I did a stupid out of character thing, i slept with a guy the first time meeting him dont ask why we just got kinda carried away. This guy has been texting me since not asking for sex but telling me he really likes me etc i really like this guy but iv always been under the impression that things cannot be salvaged after this as he will have no respect for you but can things develope from this or have i really blown it? Im 25 he is 30.
2007-07-19 02:18:28 · 23 answers · asked by Laurie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
a single action does not define who you are. anything is possible. ask yourself the simple questions. is he okay? is he nice to you? is he interesting? etc?
this isnt hard. if you have any feelings or interest in him what so ever, date him. why not?
now, the bad part. here are some things to watch out for. if he in any way, shape, or form implies in anyway that you are a free lay...walk away. if he disrespects you because you two slept together on the first date, walk away. remember, most men will say or do anything to seem like a good guy. talk is cheap, look at actions.
there is nothing to be ashamed or worried about. you have only one date with him, and you say you really like him...what does that tell you? think things through. sometimes a good time is just a good time. and you move on.
judge on character, not on single actions.
2007-07-19 02:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by pete 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would never sleep with a girl on the first date. But if I did, it would certainly not mean I did not respect her! And it certainly does not mean that the relationship cannot be salvaged. What made you think that? Some people sleep on the first date all the time, and it is not like none of these people ever have good relationships. If the guy is calling you and showing an interest, then he probably thinks more about you than that! Give him a chance if you liked him. But if you don't want to keep having sex until you are more serious, be up front and see what he says. You'll know if he really likes you or not. Good luck!
2007-07-19 02:22:59 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the fact that he has got in contact with you since shows that he is interested when i first met my husband we did get carried away and sleep together the 1st date but here we are married with 2 kids so yes it can work out sometimes jut as long as you both want the same things out of the relationship if your still doubt-full still meet up with him doesn't mean you have to sleep together again just explain it was a very out of character thing for you to do and that you would like to get to know him better before you go down that road again then you will really know if hes for real or not x good luck x
2007-07-19 02:34:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that when that happens to younger people then the relationship cannot be saved but I think at an older age of 25 and 30 that both of you can handle the responsibility of having sex on the first date and there can still be hope for both of you.
2007-07-19 02:22:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is always a chance that a relationship can form from a one-nighter like the one you have, but the odds are highly against it. You never allowed for much time for rapport and relationship building before you two did the deed. I wish you luck and hope that you two can become a couple, but don't be surprised if it doesn't.
Next time adhere to an 8 date rule. That is date the guy you are with 8 times before you sleep with him.
2007-07-19 02:25:22 · answer #5 · answered by davester1970 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm. Interesting...
Well, usually I say to people that part of how you are treated is how you act, but that doesn't mean that necessarily all is lost. Give the guy a chance - I mean, he's old enough o be a grown up about it at least (you would hope) and I'm sure as he gets to know you better he would see that an early... lapse... in judgement is not the person you are beneath.
2007-07-19 02:23:16 · answer #6 · answered by Caffeine Fiend 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but it can be, I met my now boyfriend in a club, went home with him because he was a really nice, funny guy and he was mates with a mate of mine, one thing led to another, and we've been together 2 years now, live together and are expecting our first baby. I'm 20 and he's 25
2007-07-19 02:25:50 · answer #7 · answered by Little Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are y ou sure you 25 and not 15????? You should be able to figure thisone out on your own. Go on another date and see what happens.... Expalin this was an out of character move for you.
2007-07-19 02:26:58 · answer #8 · answered by Lookin-2-Talk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you could have a future as he seems keen on you. If you get the chance, explain that you don't normally behave like that, but he was so irresistable you just got carried away.
Good luck.
2007-07-19 05:47:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on ya not 15 so u slept with him on the first date he has come back so he likes you go 4 it will work or it will not thats life live it u will kick ya self if he is a brill guy and u let him go and if he is a **** well get rid u never know
2007-07-19 02:31:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋