My cat, Princess, died on July 2 but i still cry myself to sleep and blame myself for her death.She wasnt JUST some cat we picked up off the street, she was a TRUE family member.
WHAT DO I DO???
2007-07-18 15:58:19 · 21 answers · asked by cameron c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This may sound corny but you can just try thinking of all the good times you and you cat had together, and try not blaming yourself. i always say that when someone dies, they were meant to go, that it was their time and you can't stop destiny. When a person dies they were meant to die. There is one other thing, i don't think your cat would have wanted you to feel so sorry and cay all the time, she probably would have wanted you to be happier and not sulk all of the time. try to occupy yourself with other thing and keep your mind off of her if you can. read a book, go online or just hang out with your friends.
2007-07-18 16:04:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I am sorry that your cat died. Animals always become a part of a family, so it is understandable that you have so much grief. I know it may be blunt , but all the crying in the world won't bring your cat back. Animals have shorter life expectancies then humans, so this was bound to happen as it does to most pet owners. Think of it this way, where would Princess have been if you had not taken her in? Her life was already greatly increase in both longevity and happiness by being taken in by what I can assume as a loving and caring family by your reaction. One day you will be able to come to terms with the fact that Princess lived a happy life and that it was out of your control. Every time you get sad remember those times that mad you love her, think of all the times that brought a smile to your face. I guarantee that you will have a smile on your face, and know that your cat is still there with you. Although she is not there in body, she is there in the love in your heart that you have for her. Again sorry for your loss, time and memories will bring you out of this.
2007-07-18 16:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you must continue to acknowledge your feelings and allow yourself to grieve this loved one.
Think of the quirky things the little kitty did that made you laugh and this will help you see that even though the kitty is gone you do have found memories instead of concentrating on the last thing.
Know that some day you were going to have to say good bye and it is not up to you to decide when that time is for kitty or anything or anybody else.
If kitty is like a family member to you, would kitty really want youto be sad for the rest of your life because she is gone? She will probably tell you to get over it and think about the good times o.k.
Time does not take away the loss, but it helps dilute the pain a little.
I hope this helps you. See " Never Feel the Void" on Po-Education page link below.
2007-07-18 16:13:30 · answer #3 · answered by Arene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. I'm sending you an e-hug. It is so painful to lose someone you love so much and the only thing that makes it easier is time. Remember the good times and don't blame yourself (easier said than done).
You loved Princess and she knew it. She was lucky to have you and a good family to care for her. Why don't you have some type of memorial service for her? Set aside some time, invite people over who care about you and know how you loved Princess, have a few appetizers and just talk about her! Share pictures, funny stories, whatever. Make a scrapbook or a tribute to her on your personal web page. Doing things to remember Princess and how much you loved her will help you say goodbye and to remind you how much fun you had together.
And for those of y'all out there who think it's silly to mourn a "pet", I feel sorry for you. You have never known true and unconditional love until you have loved and shared your life with an animal, especially a cat or dog. There's nothing like it!
2007-07-18 16:59:54 · answer #4 · answered by MollyUSA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your lost. I love cats myself and I consider them family too. I lost my mom 4 months ago. She was the real cat lover of the family. All I can say is that it takes time but the pain gets easier. Your going to miss your Princess alot everyday but just remember the good times. She is in a better place now. If it makes you feel any better my mom is taking care of her now. She is in good hands. Even though it isn't the same maybe one day (not now) getting another cat may help you. He/She will never take the place of Princess but you do have to move on. Good luck!!
2007-07-18 16:05:22 · answer #5 · answered by canalopes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you grieve that is what you do . you also put this matter in to perspective with the world around you . don't try to step off the earth instead just keep on walking and remembering this goes for the death of a cat or a person love is a good part of the cause of the sadness no matter what the love was for love is love so long as it is not for material objects.
2007-07-18 16:03:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Cameron. I know how you might feel. I had to put my little mate Bode to sleep on june7th.He was a foxyx, and I loved him, and he me.And Boy! Does it still hurt.So I know what you mean.How do you get over it?Well you know that is their Karma. How it works for an animal is hard to know.But my Spirit Guide says the animal chooses to come to us, so we need to be thankful for the time they spend with us.That they go before time is hard for us. We get to thinking-If Only.But I guess the pain and the tears will diminish eventually. The thoughts and the love will never die.And if there is an animal heaven, I hope we can go there one day.So I say to you do your grieving, but know your cat is close by in Spirit, and you may even feel her close by, and then it won't be so bad. God Bless.
2007-07-18 16:09:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. You are grieving, give yourself the time to grieve and little by little, day by day it will start to ease up. It takes time get over losing a loved one. Blaming yourself for her death won't bring her back. Think more about what a wonderful life you gave her....because of the overpopulation of domestic animals, many don't get a chance to have someone love them.
When the crying stops, get yourself another pet to care for and love....no, not a substitute....there is no substitute. If not another kitty, what about a dog? Go to the shelter and save a pet, I promise you they will love you in return.
2007-07-18 16:06:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U may need to get yourself another one to fill the void. I have 2 cats. They are my family. They mean the world to me. I love them as if they were My kids. I have had them both for 10 years. I know that one day they will get ill and die. I am so scared of that because I am going to be where you are right now and it is going to suck so bad...it is going to tear my heart out slowly. I feel your pain. Only time can allow your wounds to heal. Find something to hug. My best to you. God bless. Be well.
2007-07-18 16:24:42 · answer #9 · answered by smileyOne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u believe in god and animal heaven just remember that she is in a better place ....but other then that just remember the good times don't mean this cruel but you just have to get past it , i had to put 3 cats to sleep once i had for one 15 years and the other 17 years one i found in my yard had for 2 years but he was sicks had to put down and my boyfriends of 4 years died all this happened in 2 years its was a big shocker but i just kept remember that now it hurts me but they don;t have to deal with life which can be hell at times, and time will heal your pains it does hurt for a while but it will ease up
2007-07-18 16:06:06 · answer #10 · answered by notme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋