just enjoy your reception. If you don't specify that there will be no alcohol or say BYOB, most people won't think to bring alcohol to a reception.
2007-07-19 04:12:38 · answer #3 · answered by Christa H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just got married 12 days ago and didnt serve any alcohol. There was a bar downstairs from where we got married and people that wanted something to drink went and bought there own. I look at it this way it was our day and we dont drink so we didnt want anyone getting all drunk and making a fool out of thereself on our special day. No one complained.
We didnt put anything in the invite. But we did mention it to the people we know that do drink
2007-07-19 03:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to put it on the invitation.
If you are worried about it, ask some key family members and friends to "spread the word" for you. They can just casually mention the fact that smells really bother you and that alcohol is one of the smells that just really gets to you. If anyone has a problem with it, then they just have problems in general.
2007-07-19 04:26:01 · answer #5 · answered by Amy P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless these people are complete savages they shouldnt be bothered by a dry reception. I dont think there is any need for a mention of it on your invites. I mean, what are they coming for to drink or to celebrate with you? People drink because its there, if its not there they will have just as good a time without it and shouldnt make any kind of comment.
Good luck!
2007-07-19 03:21:49 · answer #6 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your choice to have a non-alcohol reception is just that, your choice.
You need not mention it on your invites nor do you need to make excuses or explain your decision. And don't worry about it either. There are MANY who choose not to have alcohol at their reception.
And those that open their mouths about it wasn't really there to share this special day with you anyway. They can hit the local pub on the way home.
Entertainment is fine, but that really isn't your job or the purpose of the celebration. It is a wedding reception, not a gala ball.
2007-07-19 03:18:37 · answer #7 · answered by weddrev 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
We had a no-alcohol reception. (My parents aren't drinkers and didn't want to have alcohol - their money, their call). We didn't make mention of it on the invitation, and it wasn't a problem. There were some friends who we knew might be disappointed, so we warned them beforehand. A few just brought flasks and spiked their own drinks. It didn't bother us at all, and everyone was happy.
2007-07-19 03:15:40 · answer #8 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so glad you are better. I dont think one needs to announce what one will or will not be serving at an event. If some people are disappointed they can leave or go out later and drink. I would not put it on the invitation however since it would encourage people to bring their own
2007-07-19 03:28:35 · answer #9 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no need to mention the fact on your invitation itself, but if you choose, on the reception card, to put in small print at the bottom of the card "no alcohol to be served" that is perfectly acceptable. (just an aside, though...do not put "non-alcoholic" as that means there will be no alcoholics attending lol)
2007-07-19 03:10:19 · answer #10 · answered by joesgrl90 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋