2007-07-18 23:09:35 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we have been dating for a year
but he never allow me to answer his calls.then i find out that he is cheating
with a local musician.but if he sees me with male friend he jump to conclution.
and end up hitting me. he claims he love me.
2007-07-18 23:17:38 · update #1
Sorry hun....only he can do that I'm afraid.
You could however suggest he goes' along with you to couple counselling & maybe try to get to the bottom of why he cheats on you (don‘t make the mistake of assuming it‘s something you‘re doing wrong in order for him to cheat).....if you both work through that together, then he MAY decide to change his behaviour. Staying with a cheat however.......brings up more issues on your behalf concerning trust within your relationship.
Only you know how far you wish to continue with this. There's no guaranties though that he'd even want to go to counselling. We can't force others to behave how we want them to.
2007-07-18 23:20:50 · answer #1 · answered by Funky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men are going to cheat no matter what. They just do not have it in them to be faithful. If you have accepted this kind of treatment from him, then he knows he can do it and you will be there. So therefore you have taught him how to treat you. This is not acceptable behavior. You have to love yourself first and know in your heart that you deserve to be treated better before you can expect anyone else to love you or treat you better. You need to rid yourself of him like yesterdays trash and not look back. Don't make yourself availiable to him. He will promise you the moon but he will never deliver. Be strong and get him out of your life. He will try to win you back over because it will be a pride thing. Don't do it, hold your ground. Tell him, you might not think much of me but I do and I deserve better than what your giving. Put the shoe on the other foot and hurt him the way he has hurt you and let him know how it feels. If you take him back, next week, next month, he will still treat you the same way he has been doing because he knows you will take him back no matter what. It might be the hardest thing you have ever done but it's something that needs to be done for your own peace of mind. Do not even give him a clue that it bothers you so much or he will pick up on that and try to break your determination. Life is too short to be miserable. There is someone out there who will appreciate you and give you the love and respect that you deserve. It will be this fellows loss not yours. With time it will get easier to move on. Stay tough, hang in there and know in your heart that you defently deserve better.
2007-07-18 23:33:44 · answer #2 · answered by Sidney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This loser has just got worse by the sounds of things. Double standards or what!? You dont need someone who treats you like that, hitting is not on I mean I would get straight out of a violent relationship. You're faithful to a right nasty man I cant even call him a man thats low it can get, hes evil how could you put yourself through that? I know you can become attached after a year but please for your sakes get rid because you cant stop a cheater unless you dump him and move on.
2007-07-18 23:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by a beautiful lie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I don't think u'll ever stop him cheating.
Some ppl just can't help themselves... it's all part of the adreneline rush.
If he's hitting u then u really need 2 reconsider if u want him... personally I would say just dump the cheating git! No-one has the right to hit u and scum like don't deserve 2b with anyone.
2007-07-18 23:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by soulessjam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A cheater will always be a cheater. You cannot stop him from cheating. Anyway, why would you want to be with someone who is cheating? A cheater does not respect you for who you are. You are special and deserve better. Seek and you will find but only by asking God.
2007-07-18 23:25:39 · answer #5 · answered by Sharkman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy. Wake up and smell the roses and leave him. That way he is not cheating on you anymore. :)
P.S. If you know the guy is cheating on you don't stay there and let it happen. Have more self respect for yourself and realize that the relationship is already dead for him. He doesn't give a damn about your feelings anymore. He is already single in his mind. You are the one that is holding onto the ashes here. So let go.
2007-07-18 23:13:49 · answer #6 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hes cheating on you and hitting you. Thats the worst kind of man you can get. Dump his sorry *** - he's a loser. Any man that raises a hand to his girlfriend or wife is not worthy of your love.
2007-07-18 23:33:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be with someone who's got no respect for you, someone who gets his kicks out of hurting you and is violent towards you. Do yourself a favour and give the guy the heave-ho and find someone who will treat you right, best of luck.
PS: DON'T BE HIS DOOR MATT
2007-07-18 23:36:46 · answer #8 · answered by hans m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is abusing you emotionally and physically and you are still here asking how you could stop him from cheating? You dont - you leave his *** to do what it enjoys and get an interdict against him.
Come on, you can do better than him.
2007-07-18 23:24:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you with some one that hits you get out of there especially if he is cheating on you he obviously don't love you i would kick his *** to the curb
2007-07-18 23:31:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋