i dont know how to accept this but i just found out my dad died. he just got in a car accident and im not allowed to go to the hospital or anything i have to sit here and cry. so does anyone have anything that can cheer me up... well maybe it will work a little.
2007-07-18 18:44:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
When a person has just passed, they are still hanging around. Sometimes they are confused, sometimes they are worried about loved ones they have left behind. Most stay for their funerals.
What helps them most, if for the people who loved them to think of the good times they had together. Ask your angels to help you send a message to your father. Pray that he did not suffer any pain, and that he will find peace.
Let him know what he meant to you. You can even write those things down, then burn the paper and as the smoke rises, know the message is rising to meet him.
You can keep busy and help your mother. It's going to be tough for her too. There will be lots of people in the house that will drop by, so if she needs some help cleaning, that will give you a chance to work out some of your frustration.
Write down some of your happiest memories about your father to tell at the funeral. He will like that. Let him know that you will miss him, but you are going to make him proud.
Grief is very hard. No two people grieve the same.
Call here for someone to talk to:
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Blessings to you.
I've asked my angels to check on you.
Alex
2007-07-18 18:54:26 · answer #1 · answered by Alex 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can only say that it is healthy for you to grieve. It is part of the healing process. Something that has been found helpful, as the days go by, is creating a memory book. You can draw and write about things that remind you of your dad. You will soon realize that there are a lot of good memories and perhaps that will cheer you up a little. In the long run, looking at the book can cheer you up a lot.
2007-07-18 19:12:22 · answer #2 · answered by kayakyen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Izzy -
There are some phone calls you can make that will help you get through this hard time.
Call a relative or close friend or neighbor and ask them to spend the night at your house so you won't be alone.
Call, or have someone you know call a minister to help you and your family. (Most hospitals have a Chaplain on call. You can ask the hospital to have them call you)
If you have no one, you can call a crisis hotline and they will listen.
You may find comfort if you will get your dad's pillow or blanket or jacket, wrap yourself up in it. You can look at family pictures and recall the love and fun.
You can put on a Disney music or movie that is lighthearted.
You can gather flowers from your yard to smell.
And you can pray.
2007-07-18 18:59:52 · answer #3 · answered by Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call a friend, have someone be there with you. If ever you've needed a shoulder to cry on it is now. I am so sorry this happened to you. It is going to be difficult, no way around it. The most important thing though is to have a support network of family and friends. They can't take away the pain, but they can help you get through this.
2007-07-18 18:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by NinjenWV 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.I am SO sorry for your loss. My best friend in the world died of cancer at the age of 31 in 1994. I feel her presence all the time. I bought a whole bunch of affirmation books, and they helped me to get through it. I am so sorry this happened to you. My father is 83 and I KNOW I am going to be shattered by his passing. The best advice I can give you is to remember the good times you and your father shared together and that he is looking down from Heaven and he loves you so very much. Email me if you'd like. Grieving is such a personal thing It took me years to get over it. I'd pull my car over and just cry and beat the steering wheel and wish it were me that died. All I can say is to be around loving friends and family and try not to isolate.
2007-07-18 19:01:55 · answer #5 · answered by PURR GIRL TORI 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw, I am terribly sorry. D: my dad died in a car crash in febuary, and I know what you are going though, though nobody can understnad what you are going though personally.
What helped make me feel better was watching my favorite movie, or read my favorite book. This kept my mind off of htings, if not call a friend or family to talk to. :/
If you want to talk to me, feel free to email me.
2007-07-18 18:50:49 · answer #6 · answered by Emily J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that. That is very sad. Do you have some friends you can call to come over and talk to? Or family members?
2007-07-18 18:48:44 · answer #7 · answered by zeekandthefam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to cry is to love
2007-07-18 18:54:00 · answer #8 · answered by kolorz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋