And has had the child taken from her because of a serious drug addiction and with me having a prior record?
2007-07-18 16:29:23 · 12 answers · asked by RICKY P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
with no lawyer?
2007-07-18 16:49:44 · update #1
if she was just awarded custody again that means she passed drug testing after so long and meets all the standards in other words she graduated and you wont get custody from her witha prior drug problem unless you too meet all the ctiteria and pass with flying colors!
2007-07-26 16:22:44 · answer #1 · answered by Lacey S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think you can without a lawyer. It is saddening to hear that the courts still do this sort of thing i.e. give automatic custody to the mother. This idea dates back to some fairly archaic research done in the 60's which was not a little bit old fashioned and based on the social mores of that time. However, the courts did have reason and we cannot comment on that. What I would suggest is that you approach the mother, call a truce, and say that you really want to be part of the boys life - he may also need to know you are still around - it must be awful for him to. I know it will probably kill you to be nice to this woman but for the sake of the child, you might have to wing it and get your acting skills up to scratch. You also need to stay around to monitor her drug situation. She may be clean just now but will it last? If not, someone has to be there to pick up the pieces. I wondered why you couldn't appeal?
2007-07-23 17:40:24 · answer #2 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to echo a lot of other answers and tell you to get a lawyer. You don't mention what your relationship is to the child in question? Are you a parent? Then you can appeal. If you are an aunt or grandparent, you will need to hang tight and make sure that children's services is kept informed of any deviation from the requirement. If you are a foster parent, you have done your job providing a home to a child while his primary caregiver got the help she needed to become the mother the child deserves.
People CAN change, especially when a child is involved, and can take drastic steps to become who they are meant to be for the sake of their child. Don't dismiss the possibility out of hand, but don't take your eyes away for a moment. If you are related, and you were the guardian, then you do have rights. Fight for them.
2007-07-25 13:48:56 · answer #3 · answered by C J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably had goals she had to meet in order for the courts to even consider giving her custody again.
Obviously those goals were met and the court believes that she should now have custody.
The only thing you could do is to contact an attorney and try to appeal the court's decision.
Good luck.
2007-07-18 23:37:04 · answer #4 · answered by just my opinion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd have a really hard time since you have a prior record. You'd be better off suggesting foster care for the little one until mom has gotten into a recovery system. It's better than nothing at this point.
2007-07-26 15:49:31 · answer #5 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot do ANYTHING legal with no lawyer advising you - and you need a lawyer to represent you in court.
2007-07-25 03:28:54 · answer #6 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer.
2007-07-18 23:35:22 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have no chance mate.
If you pursue the matter you'll be fixed with a maintenance order and no access.
Move on brother, don't be a loser.
2007-07-19 02:13:27 · answer #8 · answered by Paul R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly you have little chance even with a lawyer...without one you do not stand a snowball's chance in hell!
2007-07-19 05:09:42 · answer #9 · answered by huggz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to court bring up her history you will win
2007-07-25 19:05:40 · answer #10 · answered by blackrose8684 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋