How would you feel if your boyfriend kept putting the phone down on you?

Question

My boyfriend of nearly 5 years continually puts the phone down on me if he does not agree with something i say, or if I start to disagree about something or remotely sound as if I am about to ask him something he does not want to answer or if I am not happy about something.I never know if I will be able to contact him the next day, sometimes it has been days before he starts talking again. I have told him how unhappy I am with him doing this and he promised to stop but he has broken his promise and keeps doing it.

Answer 1

The problem is, he's not just doing that, is he? He's also leaving you alone at a festival and is reluctant to come fetch you when you're lost...
This is not just a matter of bad phone ettiquette...
I think you should think long and hard about how many more q's you should ask about advice on Y! and start acting according to what your heart is saying...I think you know what that is...

Answer 2

my bf used to stop talking when we had an argument or when i was angry because he didnt want to make things worse and wanted to let things calm down before we get into a huge fight... for me thats even more nerve breaking.. so i explained that id rather fight with him and at the end find a solution instead of keeping silent until things are calm because they wont... i think he understands that now so we try to solve our problems through conversation.. maybe ur bf is doing the same thing.. maybe he doesnt want things to go rly bad so he tries to end it before it even starts.. just talk with him and tell him that u r willing to sit down and listen to all he's go to say even if it's against what u believe... explain that u want to talk things over when the 2 of u r not doing good... also that if u dont solve a problem when it comes up then it will keep getting bigger and bigger and there will be no space for solution at the end...try both of u to be calm and dont start nagging and being very sensitive as we girls tend to do.. try to be understanding and explain logically why and what u do not like in ur relationship...

i hope this works...

best of luck

Answer 3

id feel pretty mad. i know you have been with him for a long time but he will never change no matter how many times he says he will. he is afraid of conflict and doesnt like to hear his downfalls that you point out to him. it makes him feel less of a person therefore he puts the phone down because if he doesnt hear you then its not real. instead of talking to him about it on the phone try in person and if he still keeps doing it then i suggest you try a different approach. perhaps saying what ever you want to say in a different aspect or tone of voice. make him feel as though you are helping him rather then yelling at him or point out his short commings..

good luck to you.

Answer 4

He is immature. He needs to grow up. After all these years of you two being together. Communication is key & no matter who he is with, he'll have to endrue the same things with them. I would feel very bad if my bf left me hanging like that. Making me feel that my emotions or feelings are unimportant and then the next day, maybe not hearing from him would bug me..I don't know that we would have made it 5 years, lol..I have a low tolerance for foolishness & having my feelings stepped on when I'm always offering my shoulder..

Answer 5

I had an gf who used to do this, it's a way of ending an argument where they think they are losing and it's extremely annoying.

I would avoid over the phone arguments as much as possible and put your foot down, tell him you WILL NOT ACCEPT him doing this again, next time he ends the conversation like this he ends your relationship.

Answer 6

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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

Answer 7

there are a few possibilities. first, he did this because he wanted to avoind further quarrel or fighting with you....he wana control his temper or wana stop both of you from continuing to quarrel and end up with a big mess. Second, mayb he was a bit fed up with you, or his ego was too high. but anyway. communication is a key success to successful relationship, tell him tat u really love him and will be very hurt if u didnt hear from him for a few days.

Answer 8

My first thought is to tell him to grow up. My second is why do you put up with it? Lastly, why don't you ask these questions in person if you already know ahead of time what he will do. Good luck with that. (Sorry I can't help you more-but I would be furious if the guy I was with (my hubby) did this to me and he'd probally hear about it when he got home.)

Answer 9

This is really annoying when it happens, so you must be really fed up if he does it all the time. He's immature, we all need to get along with other people even if we don't agree with them.
Do you want to be with him for the rest of your life? If not, then I would consider whether he's worth it.

Answer 10

Tell him straight that you're not gonna put up with it anymore!It's not fair that he keeps doing it to you, and next time he asks you something or says something to you that you don't wana hear......hang up on him.I'm sure he won't like it at all!Give him a bit of his own medicine!Stick up for yourself girl!!! Good luck!