Does true love really exist?

Question

Between a man and a woman I mean. Not between family and friends. And please don’t say love will happen to me, as I think that is a load of crap. I mean if it hasn’t happened to me at my age, then chances aren’t that good it’s going to happen now.

Answer 1

Tend to agree ....
Had dozens of girlfriends/relationships over the years,
few times figured it was ' True Love '
There were of course those girls who thought I was their 'True love' ... but I had to admit I liked, rather than loved them ...
Not till my daughter was born that I understood True Love ...
Totally different to anything else I experienced, so unless your lucky enough to hook up with that not special, but extra special person, who feels as you do, [ which I imagine is about as likely as winning a lottery ] then I agrree with your last sentence !

Answer 2

True love is man made. We are animals at the end of the day. We experience all sorts of different feelings, and in my opinion, the reason "true love" might not be so apparent is because as mammals, we are not meant to be monogamous. We are genetically engineered to make as many babies / have as many sexual partners as possible. We were made to reproduce, not made to love, essentially.

However, even though i take this perspective, i do belive in true love. Real, unbelieveable, soul shaking, even scary love does exists, but its all about timing. Two people need to be in the right frame of mind and in the right circumstances to let love happen. It is clearly quite rare that both are ready, and indeed willing to fall in love at the same time.

This is why you get men falling in love with women who might not want it back and therefore you get this whole mixed up perception of what a 'woman' is. Or, on the other hand, a woman falling head over heels in love for a man, who just isnt quite ready to give his all to her, even though he knows she will make his life complete, he still wishes to have his 'fun' whatever that may mean.

May i ask you a question, when was the last time you told a woman that you loved her, and truly meant it, and it was easy to say, and you knew she would say it back? How many times have you held back from saying i love you - knowing it will change the situation into something it doesn't need to be? Why are we so scared of the L word, when everyone needs to be loved in some way, shape or form?

I belive you may have found love, true love, but it may have slipped through your fingers without you even realising.

Answer 3

Yes, absolutely, true love does exist. The thing about love is, it's TWO people, meaning you are responsible for at least 50%. Though you can't make it happen, you can control the way you react and behave while with the one you want to love, and through your actions you can (to an extent) create that love.
If you're feeling too old to be wondering about it, then maybe you need to do a little introspection and figure out what it is about you that is creating that roadblock?

Answer 4

well what age are you? I always thought I would never find someone, and so did my now boyfriend, but we found each other on myspace. I wasn't even really looking. He thought he was too old(26, now going on 27) and I just thought no one would want me cause I'm kinda odd. I think the saying that as soon as you stop looking, you'll find someone is true because it happened to me and him...we had both given up looking for someone and then we found each other. Hope this helps a little bit :) It just takes time and patience....I do believe that everyone has someone out there for them...they just have to be patient.

Answer 5

Love will happen to you. All you have to do is believe... LOL!!!!! just kiddin. I dont know whats gonna happen to you.

but i do know that true love does exist. the problem is that people think there is ONE special person for them... which is definitely a load of crap.

people also have a messed up view of what love really is. LOVE IS NOT PERFECT. it doesn't happen effortlessly like a Drew Barrymore, Huge Grant movie. in real life crap happens and bullshi* comes up and you must be willing to work for love. because it is worth having. lazy people never find love. lazy people leave something as necessary and important as LOVE to CHANCE.

if you were hungry and thirsty would you ask... "do food and water really exist? i mean really good healthy food. not just rations that are handed to you".

but in comparison, that's how true love between a man and woman is. you can get by with the love of family and friends (rations) but nothing is as good as a big ***, juicy, melt in your mouth piece of steak. and that's what true love is.

after i found my wife... there is no going back for me. and the same will be for you... unless you leave it to chance and try to find love with whatever psycho-b i t c h comes your way.

If you dont believe anything i've written today, believe this. FINDING LOVE IS UP TO YOU. so... are you gonna work for it or just keep feeling bad for yourself???

Answer 6

I don't know how old you are, but with that attitude no wonder you haven't found 'true love'. You think finding love is crap and will never happen to you. As long as you think that way, it will never happen.

Change your thinking to "It hasn't happened - yet", instead of "It will never happen". Then when you get used to the idea of "It hasn't happened - yet".... change your thinking to "It will happen someday soon", and then "I'm expecting it at any time"....
You'll be surprised at how your thoughts actually control what you attract into your life.

I don't believe in true love, as far as the whole "soul mates" thing goes. I don't believe that we have "soul mates" that are destined to be our spouces.
I also don't believe that "true love" happens once in a lifetime, with one person, and then never again. Real true love happens when two people love and respect each other and think only of the other person's best interests.

Answer 7

I think it does exist. Seriously. I'm not just one of those girls who will naively say that "I'm in love." I was actually arguing to one of my friends about how it doesn't happen to everybody and how it's too powerful to be said simply and without meaning it. Too many people say they are in love just when they have a 'crush' on somebody. With true love, it's just like this amazing connection with somebody that develops and progresses over time. But it definitely exists. It just has be...worked for, I guess. I don't think age really matters. How old are you now anyway?

Answer 8

sure, true love might never happen to you. if you're saying, that quite literally, a truthful, proper, bon fide love seems unrealistic, then you've got the same attitude as me about a year ago. i was so cynical, so very cynical, but then i finally ,met someone...and well, im still cynical. but slowly its seeming to me that this could actually be love, and not just a relationship where one person wants gain out of the other.
and people find love at all sorts of ages. and if you never do, then so what? if your family and friends all have significant others, then go to singles clubs and meets and such.
you may not find true love, but at least you'll be with other single people, so you wont feel left out, and you'll be with people who feel the same way.
and to be fair, my friends grandmother went into what was basically an arranged marriage with someone she didnt even like, eventually got divorced and escaped, and has just married her perfect man at the age of 60.

also, stop looking for someone. it works, trust me.

Answer 9

Well, yes, it does.
Unfortunately until you get hit by it it's damn hard to believe it could even exist, never mind involve you at some point.
think of it like ghosties, UFOs, God and lottery winners - until you have some experience of it, everyone's going to to be sceptical!
In your situation, the best advice I could give is just try and believe that it's there for now, and have some hope - it's better than dismissing it altogether!

And for the record, it's never too late.

Good luck!

Answer 10

Hey Adam,
sorry to ask, but what's your age? Couldn't find it in your profile. As for the answer to ur question, I do believe it exists... and I was extremely reluctant to believe in such things... my family is all made up of divorced couples, so I couldn't imagine that true love existed... but then someone wonderful came into my life and made me change my opinion. I'd move the world for him if he asked me... just to make him happy. Never stop looking for your true love, it might appear any minute right in front of you.
Hope it helps,