A little group from work (mostly from a specific department I work in, past and present co-workers) is throwing me a little wedding shower in one person's home - about 6 people. My sister also works there, but in a different department, and she is much "higher up" and that may make people uncomfortable, but I would still like her invited. If it is not rude (suspect it might be-you tell me), how do I ask them to invite her
2007-07-19 02:11:15 · 20 answers · asked by PixdeeArtist 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I forgot to mention the two added wrinkles: (1) My sister is the matron of honor and we had originally talke about a work shower (because I don't have any other friends outside of work-I know, that's dull) (2) I have another sister (who does not work in the same place). I haven't always gotten along with her and some of my friends may be thinking it would not be good if they somehow felt obligated to invite her if they invited my other sister. It's complicated I know. I just don't want anyone hurt.
2007-07-19 06:04:39 · update #1
I think it's alright...she's your sister, works at the same company, and it's only 1 single person. I would ask the person organizing it whether she would mind, that you would really, really appreciate it.
2007-07-19 02:23:11 · answer #1 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd say yes, it is rude unless the hostess asks you if there's anyone else you'd like to have invited. Certainly don't just invite her on your own. If this shower is just for your co-workers in your department, let them keep it that way. I'm sure a family member or bridesmaid will have a larger shower for you at some point, and will invite your close family which will include your sister. But for this one, as they're having a very small shower in someone's home, let them control the guest list unless you're asked for your input.
2007-07-19 02:48:08 · answer #2 · answered by Christa H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it is just coworkers, you probably shouldn't ask that your sister be included unless the hostess specifically asks if there are other people you want to invite. Typically, the shower hostess will ask the bride who she wants to invite, but this seems to just be an office shower that happens to be held at an outside location. In this instance, the bride does not get to invite all her other friends, even if they work in another department in the same company, unless specifically asked to provide a giest list.
2007-07-19 02:16:52 · answer #3 · answered by anon 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Okay, here's a thought. This shower: is it the only one you're going to have, or are you going to have another one with your family? If you are going to have another one, your sister will no doubt be invited to that one. Let this one be with your girls from work and say to your sister "The girls from my department decided to throw me a little party. Wanna come over after work to see what they got me?" Then she won't feel quite as left out.
If it's your only party, ask the person who's throwing it if your sister could come too since it's your only shower.
2007-07-19 05:06:44 · answer #4 · answered by theewokprincess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not!
She is your SISTER, and should be at your wedding shower. The way I understand it, is that the family of the bride and the groom, the wedding party and other close friends should be invited to your wedding shower. If this is a group from your work and they want to do something specifically for you just with the people from your dept, then maybe suggest a nice dinner out instead of a traditional shower. They can still give you the gifts they would at a traditional shower, but this way, you wouldn't be in the awkward position of telling your family you wouldn't be comfortable with them being their.
2007-07-19 02:18:36 · answer #5 · answered by britno_00 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If it's a shower to honor you, then you should have some say in the guest list. Since the person you wish to invite is your relative, it shouldn't be a problem regardless of her position in the company. She will be there as your sister, not as a higher up person in the company.
Congratulations!
2007-07-19 02:48:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am not sure if it is technically rude or not, however....
If you think that it will change the mood of the event for everyone, including the host, then I would probably not ask for her to be invited. I am sure that you will have other showers in which she will attend.
Overall, shower hosts usually ask you for a list of people that you would like them to invite. If the host has not asked you this, then enjoy this shower and hope for another one where you can invite whomever you wish.
2007-07-19 02:19:06 · answer #7 · answered by Sharon 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Let your work people do what they want, you'll get a real shower later that includes your sister! Work showers are work showers- informal and just a special party for you. Don't worry about inviting more people!!!
2007-07-19 02:35:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would just ask the host of the bridal shower how she HONESTLY felt about it. Be honest with her and tell her how you feel, and that you would really like your sister to come. I don't think it is rude, after all the shower is for you!
2007-07-19 02:49:52 · answer #9 · answered by chris_n_chrisie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a great idea to do this. They are planning this for you, specifically from their department. Your sister may be at another family shower for you.
2007-07-19 03:22:38 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say, "Could you please invite my sister?" Simple as that.
BUT... is there going to be a wedding shower that is NOT work-related? If so, I presume your sister is coming to that one. If so, then don't bring her to the work shower. That would be kind of weird, especially if it might make people uncomfortable.
2007-07-19 02:20:15 · answer #11 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋