I've had for the past 2 years. I met this guy Drew back in May my boyfriend of 2 years and I had broken up because of a really bad fight. My boyfriend and I got back together soon after!
Once college let out I Drew and I started hanging out almost EVERY SINGLE DAY! I don't even realize sometimes how much the two of us hang out.
I have started to realize now that I'm seeing him more then my own boyfriend it's really bothering me! My boyfriend works a lot and Drew doesn't work as often so I see Drew more.
Drew has told me on many occasions he's interested in me but would never do anything because I have a boyfriend. I began to trust him and every time my boyfriend and I ended up in a fight I would go to him
2007-07-19 01:16:20 · 16 answers · asked by Pinkie221 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What bothers me is he got a hold of my diary and read all of it! He kept it for a few days without me knowing. I was and still am VERY
uncomfortable with that!
Every time I'm upset he goes around and blames my boyfriend. He tells EVERYONE how horrible my boyfriend is and how my whole family HATES my boyfriend.
He calls my boyfriend a druggie because he read some things about my boyfriend smoking pot!
Drew is coming on vacation with me and a few other friends. My boyfriend is on vacation with his buddies right now. My bf chose not to come on the vacation with me because he would still be with his friends!
2007-07-19 01:16:49 · update #1
Drew is having a trip to his beach house and refuses to let my boyfriend come along. He told me if my boyfriend wanted to see me that bad he would have come up to New York with us and it's his beach house his rules.
Drew will purposely flirt with me right in front of my boyfriend and everything! Every time we hang out Drew pays for me and does all the things I wrote about in my diary that my boyfriend sometimes forgets to do! It makes me feel uncomfortable!
Last night Drew just kissed me out of nowhere! He knows my boyfriend is on vacation and is trying even harder to tell me how bad he is and be like "O can't you see he doesn't like you that's why he's not coming" etc. etc. It's really starting to upset me!!!
Why is Drew doing this!!?
What's going on!!!
2007-07-19 01:17:16 · update #2
Drew is being a snake. He read your diary, full of your personal information and is using it to his advantage. He is telling the public about your personal life with your boyfriend and how "bad" it is. He is trying to weasel his way between you and your boyfriend. He's a conniving, sniveling, sneaky "friend" that needs to go. STOP hanging out with him if you love your current boyfriend. If not, you have a decision to make: Drew or single? But do not lead your boyfriend on when the real decision is Drew or no Drew...
But this guy is not acting like a friend. He's being a jerk. So stop encouraging it by continuing to see him and running to him during emotional episodes. Tell him to get lost.
2007-07-19 01:24:46 · answer #1 · answered by bluedevil1642 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think Drew is doing this all out of jealousy. It could be that he likes you a lot, but you kinda don't realize how much. I also think that Drew took your diary because, well--lets face it. Girls write everything in them, things they would never say. So I'm thinking maybe he did this to try and figure out more about you and your true opinions about certain matters.
I'm not quite sure what's going on with your boyfriend thought. But about the flirting, yeah he onl does that to see if he can get a row out of your boyfriend. Guys do it just to get at each other. Or so I believe. And yeah, since he read your diary he'll maybe use things he read against you, or do everything your boyfriend won't; because he's trying to prove that he's a better guy.
Just sit him down and tell him how you feel about him. Let him know that you're uncomfortable about the way he flirts with you, and they way he pays for everything. You really need to set him straight. If you don't he'll kep getting the worng impression and we both know you don't want that.
Tell him, that you do like him (as a friend) and even thought he may like you and your boyfriends not there doesn't give him the right to suddenly try something. Besides, isn't he the one that said he wouldn't do anything because you had a boyfriend?
I hope I helped; Good Luck!
2007-07-19 08:28:06 · answer #2 · answered by emily b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drew is doing all of this b/c he wants to you. I'm the BF that you have now is a good guy and you obviously still have feelings for Drew. Basically it's a win/win situation for you, but not for your current BF. I think that you want to be with Drew, but you do not want to hurt your BF. That makes sense and this has also happened to me. I told my ex that I am in a happy relationship and if he really loved me he would let me B. Now I have broken up with that guy and me and my ex are back together. Good luck I hope that it all works out for you. It is not going to be easy, but do what is going to make you fell right.
2007-07-19 08:25:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
but would never do anything because I have a boyfriend.
You said that, but then spent the rest of the paragraph saying the exact opposite. Obviously he will (and does) do things with/to you regardless of the fact that you have a boyfriend.
Why is he doing this?
Well, I don't mean to state the obvious but.. HE LIKES YOU. He's not only told you, but treated you like it... like you're already his girlfriend. He is trying to prove how he, and not your boyfriend, is the better man.
What should you do?
My advice would be to figure out who you like better: Drew or your boyfriend. If it's your boyfriend, then sit Drew down and set boundaries with him. Stop spending time with him! You have other friends... when you're bored go to them instead of Drew. Fill your time with a favorite activity instead of running to Drew. If Drew is unwilling to accept and follow the set boundaries, then you need to spend some time not seeing him... at all. Let the feelings die down.
However, if you decide you like Drew better, then you need to end your current relationship and start moving forward with Drew.
Best of luck.
2007-07-19 08:27:15 · answer #4 · answered by Jordan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whats he doing being a dipsh*it thats what...yea he has features that are good but deep down he is a dipsh*t...he seems controlling..reading somebody's diary is always a sure fire sign hes going to be crazy down the line...the boyfriend you have now maybe a little to laid back (theres no way i would not be with my girl on vacation) so that's kinda weird but at least you have the freedom to do what you want...do you want some psycho that's going to be all in your stuff..diary etc...and for drew to keep talking crap bout your man is just plain dumb...i would stick with ur b/f ..this guy drew seems like a stuck up punk to me
2007-07-19 08:34:01 · answer #5 · answered by R E I G N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drew is being like that because he cares about you. He wants the best for you. Your boyfriend is the exact opposite. He's putting you last and is doing more with his friends. You say you are fighting alot. It sounds like it's time to say goodbye to your boyfriend and hello to Drew.
2007-07-19 08:24:20 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what your doing is not fair to ur bf and drew needs to back the *** up. If u want drew go for drew but right now ur playing games with ur bf ...GROW UP
2007-07-19 08:22:31 · answer #7 · answered by Nanonan m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, tell drew that you dont want to be friends anymore because he is jeopardizing your 2 yeasr relationship w/ ur bf. Cut whatever you have with drew. Tell him to lave you alone, this boy sounds like trouble.
2007-07-19 08:23:18 · answer #8 · answered by Always you 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of Drew. He sounds like an asshole and if you trust him then he must have played you real good
2007-07-19 08:21:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
in my own opinion, Drew likes you and that's why he is doing that. he flirts you and do all the things just to make you his gf.. as i can see in your story, he tries and do things even if it is bad.. in short, she wants to steal you from your boyfriend.
2007-07-19 08:26:25 · answer #10 · answered by purple 'n pink girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋