Im a jelous type and i need help how change my personality!!!!?

Question

Im a jelous type and i usually hurt my girl becoz of my jelousy that sometimes I even tell her words that makes her cry but even though i made her cry, she stayed right through me and becaoz of this, I think I should change my attitude but i jst cant!!! i get jelous evrytym...plz help....

Answer 1

I was also a very jealous person. But I think I changed a little. I figure the reason why I'm jealous is because,

1. I love her very much
2. I have no confidence on myself to keep her by my side.
3. I do not trust my girlfriend

What I did is to talk to my girlfriend about my jealousy. Basically what I need is a lot of assurance from her and she agreed with me. So whenever I feel jealous, I just tell her. I may not feel good but with my girlfriend's help, I felt better and slowly, it became the norm.

So, what I can advise you is

1. Talk to your girlfriend about your problem. Tell her it's not that you want to be jealous, but it's a feeling which you can't control.

2. Trust your girlfriend. Your devil on your left side will tell you all the things that you see = your girlfriend is going to be unfaithful to you. But, let the angel on the right side speak louder. You have the power to control that.

3. Control yourself whenever you feel jealous. What happens when you feel jealous is that you will tend to do/say things which you will regret. So, try to control yourself. Perhaps the next day when you woke up, you will think differently.

Additional advice: if you face problems restraining yourself, you can get an accessory which you can use to remind yourself. I got myself a ring which I wore on my index finger. Whenever I got jealous, I just look at the ring and decides that I should cool myself off first.

Answer 2

Knowing that you should change your attitude towards her really shows how much you really care for her and shows that you are mature to understand that your girl is hurting because of your jealousy. Maybe you should think - Why do I get jealous? Do you trust your girl? After you answer these questions, if the answers is on a positive note, first apologise to her and try to resolve the issue together, keep the temper down listen to what she has to say, say your part and remember trust is everything. Don't argue, talk it out and most of all agree to disagree at times and leave space for making up. Hope it helps!

Answer 3

You can't really change it but you can control. If your girlfriend means that much to you then you shouldn't be so mean to her because she's hanging out or talking to some other guy. Does she even deserve this? How would you feel if you couldn't talk to any girl because your girlfriend was jealous? It's not fair how you make her feel sad or guilty for a dumb reason. If she is talking to a random guy, it doesn't mean that she's going to leave you for him (it's just so unrealistic.)

Just think about it, if you don't stop acting like this then she may really leave you for good.

Remember you are NOT her maker, she is not a puppet, so you can't control every little thing she says or does. She only wants to live her life and if you don't let her do that then she will feel regretful for even meeting you.

Answer 4

You can't change your personality but you can change your way of thinking and your way of reacting.

Jealousy is a natural human reaction that causes some of the worst pain. Put it in perspective.

You get jealous because you love your girl and think she is wonderful. Therefore you think that everyone else thinks of her in that way too. But that is not so, there is a special connection between the two of you that cannot be felt by just anyone.

When you start to get overcome with jealousy, remind yourself that 1-she is your special girl, 2-because of that you must show her love not jealousy, 3-no one has the connection with her that you do.

It is also perfectly acceptable to communicate with her when you start to feel this way. "honey, I think we should leave now because I am starting to feel jealous and don't want it to go any further." That way she knows that you care for her and that you are trying to make positive changes to protect her.

Good job asking for help!

Answer 5

You have to change how you look at things.

Being jealous and freaking out when your girl talks to another guy or whatever - it's not going to make her be closer to you - it's going to push her away. No one likes to be accused of something they didn't do - think of it that way.

Freaking out will not stop someone from cheating on you if they are a cheater. She either loves you or she doesn't - there is nothing you can do about it.

Try to have trust. Are you a cheater? Usually a cheater is more jealous because they know how THEY behave.

Answer 6

I did a 360 when I was in H.S.I'ts so stupid and it causes your relationship to end faster.Just keep an eye on her and her reactions to other men hot or not.you cant help guys flirting with them espeacially if there hot.its there responce that you need to look out for.if they participate in it then thats good cause then you know she is not the one to trust ever,and move on.If she flirts in front of you then god knows what she does alone.I lost someone special because of it and I changed and now my girl..wife I trust her around brad pitt naked,if something happens with em at leat it was there decision and you didnt push into it like i did.She'll one day if not already hate you for your jealousy trust me.I let my girl go and wear what ever she wants and it has changed for the better she loves me more because of the trust.Trust is sexy.If you truly love her..start now she'll love you more.people cheat more on jealousy than trust.trust stops it it cold.

Answer 7

start punching urself whenever u feel jelous. envy is not something to get rid of like and old car. u have to purge ur inner self. only until both the sides are in equilibrium then can u know and balance ur emotions.
if this make no sense to you then start punching urself everytime u feel envious. or purge that ego the size of kingkong from u.

Answer 8

You can, you just have to try harder. If you really love your girlfriend, you have to trust her more and you would never want to hurt her nor make her cry. Build up your self confidence. Dont wait for the day that your gf can't take the hurt anymore.

Answer 9

I'm a jealous type too. Try to keep your feelings in. Your lucky that you two talk, if I'm jealous, I just ignore him...very bad. So I guess just try not to say as many bad things and just keep cool.

Answer 10

because i can only write a limited amount i would jus say e-mail me but overall If you are really jealous like I am, jus tell her that and if she cant accept that then you need to move on to sum1 who can deal with your differences. Here my e-mail is [e-mail], jus dont abuse her like shes the problem because eventually she will dump you.