i dont think my partners family likes me?

Question

we have been together for 6 years,even though i dont think they know we are a couple.i am not a bad looking guy and i like to think that i am a nice person but they always give me looks,as if i am something they stepped in.
even his baby sister cries and shes only a few months old.am i just being paranoid?i have never told him this.

ok then 6 year BOYFRIEND then seeing as you care so much about labels.
and in my view people should only marry if both BOYFRIENDS/GIRLFRIENDS are ready.we are not.

i know,but what if i am right and his family force him to pick me or them,i just want them to like me ya know?it would make life easier for all of us.

Answer 1

Im sorry hun but just remember you aren't in a relationship with the family just her. If they don't care for you so be it, if you's both love each other their comments wont affect the relationship at all apart from making it stronger.

Best wishes to you both.

Answer 2

So you're a homosexual couple? That's their problem right there. You and your partner may love each other and want to be together, but that doesn't mean they have to condone or agree with your lifestyle together.

On the other hand, however, they have no right to be treating you the way they have been. I'd have a talk with them and be very honest and straight forward. Tell them that you know they don't agree with your relationship, but the fact is that you two have been together for six years now, and you are a big part of each other's lives. Tell them they don't need to agree with your relationship because everyone can have their own opinions about things, but they should at least give you the respect you deserve. Their own son is in the relationship too, and if they disrespect you, they are disrespecting him too.

Answer 3

If they don't know you are a couple, then they can't dislike you because you are.
Is your partner out to his family? If not perhaps they think you are leading him astray? After 6 years I think you deserve to have some sort of answer from your partner, if he hasn't told his family about you, why not?
By the way, think you are a little paranoid about his baby sister, babies just cry at that age, especially around people they don't know or don't see that often.

Answer 4

If you guys have been a couple for 6 years, his parents most likely know it. Even though your partner has not come out or confessed his true relationship with you, the fact that you are around so much and no woman has been around, makes it easy for them to assume. I assume you guys have not revealed your relationship to your partners parents in fear of a bad reaction. This leads me to believe his parents may hold some ill will towards you, possibly because they believe you made their son gay. Its a small minded thought, but unfortunately a common one. They may believe if you weren't in their sons life, he may be able to find a woman, get married, give them grandchildren and "live a normal life." They may blame you for all of these things not happening for them. I believe the best solution is to come clean. Give them the respect enough to tell them the truth and give them a chance to learn how to accept you as their sons choice. Give yourselves the respect to live your life and demonstrate your love in public - you are doing nothing wrong. Once the dirty laundry is hung - it usually airs out. Good luck.

Answer 5

you are both guys? could it be they dont approve of any relationship he was in if it were the same sex?? they dont know you are a couple, so they see the 2 of you together, and probably assume you are together albeit he hasnt been truthful with them about it, this could be a cause of friction too, as for the baby, they pick up on when there is an atmosphere around them, this will come from the parents rather than you, he must sense it too, and, if he hasnt told them, its for a reason, you have to know what it is, you deserve to know too, talk to him, take it from there, good luck

Answer 6

they think if you were not around he would REVERT to being straight NO Ah so your Gay!
The family probably are projecting their guilt that their son is gay on to you, they should have accepted you by now , they think you turned him gay but he was that a long time before you met discuss it with your friend he must have noticed but thinks you are taking it in your stride .

He should be standing by your side as you are as good as married . The child is only picking up messages from those around it babies are very aware think about it it is a survival skill. Anyhow this family is very out of touch with trends I should infiltrate some gay propaganda a ( not pornography that my freak them out ) but news about the gay people in Showbiz etc and other walks of life .

As You see by my profile I think I can see whats happening

Answer 7

Give them some time to get use to it. No parent likes to let go of there child better yet to hand them over to someone else. Try and get them to get to know you better and I'm sure they'll come around. And babies ALWAYS cry so don't even worry about that. Hope this helps Good luck :)

Answer 8

First off, it's hard to accept a gay relationship when your children are concerned. Maybe they don't even know, maybe they suspect and are looking at you for making your partner this way. I know it sounds cruel, but people just don't understand that he was born this way, nobody made him out to be gay.
He needs to be honest with them. You as a partner need to encourage him to let them know what his relationship to you is. Tell him your feelings. Let him know it bothers you.
One very important aspect to a relationship is communication.
Communicate to him about how you feel and take if from there.
Good luck and God bless.

Answer 9

If I was in a relationship for 6 years and hadn't been introduced to the parents as a partner I'd be rethinking my relationship !

Answer 10

Don't take it personally. Read The Four Agreements by Miguel Ruiz. Read the chapter about not taking things personally. It will make you feel better.

You can read some of it on the website: www.miguelruiz.com