Ok.. so im only going into 8th grade. Theres this boy in my grade that is SOOO awesome. And he's The biggest crush i'v ever had. I just.. well I think he likes one of my other more popular friends and stuff.. but me and him have sooo much in commen and we both kinda have the same feelings about stuff. But im a tiny bit heavy like a little bit and he always makes fun of fat people but i really want him to like me!!! im DESPERATEE!! What are some things I can do over the summer to make him want me next year?? oh also we're both athletic but he is alot better than me. what should i do? and pleasssee dont say be yourslef. i need HELP!!
2007-07-18 16:56:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok i dont want him to LOVE me or even have a crush on me. I just want him to like me as a realy good friend just someone that he hangs out with.
2007-07-18 17:05:02 · update #1
If he doesn't like you AS YOU ARE right now, what do you think that you can do to make him like you over the summer. Why would you want to change for a guy? What if the next guy you are in LOVE with like chubbier girls? Are you going to gain weight. And what if the next guy likes big breasts...are you going to get implants? And if the next one likes smaller breasts...get them taken out? And the next one likes tattoos, on a chubby girl with small breasts and small feet???? It could go on and on. My point is, although you don't want to hear it is, work on who you ARE not on who you think you have to be to attract A guy. There are millions of guys in the world, and you're only in 8th grade. You have nothing but time to work on you and the guy for you will come to you without you having to DO ANYTHING!!
2007-07-18 17:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a jerk, lose weight, ANYWAYS. First of all you are in 8Th grade, what do you want from this guy?? Do you even know. Second of all whatever you do don't have sex with him cuz all that does is complicate things. I think you should just be his friend and go from there. If he makes fun of fat people that should tell you that he is not a very confident or decent person to begin with. People who make fun of others are really insecure in who they are and have to make fun to feel better about Themselves. Is that really who you want to be with.Believe me none of this crap is going to matter when you graduate and go off into the real world. I had a crush on this guy in 10th grade who had this crush on this pretty and popular girl and it never worked out because guys at that age and probably any age are to caught up on looks not the person inside. Why waist your time and energy thinking and fantasizing about this guy, he is not worth it. One day you will find a guy who will love you for you, so don't rush things these guys usually just appear when you least expect it. It will also help if you did not choose a guy for his looks that almost always never works, so be friends and see where it goes. Good luck!
2007-07-18 17:08:40 · answer #2 · answered by M-n-M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, some day you will learn that you can't force love to happen. You can try to show someone you are interested in many different ways, and you can hope that it is reciprocated, but that's about it. Guys do like girls who are fun, who smile, and who laugh a lot, but there are many other things that people must share for attraction to occur. Ultimately though, the one thing you don't want to hear is the best advice. You do need to be yourself because you can't ever live for someone else. That is not a good thing to do. You need to make yourself happy first and foremost. Guys like a girl who knows how to make herself happy, whether she does it in sports, or enjoying her friends, or her family. That kind of personality is intriguing.
2007-07-18 17:02:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My goodness 8th grader. You need to slow it down some. What is a tiny bit overweight? That can be taken care of easily. Move more, cut down your portions. Do not do that starve yourself crap. Also this is not a athletic competition. just do your best. You should not be desperate about stuff like this. If your a nice kid continue to be that way. This will be just one of many crushes you have.
2007-07-18 17:28:01 · answer #4 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I am going into 10th grade and i don't even know what love is. Really though, you shouldn't have to change for anyone. You are supposed to change for yourself ONLY. For instance, I like guys with lip rings, tats, long hair, and all of the other stuff that a lot of people consider "bad" and I tried to change into liking pretty boys just so that my friends would like me and I was SOOOO mad at myself. If you want to lose weight then go ahead and more power to you, but don't do it just because you want him to "want you". Besides, I used to be chubby myself and I know people who make fun of people like the way I was are just jerks. Like I said, change if you want want to, but only for you. Also PRAY about this guy (and please don't diss it till you try it... it worked for me) and if he's not everything you wanted and more, then don't even bother with him.
2007-07-18 17:07:26 · answer #5 · answered by alli7201 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but it has to be said.......be yourself! Get active and shape up for yourself if that is a goal you would like to achieve. I have to also say that he may be using you as a connection to your friend.....do you find him always asking about her? If you do then don't just let it slide get out there and find the guy for you. He's out there and he thinks you are perfect!! Always respect yourself and your body
2007-07-18 17:05:01 · answer #6 · answered by Heather S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen. i know you think hes awesome. but if he is making fun of fat people. thats not cool at all. some people have severe problems with obesity. ive lost friends to it. suicide mostly. cause of people like him. it sounds like hes not worth anything you got. honestly look at those people he puts down and evaluate there personality verses there obesity. i bet youll find out there alot better than he is.
2007-07-18 17:09:28 · answer #7 · answered by anthony j 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Work out get in shape . All guys are superficial he will like you better when your body is in better shape. Also joke around with him let him get to know you better. Don't be easy just cause you like him make him wait till your ready to find out how much he likes you ..
2007-07-18 17:02:55 · answer #8 · answered by richard s 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you wanna lose weight, go for it. Butt if you want him to like you for YOU... the feeling's either there, or it isn't. ive been through thiss and it hurts when you dont end up together in the end. so watch out & good luck.
2007-07-18 17:01:12 · answer #9 · answered by jERSEYgirl♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you dont think he will like you because you are a little heavy then maybe you should try eating healthy and exercising this summer. but nothing too extreme!! just maybe not eating too much fast food and going to the pool and swimming more.
2007-07-18 17:02:37 · answer #10 · answered by lalala 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋