Can Christians be unhappy with their life?

Question

I am a christain and even though I am content with my life and grateful for many of the things I have I am not happy. I am trying to accept my life for what it is but I find that something is missing which God has not allowed me to have yet which is a husband and father for my two children. Someone to help me carry the load of playing mom, dad, homemaker, breadwinner, and student. Someone to help me raise my kids, to love me and for me to love them. I dont have it now and I know I just have to accept it but is it wrong for me to be an unhappy christain?

Answer 1

I don't want you to be unhappy, and I don't even know you.
So I doubt the creator would want you to be unhappy either.
You can be happy. You should be happy. You are alive and should feel how wonderful a thing that is.
Take a look around you.
You have beautiful children.
You have a decent amount of health. You can see his creation, you can hear music and the laughter of your kids. You can smell delicious food cooking and flowers. Look at the trees, mountains, flowers.
You were made to enjoy this incredible planet that you were put on.
But you are also human and humans were made with a need for companionship. There is nothing wrong with wanting to share your life with a man. That too is completely normal.

BUT, you want happiness. Happiness comes from within. Do not define who you are and how happy you are by thinking it is something you get from someone else. Having a good man in you life can contribute to your happiness, indeed. And the stresses of life can contribute to your unhappiness.
But being happy, liking yourself, liking your life, seeing the world for its possibilities and its wonder, and feeling fulfilled, all those things are things that come from inside.
You need to explore who you are, what you want and pursue your dreams and needs.
That joy is inside of you ... and you can find it.

Answer 2

Everyone gets dissatisfied in their walk with the Lord and you will not always be happy but you can always have joy in the Lord regardless of your circumstance. Is God your all in all are you genuinely seeking Him first and putting him first. Are you content?

A man only enhances you life all you need is the Lord and yes life is hard and there are times you do feel dumped on and very overwhelmed. But if you are not happy single you wont be happy married.

The enemy biggest trick (and he has been using it since Adam and Eve) is have you think that you dint have enough and that the grass is greener on the other side. And that the only way to be happy is for everything to be prefect and once you get everything you will be happy.

This is a lie because in life there is always something to go through and overcome joy is from the Lord not because things go a persons way all the time.

I would encourage you to get into Gods word talk to a trusted person how you feel, find out what is your passion and what makes you happy and find your place in Gods will for your life.

Please read Philippians 4:4,6-8 and know that you are not alone and things will get better Attitude is a choice. Be encouraged E4G

Answer 3

Surely Christians can be unhappy, but being able to put faith in the undeserved kindness of God is something to have joy about.

I would have to say are you sure you are praying to the Universal Sovreign, and Creator, or the one who has the whole world lying in his deceptive powers.

The next time yu open your Bible, look at the first few pages or the preface, there will be a note of the translation of something called the Tetragrammaton YHWH or JHVH depending on whether (toMAYto, or toMAto), anyway this is the Hebrew spelling of the name of God so either Yahweh or Jehovah (I prefer the second) but why has God's name been obscured almost 7000 times... neat trick of Satan, because Lord, and Most High are just titles, and separate people from the "person" of God.

I am sure that if you brought your life within alignment with God's word, and followed his direct guidance for our lives through the owners manual (God's Word the Bible), he will grant you peace, and it is when you are mostly not looking directly but trusting in God through fervent prayer that I trust he will direct you to a perfect marriage mate as he did for me.

I would go t the website www.watchtower.org and ask for the free book "What Does the Bible REALLY Teach?" and you could come to an understanding of how to approach the happy God, the Universal Sovriegn Jehovah instead of some Idle Idol.

Peace

Answer 4

I think you need to separate your unhappiness with your faith. You are an unhappy person. But you can use your faith to find happiness. I would not say that G-d hasn't allowed you to have a husband. You probably haven't allowed yourself to have one. Re-evaluate your life, and look how you spend your time. Do you have a relationship with the biological father of your children? Maybe you need to work on your relationship with him (if that is possible, I understand if its not). Then you need to look at who is in your life that you may be over looking. Or are you even looking? Ask and ye shall receive. Sometimes when you ask, you do receive, its just a matter of you seeing what you received. Good Luck. Peace be with you.

Answer 5

No, we all have had doubts and sadness in our lives. Sometimes, God tests you to see how true you will be. Whenever I get sad or lost or feel like the World is unfair, I read Job and realize what He went through and then I see life isn't so bad after all. I also try and think "happy thoughts' a lot! :) I will be praying that you find the peace and strength and happiness you need. Keep the Faith! Remember, God loves you and you have more on your side than you realize because you have Jesus. Thanks and God Bless you!!

Answer 6

of course you can be unhappy. just because your a Christian doesnt suddenly make everything easier and better in life. you have to try to please God before he rewards you.

when training a dog do you give him what he wants before you teach him the trick? no you dont. God is clearly trying to teach you something through all of this. when you learn what you need to you will be rewarded.

just because you have excepted God as your creator and Jesus as your savior doesnt mean all is well in the world. I used to think that. but then reading the bible what i have found out is that you have to do is please God. Follow what he's telling you.

Sometimes its hard to hear his voice though. when you pray, dont listen to what your mind or heart is saying...listen to Him. sometimes he's not a big booming voice telling you to do something....sometimes its that little thought. its like before you leave and you think, "Oh, I should make sure i turned off the oven" something just like that could be God telling you, warning you. and if you choose not to listen, you may come home to find your house burning down, but if you do listen then you have turned off the oven and everything is fine.

there are so many ways he can get your attention. thats why the bible always warns of to always be ready for Him. there's just no telling what is around the corner.

in the mean time, give God a little faith. one thing that i find helpful is to pray for your future spouse. im only in highschool, but i still do it. sometimes it really helps. just ask God that he is having a good day and he is listening to God and that He will show you the right way to go so you can meet him. that sort of thing. it sounds silly...but just give it a try. it may help.

Answer 7

Dear Lady,
No it is not wrong to be unhappy, we all are unhappy sometimes. I feel for you, and I will try my best to remember you and you family in Prayer. I ask do you attend church and do you have your children in church, not being nosy I just think that is important. Do you trust God, or are you waiting on God to send you someone to trust? Be patient, God has his reasons, pray, and believe. I know God wants all Children to have a mother, and a father. He will do the right thing

Answer 8

Oh hun I feel like I'm exactly the same boat which is why I'm on Answers this late at night when I have to work tomorrow. I try to be grateful for what I have, but I think often times you need to acknowledge what you need and want in order to make thing better. I know that it brings me down to just think of things being stuck the way they are for years to come. I think that you need to decide what would make you happier and things better, possibly in your case a husband and father- and pray for it! God wants you to be happy, just trust in Him and He will show you the way out and provide what is best for you, because He knows best!!
I will keep you in my prayer! Good luck !!

Answer 9

Well, I am a single mother of two and I went through that phase in my life. I found that God just wanted me to learn to depend on Him and for me to see that He is the ultimate Father for my kids and the ultimate lover of my soul. I really had to learn to be content in Him and to lean and trust on Him. He took care of my children and the Holy Spirit comforted me. And, b/c I know He truly loves me and loves my kids, when the time is right, He will send the right one into our lives. B/c I love my kids so much, as I know you do, I wouldn't want it any other way. My children have a peaceful home and enjoy life and I wouldn't want to bring anyone into their lives that would disrupt that. My charge is raise happy, godly seed. Yes, I still desire a mate but not at the point of letting life pass me by in which I live each day completely unhappy. I love knowing that I have and have experienced a Man; One who owns all the earth and the fullness thereof, one who is made strong in my weakness and who can calm my soul and who knows that when the time is right, He can give me a taste of that in the flesh with my husband. So my advice to you is just be patient and really evaluate your intimate relationship with God b/c from everything it seems like you have going on right now anyway, you may not really have time for a relationship, I personally didn't and don't forget to cast your cares upon Him, He really does care for you!

Answer 10

How about knowing the person you have sex with is worthy of being your husband and father to your children. Why did you settle for no commitment before making babies? Warn other women not to make the same mistake you did and I believe God will provide a helpmate for you.