I'm thinking about leaving 2 closest persons in my life?

Question

First, my wife. She's mean and treats me like an unwelcome dog. She constantly insults me and tells me I'm stupid.

Second, Jesus. I have served and tried to have faith. I read in the Bible, just ask and it will be given. Well, looks more like it's being taken away to me. I'm thinking I'd rather burn in Hell than live in it.

Love to hear opinions from all faiths/beliefs.

Answer 1

If you believe in Jesus, you believe in him, simple as that. I'm agnostic so I don't believe in Jesus. Your beliefs are like your shadow, no matter how far you run, they'll always be there.

Answer 2

I'm so sorry about your wife. Does she claim to be a believer? It sounds like you need some counseling from a pastor.
That verse is taken out of context all the time. God is not some cosmic genie at our beck and call. Your prayers are always answered...sometimes it is yes, and sometimes no. Just because you ask for something does not mean that you will get it. It may not be God's will for you life at that moment.
Jesus never promises that being a Christian will be easy. In fact He says the opposite. He was persecuted, and His followers as well.
The whole health, wealth and prosperity movement is deceiving Christians. They say that if you aren't getting all these things then you aren't having enough faith. This simply isn't true.
Think about what you're saying...you'd rather burn in Hell. Do you really mean that? Light your hand on fire and see how quickly you try and put it out! =) A little humor there, but seriously, you sound in great need of encouragement. Are you attending a good church and surrounding yourself with like-minded believers? You need that fellowship.
Don't leave your wife. Unless she's committed adultery, or an unbeliever unwilling to be married to you, you aren't permitted to leave her. Work it out. It's hard, I know!! Be encouraged.

Answer 3

Your wife...if she's awful to you than good for you, honey.

Jesus... have faith, honey. He's leading you away from the negative in your life and good things will be given in their place. Things that will fill you more than the things he's taking away ever could. I'm Catholic, but I'm aslo a spiritual person. My life has not been easy, in any way shape or form and my gifts (I'm an empathic medium/spiritual healer) have sometimes felt like a curse. But I see the direction of my life slowly changing. I'm losing the stuff that was bad for me in the first place and filling it with better things. But it's not an easy task. But then again, nothing worth it ever was. Least that's what i'm telling myself. Because if I give up, the negativity wins, and that will happen when I'm dead and buried. Period. Hang on, honey. I've found also in my life that the times I feel the most alone are the times when he's too close to notice him as different than myself. Ever wonder, through all the negative, what keeps you going? For me, I'm positive it's Him.

Answer 4

Marriage has its ups and downs. you should try counseling with your minister or maybe he or she can recommend christian counseling. this really helped my marriage. but it was really God working in my life and my spouse's life. God has created guidelines for married people to live by. If we do not follow them, then marriages end ruined and in divorce. Most importantly do not leave Jesus. Think about something amazing or happy he has done in your life. He will repeat the blessing and he will bless your marriage as time goes by. Open your heart to him. It is just not about asking and asking. Let him do his will and be strong in your faith. Do not give up and do not give up on Jesus. If you are a christian you know divorce is not an option unless adultery has been committed. Hell is not a place where you will have a peaceful eternal life. In hell you will have eternal misery. Probably 1000x more than what your are living right now.

Answer 5

Have you considered taking a 2nd honeymoon together? Or taking some time off away from each other for a few weeks or months to think the situation over and redefine/readjust your priorities, values or objectives?

Regarding your faith, I'm not sure I can really help you, except to say that without religion it is possible to have a rich spiritual life. I hope you both get through the night, and may you soon have bright days.
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Answer 6

I'm so sorry for you. Have you tried talking to a counselor? Do you have a church? Talk to your pastor.. Please don't make an ETERNAL decision based on temporary problems. Hell will NOT be a nice place.
Remember, there were many in the Bible that continued on in their faith even when their prayers weren't answered right away. Abraham, Joseph, Paul, just to name a few. God's timing isn't the same as yours. And, incidentally, He's also NOT Santa Claus! He's God, and He doesn't owe any of us anything. Instead of thinking about what you think He hasn't done for YOU, try thinking about what you can do for HIM.

You just called Jesus one of the 2 closest persons in your life? Well, He should be THE closest. Would anyone else have died for you?

Answer 7

Time to man up chief. Why would your wife insult for no reasons? What did you do? There are ususally two sides to a story like this. After all no one is perfect. So figure out you can improve yourself, then start a dialogue with your wife. Discuss the way you feel about whats going on, then talk about the roots of her anger towards you. Enough of this blame game. Time to take some responsibility and work things out. This is your wife afterall.

Answer 8

If you have faith, then you may realize that perhaps Satan is tearing apart your marriage (your life) and using your wife to get this accomplished. Although you have God in your life, he gave you two arms, two legs and a brain to work things out. You seem so much in dispair and I sympathize with you. Give your wife some ultimatums. Tell her this stops or it's over!

Was your wife "mean" when you married her? Perhaps she doesn't like what she is doing but can't stop. Will she consent to speaking (together with you) to a minister or marriage counselor? Is she physically ill or stressed out?

If it comes down to it, then leave, but consider all, if any consequences. Do you have children? How will this affect them? How is it affecting them now? What does your family think about your wife?

I hope it works out for you. It is late and I am tired and probably not giving my best answers to you, but I hope those who have answered have some other, better ideas for you. God bless!

Answer 9

It's your final choice to disown anyone or religion if they give no satisfaction at all. However you have to consider the consequences and dissatisfaction of leaving your children, other relatives and good Christian friends behind? I t would take a lot to rebuild, you know what i mean?

Therefore to quit after a long while, esp after 25-50 hrs of being acquainted with both,is a big, life-time sacrifice. Unless it is just a couple of years. But first, consult close friends, relatives whose advice may even be better than ours here on Y!A, as we have less facts and info to work on.

One last tip--- if you are married with children and the latter cannot influence or change your wife, be patient and wait for a potential grand child who just may have the power to do so. Sometimes a smart 3-5yr old may give her a piece of her mind and bring her to reality.

I wish you tolerance, patience, happiness and a good long life!

Answer 10

You should see a counselor. This is no time to be making drastic decisions about your marriage and faith. If you do decide to get a divorce and to leave christianity you must do both gradually and not out of anger. Good luck.

Answer 11

Looks like you are under attack from Satan...time to rely on God not turn your back on him. Even when we do not think he is there He is, right now you may not know or feel it, but He is carrying you, and no matter what you chose He will never put you down. It is time to open the door all the way (not just a little) and let Him in....Are you and your wife praying together daily...are you being the Spiritual head of the household that God has told you to be? Before you turn your back on Him, give your life over to him fully and let Him show you what He can really do...Praise Him in this time of pain and confusion, it is hard but you can do it. If your wife is treating you this way, pray for her....and ask the Lord to help you forgive her for her behavior (I know it is really hard because no one deserves to be treated this way)..This could be God's way of saying stop relying on your wife to fill this void, and START relying on Me to fill the void....The Lord is our ultimate mate, for men and women and we are supposed to rely on Him not our spouses...He will never make you feel unwelcomed, he will never tell you that you are stupid or be mean to you...but you have to turn it over to him. God wants to Bless you, and you are worth letting him bless...Get in a good church, get praying and reading his word, and let the blessings come to you.

I know because I turned my back on him for ten years, and you think you'd rather live in Hell. Well Tim, Hell can be found right here on Earth trust me I found it.... and now that I am out of it I Never want to go back...God will and Can Bless you. You just have to be willing to listen and live the life he has called us to live...it is scary and it is not always fun, but it sure as heck beats the alternative.