marriage-go with the flow or wait until ready?

Question

on another one of my questions someone asked me(thinking my boyfriend was a girl)why am i not married yet?(we've been a couple for 6 years).
but my view is that marriage should be special and only done if both partners are ready.

why rush into anything really,that could be a mistake and break up 2 months or 5 years down the line?(or even 2 days in britney spears case when she married that guy from her childhood,non famous days).

thanks baps,you said it better then me.

Answer 1

I agree with you, a couple should only get married when both of you feel you are ready. This is because with divorce rate being the way they are you don't want to go down that road.

If you are both happy just living together and you don't want to get married then you shouldn't do it. After all you hear lots of stories of couples that had been living together for years and then once they get married something changes and then they split up.

I believe that a marriage is forever and I only want to do it once, due to this you have to really really know that you are ready to commit to that one person forever

Answer 2

Yes, you need to be ready. That is for sure. That said, if you've been together for six years, then why are you not ready? Why rush into anything? You've been together for six years! If you haven't figured out if you want to be together for the rest of your life after six years, then it probably isn't happening. Is there a reason for it? But you know your relationship better than any of us do, and like you said: if you are not ready, then you are not ready. Regardless, it will be natural for people to expect you to get married if you have been together so long. Unless you simply do not believe in marriage, it is not such a stretch for people to suspect there is something wrong. Often there is. But here's hoping you're the exception to the rule! There are, indeed, a lot of exceptions in this case. Good luck!

Answer 3

Marraige should not be rushed into. I know from experience, been married three times. Not doing it again. I rushed it all three times and I really didn't get to know them well till after it was too late. Both partners should be ready, and it depends on what you are looking for in marriage. Do you plan on having kids? What is the reason for the piece of paper? The commitment is in the heart and the piece of paper is just to deal with legal stuff. Take your time, there is no reason to rush.

Answer 4

You have to wait until you are comfortable. My fiance and I have been angaged for 1 year and 4 months, and aren't getting married until next October. That is mostly because that is the semester I graduate college. I want sometimes to move it, and just get married now, but I know it just isnt monetarily feesible. Also, we don't have everything together for a place yet.

You just need to wait until you are ready. No need to ruch or feel forced into it. I knew a couple that was together for 13 years and they only reason they got married was because her health insurance was going up.

Answer 5

Wait until both are absolutely ready to make the biggest decision of your lives.My partner and i have been together for 9 years and our relationship has out lasted many of are married friends.!!!

Answer 6

I cant wait to get married to my bf...it just shows in a way that you are mature and ready to take on bigger things. But if you feel like you have to wait..then wait. but dont wait too long! some things in life dont have a specific time to be ready or the right time.. you just have to do it.

Answer 7

You must wait until it's right for you and your partner.
Relationships are unique to two people. Don't wilt under outside influences as no one truly understands your situation.