In the playing field......?

Question

You know there's an excellent books for women and how to be assertive and not to be a pushover and point out mistakes women make........

But I wish there was a book for women and dating, how women can show confidence and assertiveness without sending a non-verbal message that she's a skank, wants attention, conceited, and all that bad stuff but rather intentionally send a message that she's assertive and confident, knows what she wants, does not tolerate inappropriate behavior, without being so aggressive it scares guys away to the point where noone is interested in dating her. Makes sense? To also put out a message that she doesn't seek attention nor acceptance, she wants to date but not attract guys for the wrong reasons.

Answer 1

I would read the book "Keeping the Love you Find", by Harville Hendrix. It will help you understand a lot about relationships and why people choose (other people) the way they do. You can get it in almost any bookstore, because it was a bestseller.

Answer 2

Makes sense. And there's also an application for guys: How to be confident and assertive without making it seem like all you want to do is get down a female's pants. I haven't figured the balance out yet... I still get the "Get away from me" looks when I start talking to some girls.

Answer 3

All women want and need attention, why else would you ask if a dress looked good on you? Why else would you get pissed if a guy does not notice your new haircut? Just be who you are, i'm sure there are men out there willing to put up with you.