Is It Wrong For a Guy/Man To Be Emotional?

Question

This whole month I've been feeling very emotional, sensitive...today I told one of my co-workers cuz I just had to let it out and she told me that maybe I have more female hormones? did she try to say that I was gay or something?

I just tend to get all sad, and depressed and I feel so alone and I feel just like crying and crying...but I don't get no crazie ideas like hurting others that no! just sadness...and I feel like my heart wants to jump out and go on a mission for something...but I don't know what.

Answer 1

no just hormonal ...................... ll

Answer 2

Men have the same emotions as women.

Difference is that soceity tries to drive out most emotions when the man is a boy so when he is in his platoon he won't feel bad when one of his buddies dies or kills someone.

What society doesn't realize no matter how much training a person has to kill emotions it is always there no matter how hard people try to kill it.

I don't know of a single warrior that has not shed tears. Therefore it is natural for a normal man to have emotions.

I have a feeling the high level of Male suicide and the columbine style of mass murder is due to men can't express their emotions like girls. Almost all of these murderers had rage that they had been keeping back all of their lives and then they exploded in wrath to their peers. THis does not excuse what they did but you have to ask yourself, why hasn't there been a single case of a female doing this an any country. Sure there are female murderers and some are serial killers, but for the most part mass murders are mostly commited by men.

Answer 3

Unfortunately, men are always told that they shouldn't express emotions, even though every human has them, because it's a sign of weakness. Your coworker was being close-minded and probably just joking with you a bit. As far as your emotions go, there is nothing wrong with them. However, if you've been feeling very sad for the past month with no apparent cause, you may want to be screened for clinical depression.

*Depression isn't the same thing as insanity, and it doesn't mean you'd want to hurt others or even yourself. Try reading the book, Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy, by David Burns, M.D., and you'' see what I mean. You should be able to find it at your library or bookstore.

Answer 4

There is nothing wrong for a guy to be emotional, guys are human being capable of experiencing the same feelings like women. If a guy acted / feels emotional it's just but a natural feeling and it is too silly to conclude that he is a gay. It does'nt mean that because his a guy he cannot be emotional. Experience speaks that man are more emotional than woman.

Answer 5

I think it is interesting that you ask the question. So many men are taught in their youth to hold in their emotions, that it is a chick thing.
I will tell you the truth, some people believe wholeheartedly that it is a weakness and something women do.
In reality, we are all human beings and with that comes emotions. FEELINGS.
As far as sensitivity goes. In my eyes it is a gift. Many people go Thur life almost sterile emotionally and have little sympathy and NO empathy for others. If you are sensitive, that is a plus. You can have better intimacy in your relationships because of this.
"Cheers"

P.S. Don't talk to that lady at work anymore.

Answer 6

Be as emotional as you feel you need.....remember to do it as privately as you can manage.....because emotions are natural. Not corporate.

As for what your co-worker said, I think that maybe she was trying to say that as a person who gets moved to emotional extremes by hormones, she understood that these things happen to everyone. She was giving you her reason/excuse for such behavior.

Probably she did so, in order to set a connection to you. She also was probably trying to get you to shut up and go to the bathroom to clean yourself up. She sounds pretty uncomfortable with the whole emotion thing. She'll grow up about it or not.

You should just try not to confide in her again until she is able to accept men as emotional individuals with all kinds of stress factors.

Hope this helped

Good Luck and Goddess Bless

Answer 7

She was not saying you are gay. She was telling you that she is not accustomed to a male showing emotion in that way. Men are conditioned to be tough and not show emotion. That is truly sad, because I know so MANY men who are tough on the exterior, but when they feel safe to let their guard down, you can tell that they long to be vulnerable and let their emotions show.

There is nothing wrong with what you did. It is actually a healthy thing. Now whether one is a male or female, one should always have a healthy control over one's emotions. If one sobs like a blubbering idiot over something that appears to be a minimal thing, then that is probably not healthy. If one cries or whines over every little thing, that is not emotionally healthy either. Neither is it healthy to explode in macho toughness in an attempt to look strong and manly. Most women appreciate a sensitive man who is secure enough in himself and his manhood to let himself be vulnerable and to allow his emotions to show, so long as that man, as with any woman, keeps his emotions from running amok.

Answer 8

I hate that we live in a society where emotions are beaten out of men because it's considered unbecoming and "womanly." If anything, male babies are born more emotional than female babies, but thanks to social mores and standards, we can surely take care of that little problem.
It's fine for a guy/man to be emotional, and it should be more encouraged today. Remember this as well: while females have hormonal cycles once a month, men have hormonal cycles like that everyday!

Answer 9

Being emotional and being gay are not one and the same.

Obviously God gave us tears so we can cry, and heart so we can feel and etc. There is positive emotion and negative emotion. Positive emotion will lift you and others around you up and be encouraging, and even tears can be sweet if you are thinking positive thoughts about someone who you love that brings tears of joy to you.

Negative emotions always strike out and hurt others. They come from jealousy, rage, and other ungodly and unholy thoughts that are evil and self-centered. In those cases the person expressing the emotion cares little to nothing about how he or she affects others. They just want to vent and let their miserable attitude fall where it will no matter who it hurts.

Hope that helps.

Answer 10

No ! We're all human.Tell your co-worker to get a life. Male suicide is rife and there is a reason, can you guess ?? Because men can's show their feelings, or when they do, some moron like your co-worker says something stupid like that. Try to get to the root of the problem and deal with it in the best way you can. Don't just sweep it under the carpet cause it'll come back to bite you.

Answer 11

More "female hormones?" puhhleessse.... In an ideal world, you shouldn't feel insecure about your emotions at all. If you are overly emotional/sensitive in public though, our society just doesn't usually accept it. Guy code usually dictates it's only ok if someone dies or something really f-ed up happens. Personally, I think men should be able to express themselves as freely as any woman does, but as long as you're in america, it might be best to keep it at home:( Oh-and no, I don't think your coworker meant for you to think she was calling you gay.