is that ok...how do i find healing...lately i havent been able to eat..sleep...his sister is pregnant too..was only 4 months ahead of mine and his other sister 2 more months ahead of her...is so depressing going over to her house and hang out...i cant even be around other kids..its too depressing for me..i hate it..and the sad thing for me is that i absolutely love children...what do you think? i feel so alone!!!
2007-07-18 20:01:34 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I know how you feel. I also lost a child. Talking about it helped me heal. I talked to my husband about it, my family and friends. I wrote about it all the time!! If you want someone to talk to you can email me and I would be more than willing to listen to you. It really helps to talk about it. I'm so sorry for your loss. And the name sounds great.
2007-07-18 20:08:27 · answer #1 · answered by I smile because of them ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that Solomon David is a beautiful name. You do whatever you need to help in the healing process. I am truly sorry for your loss. Ask your obgyn, or doctor's office if there are any support groups in your area, for parents who have lost a child. Talk to your doctor about your depression as well. In time you will heal. You have just got to get all your feelings out, and be positive. In time you too will have a baby. Think of it this way, for however long you were pregnant, you got to have that child for that amount of time. Think positive in that you were blessed to experience any moment you had with that pregnancy. As long as the doctor gives you the okay later, try again to have a baby. Sometimes a miscarriage is your body's way of telling you that something was wrong. It was not your time to have a child. You have two other women in your life that are going to have children. By the time those babies get here you may feel better. Well enough to hold, cuddle, and coo at those precious children. They can help you heal in more ways than you know right now. Again, I am very sorry for your loss. If there is anytime you want to contact me feel free!
Good luck to you, and you will be in my thoughts :)
2007-07-18 20:12:06 · answer #2 · answered by omorris1978 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it sounds like a strong name. It is ok to feel that way. I lost a baby too. I felt so bad, I already have a daughter and she wanted to be with me as if she knew and tried to comfort me and for the first two days I didnt want to be around her, I know sounds bad. I just needed sometime then I realize I was lucky to have her. I know your case is different but we both lost and you need to deal with these feelings. It has been 5 months for me and I still cry once in a while about it. Time does heal all wounds because I felt a lot worse then than I do now. It may seem that you never will get through and part of that is true because when you think about it you will feel sad but the pain is not as strong. Talk with your BF tell him to just listen to you and comfort you or talk to someone you trust. Beleive me communications will help you a great deal. I wish you the best in your future and keep your head up you will get through.
2007-07-26 13:50:42 · answer #3 · answered by Lizbeth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's okay. I can't imagine how you must feel. Devastation is probably an understatement. If naming your baby helps you, name him and maybe put something in your house that reminds you of him (like a candle or a plant or a picture of what you did when you first found out you were pregnant) and let that be your little special item to remember him by. In a little while you can start trying again and just view your sister-in-law and sister as reminders that you too will hopefully soon be pregnant like them, but not until you're ready. Don't depress yourself if you don't have to.
2007-07-18 20:12:41 · answer #4 · answered by Precious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am so sorry to hear that had a miscarriage. I do suggest that you seek some counseling as it may help you with the sad feelings. Maybe, joining a support group may help you... I am sure there are website on the internet. Soloman David sounds like a wonderful name and it's indeed a strong name.
2007-07-18 21:33:20 · answer #5 · answered by KAM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a beautiful and strong name. I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't have much advice, but I had a rare traumatic pregnancy problem. I've found that talking to others have been through it is a big help.
Maybe you can find or someone here can recommend a good on-line support group for those who have lost a child?
As they say, time is the greatest healer. It will be hard for you for some time. Allow yourself time to grieve.
Take care!
2007-07-18 20:08:46 · answer #6 · answered by yourhonour63 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes that sounds like a wounderful for your son.
i lost 2 of my children before we know what we were having.
there is always going to be a void in your life.
it will always be painful and hurt. ALWAYS.
as the days go on the pain will ease and become barable.
and remembering Baby Solomon is in Gods arms and safe.
Keep his memory alive. set a toy or blanket aside just for him.
I get very depressed around the anni and the due date.
2007-07-23 15:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by monkie_jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry of what happened. It sounds very sad but you should think of the possibilities for the future and if you are to have another. And if you are concerned about repitition then adopt. Dont let anythink keep you from being a mother!
Bless
~D
2007-07-18 20:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by Z 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
am so sorry u lost ur baby thats a lovely name to call him and it will be hard to be round plp with children and his sister it grieving progress it will take time and u never forget solomon i will u all the best in the furture and take care god bless u
2007-07-18 20:11:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋