Until yesterday I was with a girl for almost 5 months...I'm 18 and she is 16.....Last few weeks we were slowly losing our attractions until we decided that we can be in a "open" relationship(we could see other ppls),and she said she would like to be with a guy,and first i taught i don't care but than i've realized i do...and i can't share her with other peoples,and she had that guy in mind for long time(and she always talked about him when were talking by the phone or see each other),it was just breaking my heart step by step...so I've decided to break up with her,at least I'll keep my dignity and i would recover from it faster( i think) did i do the good thing when i broke up with her,or i should share her? This is the first time some girl broke my heart and i feel terrible,dissapointed....
thank you :)
2007-07-18 22:52:53 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I think you did the right thing. There is no such thing as sharing a person... she'd only end up getting confused and probably end up hurting everyone in the end. So you did the right thing. I hope your heart heals soon, and you find your true love.
2007-07-18 22:56:43 · answer #1 · answered by ravenna_wing1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u did the right thing to break up with her...u would of gotten hurt in any case if u 2 were still together and she saw sumone else. U cant share someone. thats just wrong. and if u shared her it would of always been stuck in ur mind that she was with another guy. the relationship would of never been the same again. U may feel terrible now but time is a good healer. U will get over her even if it takes longer than u think. Just hang in there and let her be with the guy she was talking about so long. She will soon realise that the grass isnt always greener on the other side. Let go of her and get someone who will want to be with u and u only.
Good luck
2007-07-19 06:01:14 · answer #2 · answered by tinkabel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to tell u this but she has been cheating on u. If it was the other way around and u had another girl i doubt she would have been so okay with the whole open relationship thing. Open relationships never work. U should break up with her and find someone else who only wants to be with u!!! Relationships are supposed to bring u joy and happiness and not make u miserable and heart broken!!!! U seem like a nice guy so cut ur losses and move on.
2007-07-19 06:02:51 · answer #3 · answered by Stacey-Lee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing for sure. I mean rather you were going to have a open relationship or not it sounds like your ex was pining away for this guy for a while now. I mean even if you hadn't suggested an open relationship, I think she would have snuck off with him at a party and you would have heard from someone that she ended up doing something with the guy. Besides look on the bright side she is like a young kid. You are a grown man, you can date chicks in their 20s and such. Who may have a bit more of a grasp on being up front with you about their feelings for someone else. As for the ex she is still young and think its so very cool to hop from guy to guy like that. And clearly rub it in a bf's face about someone else she likes. You need to find someone better. Much better. Never doubt being a man for getting out of a bad situation. You get snaps from me kid for sure. ;)
2007-07-19 05:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she was talking about that guy, she already had a relationship with him. You can not go back to how it was before, even if you decide you can share her with someone.
He doesn't really want you, and was probably aware your heart will be broken, so she did it step by step. Maybe she cares for you as a friend.
2007-07-19 06:06:56 · answer #5 · answered by boyplakwatsa.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, break up with her, because it's obvious she is more attracted to the other guy than you. I know it sucks and it hurts but you WILL get over it and find someone else. You are still young and you are going to experience more than one break up in your life. And don't do the whole "open" relationship thing unless BOTH of you are emotionally prepared to deal the OTHERS.
2007-07-19 06:00:27 · answer #6 · answered by sirkusrock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you feel hurt about all this but please know now that if you feel that you would not like to share her then dont. it is good to be in an open relationship as long as the feeling is mutual among both parties. if you take her back and tell her its ok to see other people when you dont really mean it then it will only hurt you more. do not drag this on. you will find someone else out there.
2007-07-19 05:59:13 · answer #7 · answered by SecretSquirrel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by letting her go. You're not sharing her anymore, she's just somebody else's now.
if she had her mind totally wrapped up with somebody else and not you, all she could've done is hurt you more. I'm glad you let her go, so you can heal and find a girl who is more mature and right for you. :)
2007-07-19 06:04:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this open relationship thing is very dicey and can lead to serious relationship problems if both the partners are not as enthusiastic about it and are not capable of finding other partners easily. then one partner ends up enjoying him/herself and the other partner becomes bitter.
if i were you, i'd communicate to her that i was interested in a monogamous relationship. and if she's not keen on it, i'd respect her feelings and break-off.
all the best,
2007-07-19 06:01:42 · answer #9 · answered by kaiwan58 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bro same thing happened to me too, its better you keep your distance from her before she breaks your heart . Find someone who is crazy about you, and propose to marry her.
2007-07-19 06:33:31 · answer #10 · answered by s2a_s3z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋