Are bridal showers women only events? I have a vague recollection of a male friend at my friend's bridal shower, but I got there late because of work and the party was mostly over... so I don't know if he came afterwards like I did, or if he was there the whole time.
If it is an all-female event... is there a male equivalent? I don't want my fiance left out of the celebrations. We're such a team, we usually do everything together.
Thanks for all of your help.
2007-07-19 02:57:55 · 25 answers · asked by clawofiron 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Usually they are female only events...that is unless it's a couples shower. I have yet to hear about anything similar for men only.
2007-07-19 03:01:59 · answer #1 · answered by Mom of 4 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Traditionally bridal showers are for women only, however couples showers seem to be the new trend. Ultimately, both you and the person hosting the shower should decide what is best.
Regardless of your decision, you should know that men often feel uncomfortable at these traditionally women only events and prefer to be left out.
I guess the male equivalent would be a bachelor party?
2007-07-19 03:11:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't let other people tell you what you and your future husband want. I have attended PLENTY of couples' showers and although they are not traditional, they were great, and in my opinion, more fun. You choose whatever you want to do and don't worry about what other people will think. Just let your guests know that their significant others are invited as well.
Most often, the groom isn't included in most of the wedding process until you say "I do." Sometimes they can feel left out. I think he might very much appreciate a couples' shower, especially if you two are such a team. Go for it!
2007-07-19 03:07:57 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley S 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time they are women only, but I am like you, my husband and I were a team and I hated the thought of opening gifts that were for us without him. Why should he have to miss out on the fun. He was the only man there, but he stayed for the whole thing, it actually worked out great because he was the gift runner as well, so my bridesmaids didnt have to do do that on top of making the gift list and the stupid hat. He got to see everything as I opened it and we had a great time. He also stayed for my baby shower and my dad came to that as well to keep him company.
There is no stead fast rule with showers. But I would make sure he is comfortable with staying if you want him to stay, sometimes they would rather be anywhere else than opening up place settings and blenders! If he doesnt want to stay for the whole thing, have him come the last 1/2 hour to greet people and thank guests for coming and their geenrousity.
I have also been to Jack and Jill showers where all the men are invited, but at those all the men seemed to congregate together in a corner dinking and talking sports, they didnt really pay attention to us or the gifts.
2007-07-19 03:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think a co-ed shower could be a lot of fun. I felt bad that my hubby didn't get his own shower, and he usually dropped by mine around the time of present opening. I wish someone would have given us one together, with both men and women attending. Problem is, lots of guys still won't attend. But, call it something other than a shower and maybe they will.
You could also give him a tool shower, where he registers at say Home Depot. Guys seem to want to attend those events more than a bridal shower.
2007-07-19 03:14:40 · answer #5 · answered by burfette 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A lot of the showers that I've been to have been women only, but the groom (and sometimes groomsmen or other male family members) stop by at the end to say Hi to everyone and thank them. I think it's nice to do it that way because the men get to be a part of it without having to sit through the girly parts. I think it would be fine if he wanted to be a part of the whole party though.
2007-07-19 05:11:48 · answer #6 · answered by Renee 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Bridal showers are for women only.
There is also anothet option which is a "Jack and Jill" shower, where both males and females are welcome to participate and both the bride and groom are in attendance.
and No, there is no "male" version of the event. Is either all women, or women and men together.
Do not worry, he will no feel "left out" of the celebrations, This is a woman thing and men are men.
Good luck
2007-07-19 03:12:08 · answer #7 · answered by Blunt 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
There is the possibility of a co-ed shower, but as both a bride and a guest, I think it's very special for just the girls and ladies to get together for a bridal shower - there's no other celebration quite like it!
2007-07-19 03:17:27 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a recent development. I first heard of men attending bridal showers a couple of years ago when a colleague at work mentioned her brother having gone to a bridal shower.
Personally I do not see how a straight man could sit through a bridal shower. Let's face it, I can hardly shop with my girlfriend without wanting to throw myself in traffic, much less attend a bridal shower. I don't get it!
2007-07-19 03:14:47 · answer #9 · answered by surffsav 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Sometimes the fiance will come to the bridal shower to eat and load up the gifts in the car. And sometimes he can slip a gift into the pile of presents (like sexy lingerie) or bring her flowers and tell her how much he loves her in front of all of her female family and friends. He may feel uncomfortable if he stays the whole time, but he is welcome. (He can be included in the bridal games, too: Where was he born, how/when did he propose, who is his best man, etc.)
2007-07-19 03:27:58 · answer #10 · answered by theewokprincess 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some now do a couple shower, However, most men are not interested in opening up house hold gifts like china, crystal, pots etc. So I would think he would rather not go and show up later. I would plan something for the guys some beers, pizza and watching a sporting event and then they can meet up after the shower is over. good Luck
2007-07-19 03:02:57 · answer #11 · answered by Kat G 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋