What do you think? Cheating question.?

Question

My boyfriend and I just moved in together a couple of months ago and since we've moved in I have not had ONE vaginal irritation, but before we moved in I got one atleast once a month and I've only had sex with him. His family seems to make my life and living hell and when I questioned him about it he acts all nonchalant like I'm an idiot...And I've had this burning feeling in my gut thats been telling me thats he's done something behind my back so I dont know what to think. There are alot more details and pieces to the puzzle but from the little you've heard what do you think? If he were accusing me of cheating I'd flip out because its something so far from the truth and he hugs and kisses all over me as if nothing happened at all. So yeah what do you thnk?

Sorry my question is a little fuzzy so let me clear up a few things. I've talked to him about whats going on down there and his answer AT FIRST was I shower more since we've moved in together which is total bull and when I called him out on it all he says is I dont know. I'm thinking that he was cheating on me before we moved in. His behavior about the whole confrontation was just off to me. I'm also a psychology major :) But its almost like he's trying to act like its not a big to deal to prove he's innocent which makes him look more guilty...make sense? lol

Answer 1

You might be right...however consider this. You used to have vaginal irratations when you were not living with him. No you have had none and you are concerned that he is cheating now.

Maybe it is reverse. Maybe he was cheating before which is why you were getting the vaginal irritations, and now that you have moved in togther he has become faithful to you and is committed to you.

Answer 2

I was in a similar situation a couple of months ago... my fiancees family disliked me completely and made my relationship with him almost impossible. Did you two moved in together to your own place or with his family? If you two are alone then you should give him especific examples on how they are disrespecting you and your relationship. You two obviously moved in together because this relationship has potential but explain to him that if they cannot change their behavior towards you then you two will have problems in your relationship.

As per the cheating... you can't base your decision on some irritation down south. You need proof.... is he different w/ you? has your amount sex have decreased dramatically? does he come smelling like women's perfume? Moving in together is a big deal for any guy and the first couple of months are the hardest because he doesn't feel 'free' anymore. So unless you have some solid proof then you can't assume he's cheating.

Personally my situation with his family made me think of all types of stuff including that his family was pushing him to break up with me. The situation made me so insane that i ended up believing my own assumptions. I used accuse him of cheating all the time, even when i knew i had no proof. You might be sabotaging your own relationship because of the situation with his family. Be careful... he's with you for a reason and if he didn't want to be in it then he would just tell you.

Answer 3

He might be cheating, sometimes you have to go with your gut instinct. But, just because you have no "irritation" doesn't mean anything. Did you change detergent, softener sheets, type of toilet paper, now use unscented tampons or pads, change to cotton undies, start eating yoghurt? Many women get vaginitis from a variety of irritants , not just a transmitted bacteria. Maybe his parents are just old fashioned and don't like you living together. Mine hated my wife when she first moved in and we weren't married. I'm sure they thought she was a "ho". It took years of marriage and grandkids for them to come around. If you think he's cheating, check up on him. Check out his car, wallet, phone, etc. That is really the only way you'll ever satisfy your suspicions since he denies it. Good luck.

Answer 4

It has been my experience that sometimes difference in personal hygiene supplies can play a part.
I used to do the same thing. Come to find out, it was his soap causing it.
Maybe he has switched to the soap that u used now that u two are living together. Could that be it?
Just an option. I have been accused of seeing the good in everybody, but at least my cup is half full and not empty.
Dont assume anything, rule out all possibilites for the change before you consider the other routes.
Good luck hun.

Answer 5

Those instincts... reminds us of danger and enables recognize the fake. I have read in Cosmo, that vaginal irritations stem from too much sex, nutritional deficiency using improper soaps or body wash, and condoms. I suggest going to the ob/gyn and confirm that there is a problem. Making baseless accusations can be damaging to your relationship. I am not saying he's cheating and I am not saying he's not, but going to doctor will clear things up for you.

Answer 6

My advice, tell him more or less what you have just described here..
Tell him the trouble you're having, downstairs... ask him if theres anything he would like to tell you..
If he needs to be reminded of the fact that you're a human being too and you have a right to know whats been going on, especially if it may be causing you trouble, then so be it!
Just explain that you can't help but feel this way, and that it might be your imagination running wild.. whatever you do though, don't appologise for what you're asking him.. like I said, you have a human RIGHT to know whether there is reason to worry. He should respect you enough to tell you the truth!
If he for some reason gets offended, again remind him that you deserved to know the truth and you HAD to ask to put your mind at rest!

Answer 7

if when you ask him about it and he just hugs and kisses you then I hate to say this but something is up with him If I was you I would check his cell phone for weird numbers or maybe texts messages to see if you find anything check his contact list to see who is on it maybe your find something there or follow him sometimes thats not staking that is just checking on him because if your just dating and he has moving in who knows if you ever gett married he might get worse than your have a divorce on your hands better to find out now though hope everthing works out and yeah I've done it with my husband but think God it was not what I though hope this helps and one other thing about the irritation try different soaps my best friend used to be that way she went to the dr so many times come to find out it was the soap she was using all she can use is dove for sentitive skin

Answer 8

i've always said " if you have a funny feeling about something, there's a reason why" our bodies have an incredible sense when something doesn't quite make sense or a minor detail doesn't fit we somehow know' it could be the response to a question or subject matter. when a gazelle hears a twig snap when drinking from tha water hole it doesn't think "oh that's probably not a lion coming to tear my throat out" no it follows its instinct and leaps as far as it can without thinking. follow your instincts. they are almost always correct.

Answer 9

Not enough info to tell. Could well be. Say "Some girl called asking about you." See what he does.

Not sure how the family makes it living hell ( I guess hell is relative, I think I've strode it's sands, but I digress) is relevant to cheating or vaginal irritation, but whatever.

Answer 10

Sorry to break the ews to you but your relationship is doomed. Maybe he did cheat, seems that way. But a relationship is based on three things. Cmmunication, Honesty and Trust. There is no trust that is for sure, and if he cheated there is not honesty either. I think you should dump him and move on.