got into a huge fight w/my bf of 2.5 years last friday due to my PMDD (it causes me to be the witch from hell 2 weeks before my period). it was so bad that he was going to go for a drive b/c i wouldn't leave his house and go back to mine. i ended up leaving w/him telling me he loved me and that he just needed some space to relax and it would take time for things to go back to the way they were with us.
i haven't heard from him since (he did work sun-tues and usually doesn't call on those days) and today i noticed that he got an email confirmation for his class reunion back home in IL which is in 2 weeks (Aug 4th). he never mentioned this to me and is going by himself (the confirmation listed one ticket).
i don't know what to think and i'm really upset....
2007-07-18 18:04:27 · 15 answers · asked by dncer228 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we talked on Sun after the fight and we made love (it was best ever) but then he said he needed space when i tried to talk about our fight on Fri. he took my house key back too saying that he was worried that if i got into one of my PMDD moods-that i wouldn't respect his need for space. i gave it back but was upset. we left for work that night with him saying "i love you-ok?" like he was trying to reassure me that things would be ok. i said that i loved him too.
what should i think? we've been through this before and have made it through ok.
the reunion IS on the weekend that i have my kids so i would have to find a sitter (so maybe that's why he's not taking me)
he loves me and my 3 little girls very much-i don't see him just walking away but y go to the reunion w/out telling me or taking me with?!!!
2007-07-18 18:08:53 · update #1
i SHOULD add that yes i am taking Yaz birth control pills for my PMDD but skipped them last month due to money issues (which was the biggest mistake of my life). i have since started taking them again (4 days ago) and i promised my bf that i wouldn't miss them anymore. i also am scheduled to start seeing a counselor next week.
2007-07-18 18:26:49 · update #2
A lot of people like to go to their hs reunions alone without their s.o... I wouldn't think anything of it.
2007-07-18 18:08:32 · answer #1 · answered by ........ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't sweat the class reunion thing. It's usually not customary for people to bring a guest unless they've gotten married--it's usually awkward for the person they bring, since they won't know anyone, and it gets really tiring trying to introduce a stranger to a bunch of people that she'll probably never see again.
However, you're right to be concerned. I could see how your PMDD would negatively affect your relationship, and maybe even prompt a break-up. I've known girls with PMDD before, and it's a difficult thing to deal with, but remember this: PMDD does not make you act crazy, PMDD makes you WANT to act crazy. A lack of self-control is what makes you act like a nut. You've likely been dealing with this for awhile, and I'm guessing you've explored options with your doctor and came up empty-handed. If medications can't help you out, then you and your boyfriend should develop some work-arounds quickly, before he's had more than he can take.
Aside from just staying away from one another when you know your hormones will be bothering you, I would focus especially hard on being positive and upbeat the rest of the time. A little sweetness will go a long way for a guy! Try to stress less about situations like the reunion and just be in as good a mood as you can around him, and you won't have to worry about a break-up anytime soon.
2007-07-18 18:17:49 · answer #2 · answered by Dave B. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is leaving for greener pastures. You really need to get hold of your PMDD. There are meds which will help you. Even if you would be married (and you had been), a man will not indefinitely put up with this kind of crankyness every four weeks. A good friend of mine who is now 53 years old, has never been married because of her hellish PMDD's. Even her friends (me) will stay away when she is in her attack mode. So please get medical help soon.
2007-07-18 18:16:12 · answer #3 · answered by HSB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're being a little invasive of his space. Give him some time, and if he wants to break up sadly to say there's nothing you can do. Let it roll, and hopefully things work out. Good luck, I really do understand how painful it is to lose someone you love over something stupid and pointless.. =[
2007-07-18 18:07:50 · answer #4 · answered by ♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get in contact with him and see what is up. Maybe he just wants some space/alone time after the fight.
2007-07-18 18:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by January 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he wants some times and space, just give him as much as he wants.. don't push him and try to respect his wish.
Please relax, if he is your Mr. Right, no matter what he will be the one. Right now, you tried to know what he is doing and he may feel upset if he knows it. Just go out with your girlfriends and doing something without him.
2007-07-18 18:10:24 · answer #6 · answered by Earthman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs some space. if u have been with him 2.5 years. he wont leave because of one fight. call him. ask him if he wants to go out to dinner. just dont act really suspicious. he will get mad at u for thinking that he is cheating on u then ur screwed.
2007-07-18 18:10:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you ripped him a new one...do you blame him for keeping his distance? And have you acted that way previously? You need to talk to your man and apologize for your actions and ask him to forgive you.
2007-07-18 18:09:09 · answer #8 · answered by PrincessRain22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like to me you need to give him space and get some help for your pndd before if it hasnt already cost you your relationship
2007-07-18 18:08:27 · answer #9 · answered by southern angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI,i was looking at your ad no this does not mean he wants to break up.just give him space like he wants,and he will come back around.
2007-07-18 18:12:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋