drinking under age?

Question

My friend drinks a lot, and shes only 14. I don't know what to do, I'm worried about her.

its just hard, because i don't want her to get mad at me if I do tell an adult. But i need to tell someone because I've known her since 2nd grade, and I never thought she'd turn in to this...

Thank you all, for responding. I really appreciate it.

And, sorry i didn't mention this earlier: her parents have no idea...they would never think that she would do this.

Answer 1

My son at the age 14 talked some park bums into buying him and his friends some beer. My son drank 2 40 oz hurricanes. He ended up going into convulsions, from alcohol poisoning, his friends panicked and left him in the park and called 911. My son had to be resuscitated 3 times by the paramedics, and wasn't sure he would live long enough to make it to the hospital. He had to be put on life support. You have concern to be worried. When a person gets A drunk driven ticket, the courts usually makes them go to a victim panel. From first hand experience, I know that anyone can go to these. Maybe you can get help from finding when one of these sessions are taking place,and she can see the effects of what drinking can do, they are very graphic in the pictures, but I know that if you go, and talk to someone there they can help you with answers to this question.

Answer 2

You need to know why she is drinking first of all. If is is a result of something her parents are doing then it may not be the best idea to contact them right away. Secondly, I would try to find someone that she could talk to that has been through what she is going through. Try the division of youth services or any public agency that offers some type of counseling related to alcohol. Um not saying that she needs counseling but usually you can find a female person who can talk to her in a language that she can understand. Or... it can also be a relative, or a teacher but most important is that the person can be trusted and credible. Also its important that the person understands what she is feeling and why.... Alcoholism is in many family genes. It is a very dangerous and sensitive issue. However at 14 it can be addressed... Even if she is not an alcoholic, its a dangerous situation. Kids die in auto accidents related to alcohol everyday. At 14 your sex hormones are jumping off the hook. Unprotected sex can be deadly these days. She could get pregnant or contract some form of std that could be very serious. you should be worried... Now as a true friend do your best to find a good solution and if you fail don't feel guilty because you did take action and you tried your best.... I am saying that because it can be challenging, and its not always easy....

Answer 3

If you have a good relationship with your parents, you should talk to them about it. If not, go see a counselor at your school and talk to them about it. An adult close to you will be the best person to help figure out how to get your friend the help she needs. Your friend will suffer greatly if you don't get her some help, and the sooner the better. She needs help, and although it may seem like a betrayal to let her secret out, it's far better than what will most certainly happen to her if she doesn't get help now.

A friend in need is a friend in deed. Your friend needs you to do the deed of getting her professional help. There are many sources available and your school counselor, best working with the parents, can help avoid a disaster.

Answer 4

I've got a lot of friends that do the same thing but their is only 2 thing we can do for them which is pray and tell them it is bad and it may heart them.

Answer 5

If the authorities find out, her parents are going to jail for allowing her to drink! A new law was passed. Parents are now responsable for their children drinking problem
and if they drink at home and the parents allow it!

TELLL HER PARENTS AND YOUR PARENTS BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE!

DON'T WAIT FOR SCHOOL IN SEPTEMBER TO TELL A GUIDANCE CONSELOR, YOU WOULD BE WAITING TO LONG!

Answer 6

I would talk to your parents. They can bring it up to her parents and keep you out of the middle of a difficult situation. You are a good friend for being concerned.

Answer 7

Whats better her getting her feelings hurt or her getting seriously injured from all of the drinking?

As for chase cc response:

That kind of advise is what gets people in trouble or killed.

Answer 8

Tell her you are concerned, and if she won't listen, you may have to to tell someone who can take action- her parents, teachers, or some kind of authority figure.

Answer 9

Well you should try stopping her like telling her mom or maybe just telling her she's too young to drink alot.

Answer 10

Yes, you should be worried. She is really going to get hurt. You just have to tell someone. You have to. Or talk to her about it, but that may not do anything. Very good luck to you, and please tell someone.