The man I have feelings for does not have romantic feelings for me "at this time". He said it doesnt mean ever, just not right now; he is NOT ready for a relationship. He loves me as a friend and loves our friendship. He doesnt want me to wait for him, he wants me to date other men. But my heart wont let me think of another man. How do I step back & switch to friend mode when my heart is in love mode? Ive never been through this before where the guy wants to stay friends. How do I deal? Is it possible and realistic to think that we can just be friends? Thanks in advance for your words of wisdom! : )
2007-07-18 19:37:30 · 4 answers · asked by tied together with a smile 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be yourself...no matter what be yourself!!
If you are too busy being totally gaga for him and treating him as a crush and not a friend he may get annoyed and never like you more than a friend.
so just be yourself and over time see what happens =]
The best relationships come out of a wonderful friendships.
good luck! =]
2007-07-26 11:57:02 · answer #1 · answered by Laura the explorer! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You continue to be a friend, by being there when they need you and just by not putting pressure on them to be more than a friend. A lot of people have a hard time being able to commit themselves to a relationship when there has always been more important things in their lives (family, education, career, etc.).
You sound like an individual who would have a lot of guys wanting to have a relationship, if only they had the opportunity to get to meet you. Do you have very many "social" circles where there are eligible males to get to know? If not then you need to expand the "playing" field. Church is always a good place to meet others, but there are lots of other clubs and groups which provide interesting settings to talk and get to exchange ideas. The more interactions you have with members of the other sex the more comfortable you will become at meeting "new" people. And there are always friends who can "arrange" for you to meet up with their friends to help you become more comfortable.
It's a big scary world, but there are many "nice" people looking for some one to love. You just need to start "crossing" more paths to start finding potential relationships.
2007-07-26 08:59:23 · answer #2 · answered by Randy C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one.
And, while i wish i had an answer - i`m sort of in a reverse situation.
I have this nice ladyfriend who i`d like to be more than just a friend - how do i proceed?
With this case - i think the best way is to try and force yourself to take some distance.
Look at what is going on closely, and try to find out WHY you love him - and if you can find out why he does not love you (as more than a friend).
Personally the "i don`t have romantic feelings at this time" excuse sounds lame to me.
Wish i could give more advise.
Good luck.
2007-07-18 19:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by U_S_S_Enterprise 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's one way of letting you down easy If I love a guy a want a guy to love me 10 times more than I love him.just be his friend and don't expect him to be more than that find someone that expect you to love them
2007-07-25 16:00:27 · answer #4 · answered by @NGEL B@BY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋