Ok both me and my b/f are 20 and we both still live w/our parents b/c we go to college. Anyway.... his mom never cooks and only buys fast food every single day for lunch and dinner. Well me and my b/f have been buying groceries and cooking and every night we cook she always is asking what we are making and eats with us. So it is like her son is buying groceries and supplying her when it is actually supposed to be the other way around. I think it is crap and I always cook so I just dont think it is fair that he has to work and pay all his bills then on top of that buy groceries and feed his mom too when she has a job and is capable of taking care of herself. What do you think??
2007-07-18 16:15:26 · 10 answers · asked by greenturtle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You know what? Nevermind.. dont even answer.... the thing is .. I DONT LIKE HER THATS WHY!!!
2007-07-18 16:31:15 · update #1
You know what? Nevermind.. dont even answer.... the thing is .. I DONT LIKE HER THATS WHY!!!
2007-07-18 16:31:16 · update #2
Although I think your being very petty and selfish and not like an adult at all there is an easy solution. Cook at your house and have the bf over for dinner.
2007-07-18 17:09:15 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he was able to support himself, don't you think he would be? You said he lives at home with his mother. I'm assuming she's paying the mortgage, the taxes, the insurance and the upkeep on the house. She's probably still has him on her insurance plan, and she pays for that too. Sometimes dependents can cost several hundred dollars extra a month. Then there is his medical expenses, dental and vision. Who is paying for school? What about the electricity, gas, sewer, water and cable? What exactly is your b/f contributing?
I hate to be the one to tell you this, but there aren't any laws about supporting an adult. You and your b/f are adults. By the very grace of his Mother, he has a home and its amenities, perhaps school and probably much more.
So he provides his mother with dinner. He ought to be kissing her feet. And hopefully he is paying attention to your priorities. Your behavior says it all, hopefully he's listening.
2007-07-18 23:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
here is the thing he lives at home and u cook there so if the shoe was on the othere foot how do u think she will act. if u don't want to feed his mom u should stop cooking or cook at ur home and bring it to him or eat at ur parents home.these r the things u can do.unless u want to be rude and let her know the real deal then how would u look. think about
2007-07-18 23:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by souelreavertate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boyfriend is an adult. Mom has no responsibility to provide for him at all, nor is she responsible for cooking for him. And yet, she is providing him with shelter, utilities, and probably many other things right down to the tiolet paper he wipes his b*tt with. And you think it’s ‘crap’ that she wants to eat the food he buys? Grow up and learn some gratitude. Boyfriend should be thanking Mom for all that she is doing for him--which again, she is not required to do.
2007-07-18 23:25:39 · answer #4 · answered by kp 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are one ungrateful person. That woman raised him from birth, paid his bills for the last 20 years, took him to doctors, made sure he had food, gave him clothes, gave him life and you want to complain because she eats some of the food he buys? I think he owes her. She could kick his butt out to the street now that he's an adult and tell him to fend for himself, but she doesn't, so I don't think a little dinner is too much to give her.
2007-07-18 23:20:03 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
ok,i think you sound like a spoiled brat.who do you think fed your boyfriend all those years before you came around?think she handed him a bill the day he turned 18 or something.another thing,whos paying,rent,lights,phone,cable,water ?????it is her house so dont tell me he is.you should be ashamed of yourself,would you treat your mother that way?if so,she didnt beat you enough as a child.growup,tell your boyfriend to grow and go get yall own house with your own food so you dont have to share it with anyone.i would NEVER EVER turn a hungry person down ...not for any reason at all....what the hell is wrong with ya?????"
2007-07-18 23:27:45 · answer #6 · answered by sleepy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think being it is his mother and he doesn't find a problem with it, then you shouldn't either. After all he IS living with her. So for the amount of money the groceries are costing, he obviously finds some benefits to living with his parents, right? So why butt your nose in? Why are you begrudging his mother a plate of food?
2007-07-18 23:22:11 · answer #7 · answered by myopinion 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he is living there for free then he should be paying for groceries and cooking. It is HER house.
2007-07-18 23:19:28 · answer #8 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that is between your bf & his Mom. Besides, does he pay for stuff like the lights and water bills, etc? If she pays those, then it's only fair that he pays for the food.
2007-07-18 23:21:36 · answer #9 · answered by kiwi 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
wait until she goes out and gets her fast food and then cook dinner. maybe she will be full and won't eat your food you cook. but then again she is giving you a roof over your head for right now.
2007-07-18 23:21:13 · answer #10 · answered by helpful friend 1 · 0⤊ 4⤋