christians please....i need guidance?

Question

i've been reading the bible alot lately, and i have faith in god. but i need help.

i'm bi and i'm dating a girl i love. but in the bible it says a woman r not to be with a woman. and not to get attached to things on this earth.....such as relationships?

so do i give up this relationship because of that? or should i stick by the person i love?

should i stop sinning or should i do what makes me happy? i mean sins r forgiven but i dont want to do a sin in the first place if i'm in this possition of having to make a choice.......i just dont want to make the wrong one

i'm to the point i'm crying please help

yes i'm born again, if i wasnt why would i be worried about this?

Answer 1

It really comes down to this: Do you love the Lord more than you love yourself?
Jesus said this:
"Anyone who loves his father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves his son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me; and anyone who does not take his cross and follow me is not worthy of me. Whoever finds his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it."
Matthew 10:37-39

You say you love your friend, but are you really loving her by living in a relationship with her that is going to bring the judgment of God into her life, and yours?
Real love means choosing to follow Jesus Christ, who alone died on a cross to give you the gift of eternal life, and doing all you can in life to bring others to know His love.
If you want the presence of God to remain in your life, only repentance will do.
Someone once said this saying "deny yourself, pick up your cross and follow Me" is a hard saying; but it will be much harder to hear the saying "Depart from Me you cursed into everlasting fire" (Matthew 25:41), quoting Thomas A'Kempis, "Imitation of Christ", Book 2 Chapter 12.
A little pain now will save you great pain later.
Jesus knows how to bind up your wounds.
Eternal life is a free gift, but it will cost you everything you have.

Answer 2

According to my up bringing which is Baptist, (and i went to Catholic School), as long as you continue w/ said relationship you are in sin. Only by acknowledging that you are doing wrong and stopping said behavior, and repenting the sin, and not doing it again. can you be "forgiven".
That being said, this is my take on the Bible, and there is more, and more evidence pointing towards this. The Bible is not pure, it was written, interpreted, and revised by powerful men, and some miss informed monks. There were many other books that were never included, and alot of writer interpretation. Considering that jews were "evil" they were not asked to a help in the translations, from the pure Torah, and writings.
Consider the story of Mary Magdalane. According to the Catholic teachings she was a prostitute until they cleared it up in the 60's, that actually no where in the Bible does it say that she was. It was just something some Pope made up in th 15th century, just like purgatory, which was made up to get more money from the family of the dead person so they could pay to have the monks, and nuns pray them to heaven.
So here is what I will tell you. Jesus said that the greatest comandment was to love each. That means to respect one another. Only the father can judge you. All these so called Christians ( Pastors especially included) who want to judge and give you thier "opinion", on what the Bible "says", need to remember - "Let he is without sin cast the first stone" The only time that Jesus lost his temper is when the head Rabbi's corrupted God's Temple. And in thier opinion Jesus was wrong. Spend some time in prayer,and meditation, maybe sometime away your girlfriend, and let your spirit be quiet, so it can hear the answer to your question.

Answer 3

First take a deep breath and know that God loves you. You are at a crossroad in your life and only you are going to be able to decide which direction is right for you. Christianity dosent allow for same sex relationships. If that is the most important thing to you, you know what you need to do.
The good news is you don't have to be a Christian to have a relationship with God. I had grown up in the church and found myself having to step down from a position of authority because of fundamental truths that I came to believe that I can not deny. But I harbor no ill feelings toward Christians, and I still seek the truth.
A sin is anything that separates you from the love of God. Although guilt is an emotion that can tell us when we need to make things right, unfourtunatly guilt is also overused by some churches in order to control its members.
read I Corinthians 4-8 or more if you like but focus on those verses, its God definition of Love, look at how the people in your life are treating you, are they treating you with love? those are the people you can trust.
good luck
*hugs*

Answer 4

Okay on this one usually I would remain silent, because the choice you have to make is really between someone you know you love and a God who MIGHT not be real (though I have no doubt he is real).

I don't think any sin is really justifiable, we cannot say "I am a Christian so I can commit lust or adultery or murder". We have to strive for righteousness.

So I would say that if you want to fulfill all righteousness, you should give up the sexual aspect of the relationship.

However, if you really want to continue the relationship, I advise you to be as devout to God as you can. That way if you stand before God you can at least claim that your only crime was loving someone of the same sex. Few sins have any good side to them - murder for instance is never a good crime. However, homosexuality is, in a sense, love, and love is a good thing. That does not mean homosexuality itself is no longer a sin, but it is at least not the worst of sins.

Its really a tough situation, but my first recommendation would be to stop the sexual aspect of the relationship. If you cannot do that, then at least strive for righteousness in all other situations. I cannot guarentee that you'd go to heaven for taking the second choice, you may be condemned, I don't know, but if I were the judge I would have some sympathy at least for the second choice. But I am not the judge, and God would condemn things I would not condemn, and also God would forgive people I would not forgive.

So the first choice I would call the smart one, the second is dangerous. But I would not call you an evil person for it, because your decision is one more out of love then wickedness. I would have some sympathy, but I cannot speak for God on this one because he judges in different ways than me.

Answer 5

There is a reason you are crying. Because you know in your spirit that you are going against God by living the lifestyle you are living. The answer is yes, you should give up a relationship that goes against what God's Word tells us. You were not made for sexual immorality, but for the Lord. God can help you to get out of an unholy relationship, and bring you happiness and contentment. The first step is obedience to God's Word, and God will give you everything you really need in life. After all, He made you and He knows what is best for you. Listen to God in this! God bless you!

Answer 6

Since you know that it is a sin, I believe that the Holy Spirit is working in you.
Jesus died for you so your sins would be washed away. There is a scripture I can't find right now, the gist is kinda like : He who does what he knows is a sin, is still sinning.

It seems that you know what is right and wrong, and you don't want to sin. Pray to God to have Him to bless you with the strength to do what is right.
I will pray.
Dear Lord, you have made this world we live from the mountain ranges to the seas full of many kinds of sea life. As glorious as You are we know that You don't do things unless it is Your Will.
Dear Father in heaven creator of all things,here is someone who is reaching out to you. She is at a crossroads now. She needs the strength to make the right decision. If it is Your Will fill her with the Holy Spirit guiding her to making the decision she knows is right.
I thank You Lord for being there for her in her time of need if it is Your Will to do so, You are so wonderful that there isn't any words to describe You that would equal Your Glory.
In Jesus' name,
Amen

Answer 7

Well I'm christian and I hope I could help. The Bible is clear that homosexuality is a sin. That's not to say that you are a bad person. Sin just means falling short of the grace of God. "For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God" Romans 6:23. That includes me. "As it is written: There is none righteous not one" Romans 3:10. However Jesus came to pay for our sins so that we may forgiven. This happens when you accept Jesus as your personal Lord and Savior. Once we are forgiven, we are warned not to sin anymore. Look up Romans 6:6. Homosexuality is considered to be sexual immorality. Collossians chapter three gives alot good advice about what we should stay away from. I would advise to end the relationship because it is not God's will. When we look to do God's will then everything will go better for us then when we do things our way. Seek God's will, and he will guide you, Psalm 32:8, Proverbs 3:5 and 6. He will let you know what he wants you to do. And secondly when we seek God's will he will send you the right person for you. You won't need to put your heart on the line and risk heartbreak. If you follow God, He will make your paths cross one day. Because it says in Matthew 6:33 " But seek first the kingdom of God and all his righteousness, and all things shale be added to you". So all we need to do is seek God and his righteousness and God will gives everything we need. even the person we will spend the rest of our lifes with. And God is perfect and only wants the best for us and knows what is best for us, even better than ourselves. In Jeremiah 29:11 He tells us that his plans are to prosper us and to harm us. I have found this to betrue in my life. I tried looking for the person, but only found heartache until I surrendered to God and asked him to send her to me. And He did! So just seek God's will in your life. At times we may not agree with it or feel uncomfortable about His decision, but in the end, it's always for our own good just like he says in Jeremiah 29:1. And also ask God to show you his will about your sexual orientation. God loves us and wants the best for us, for God SO loved the WORLD, that he gave his only begotten son that everyone who believes in Him shall not perish, but have everlasting life! That's how much He loves us ALL! Well I hope that this helped you in at least some small way. I pray for the best for you and I pray that God blesses you greatly! Feel free to ask me any other question you may have. I'm not pretending to be an expert, but I will do my best to help! God Bless You!

Answer 8

Relationships are not bad, but having sex with someone of the same gender is a sin.

God did not call us to be happy; God called us first and foremost to be holy (pure). Doing the right thing might feel bad in the short run, but purifying your heart and becoming closer to God will make you happier in the long run.

You should stop having sex with this girl. You probably should stop seeing her or talking to her for now until you get over your romantic feelings for her.

Answer 9

I became a Christian when I was 8 years old but I didn't surrender my life to the Lord until I was 18 years old. There is a difference, because eventhough I believed in God when I was 8 years old I didn't surrender to HIM. Like James says in James 2:14 "faith without works is died". When I finally surrendered my life to God one of the things He asked me to do was to break up with my boyfriend. I wasn't bi or anything but it was still an ungodly relationship. If you feel like God is asking you to give up this relationship then do it. He is a loving God and most of all He is faithful. God is looking for a people that will trust Him with all they have, and that includes relationships. I surrendered everything to Him and He has never let me down. Everything He has done in my life He can do in yours. Most of all, God never asked you to live this Christian life in your own strength, so ask God for His super natural strength and wisedom. I'll be praying for you!

Answer 10

Although I agree that God wants us to love and be loved, Jesus did not say LOVE in general was the greatest commandment. He said the greatest commandment is "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength." Then He said the next is to love your neighbor. I believe that part of loving God with all our being means submitting ourselves fully to God's Will instead of our own desires. If God tells us that a woman should not be with another woman, than out of love for Him we should obey that. But that does not just apply to same-sex relationships. If God tells a woman that the man she is dating is coming between her relationship with God, she should also be obedient. It is about committing ourselves fully to God, which is what we do when we are saved. We may not always be obedient, we may fail continuously, but we should desire to love God with all our hearts and souls. You need to pray to God and ask him for guidance in this situation. We may not like His answers but we need to decide how much we are willing to give up for Him.