I was dating a guy a while back, lets call him "S" but my problem is not with S, is with his best mate, let's call him "T".
T told me that he likes me a lot (he knew i was dating S) but my relationship with S was not serious..
T asked S if we had sex, and S replied back: yes we did!
and then since that day, T is treating me very strange.. he is ignoring my messages..
I got really upset that he asked this question to S, why he is so interested anyway..?
I asked T, why he stoped talking to me, but he said he did not stop.. but i noticed the way he is treating me.. iam not stupid... just today he igored me.. Why is he acting like that?
T is 32 and S is 31
2007-07-19 02:41:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well "T" might have gotten upset since you had sex with "S." T likes you but that would crush a guys ego knowing that your not in a serious relationship.
2007-07-19 02:45:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be for a couple of reasons. One for the very reason your asking this question. To make you think about him non-stop. And it's working quite well. Two because even though you say your relationship was not very serious the fact that you sleep with S makes your relationship more serious than you think, which brings me to my main point bro's before Ho's. Men will not date there friends ex if it was serious. That's just disrespectful. But if your not interested in him but you consider him a friend and are wondering why he is ignoring you is because he is S's friend and if S's is not hanging around you then T is busy with S. Also you never know you could have meant alot to S and T had to hear all about how you broke his heart and not T also does not like you. Hope everything works out. But bottom line fine some one new.
2007-07-19 09:51:27 · answer #2 · answered by kinreep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously T has feelings for you and he's hurt that you and S had sex- When T told you he liked you a lot how did you reply? Deep down T probably thought you and S wouldn't take things that far and that T had a chance with you. Also- the fact that he DID have feelings for you and now he knows you had sex with his best friend, you're in a way off limits. I mean in most cases guys don't care about that but maybe since you had sex with S, T no longer wants to be with you. That just adds drama if you go from one friend to the other. What I think is that he's just upset he didn't get to be with you, and he's mad that you were with S and not him. Besides... who knows why any guy does what he does?
2007-07-19 09:52:56 · answer #3 · answered by nikirollerblades 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say you are involved in some sort of warped love triangle. "T" is obviously into you and now he knows that you are in an intimate relationship with "S" is backing off which is probably a good idea. Sounds like there is some game playing going on here - perhaps you want a menage a tois?
2007-07-19 09:49:20 · answer #4 · answered by veruca salt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that t maybe thought that your relationship with s wasn't serious either but then you had sex so maybe to t that means it is serious. He also could just be jealous or mad. Maybe give him alittle time and then try to talk to him. And if your interested in t maybe breaking it off with s would make t think your interested in him. Men are not as macho as we all think, they are actually hurt very easy. Well only you can truly decide, your the one who actually knows them best. good luck!
2007-07-19 09:48:43 · answer #5 · answered by Caryn P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only HE knows why he acted like that. But everyone here can tell you one thing: neither of these guys is worth your time. In any case, if he is ignoring you, he is no longer interested in you because you had sex with S. Seems to me like he is kind of immature for his age. I recommend moving on and finding someone better. Both of these guys seem less than ideal. you can do better! Good luck!
2007-07-19 09:45:23 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that T had some serious feelings for you, but when he found out about you and S, it hurt him because he may have thought he had a chance of being with you. He's avoiding you probly because he is still feeling the pain of losing someone he cares for to someone else (if that makes sense). I would keep trying to talk to him.
2007-07-19 09:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by ralos2k3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is jealous. I also will get crazy if the girl i like had sex with another guy. Well, if u find T is better, then choose him, or if S is still good, then try to become frenz again with T.
2007-07-19 09:46:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question is.... in your question! He liked you and then he found out you had sex with his friend. He has no right to treat you differently, but he will. Finding out that bit of information destroyed whatever fantasy he had playing in his head.
2007-07-19 09:47:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a new guy. Both of these relationships are screwed up.
2007-07-19 09:44:26 · answer #10 · answered by manoflamancha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋