We've been together for 3 months and hes been cheating on me the whole time. I promised myself that i would NEVER be with someone that cheated on me. He toldme that he loved me and that he cared. If it was any other guy i wouldnt of cared because i never cared about them other guys. But we were best friends before we started dating and i love him with all my heart. What should i say to him that will make him relize how bad he has hurt me?
2007-07-18 15:51:05 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good-By, you deserve better..............Nuf Said
2007-07-18 15:56:20 · answer #1 · answered by Elo Fudpucker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could always pat him on the back and congratulate him on a job well done.
He gets to see two women and one of them knows about the other but he says he loves her..so that makes it all alright doesn't it.... and you are wondering what to say to him!
I'd say he's got you in a right mess if you can't even think straight enough to realise that if the guy cheated on you the entire time you were seeing him that the fact you love him and you may tell him how much he hurt you etc etc etc will stop him doing it again knowing full well he can get away with it if he tries again.
Take if from a man who has cheated on his wife and was "let off" by her. Forgiving infidelity because you love him will just make you look weak and it won't stop him hurting you again. It will in fact make it easier for him.
So you have two choices. Say goodbye or hold on to that man with all your strength whilst he runs rings around you until you marry him... then divorce him and get the house, the kids and all the money....
2007-07-18 17:43:06 · answer #2 · answered by Martin G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can not love someone in that short amount of time and if he really loved you then he would of not cheated on you in the first pace. I have been in many relationships where the guy would tell me that he loved me and I would say it back ( but now when I think about it I know that I didnt really love any of them) but when they said that they loved me it wasnt true..Some of them talked to other girls in innappropriate ways which I would consider cheating even after saying that they loved me..So you need to tell him that you are really hurt by waht he did and that you really liked him Tell him you know that he doesnt mean that he loves you because if he did he wouldnt cheat on you and he wouldnt want any girl but you. Ask him why you arent good enough for him. and let him know that you are serious that you arent gona be with him aymore...You should say that you dont even know that yall will be friends like yall were anymore because he hurt you so much ( say this even if you know yall will be friends it will make him think about all he did and he will feel bad if you mean anything to him)
Dont get weak though and let him take control of you...you have to be strong. Dont take him back unless he shows you that he isnt gona cheat ever again...and if you take him back and he does cheat never he with him again...You really need to make him beg for you back..that should make u see if he really cares or not..
Good luck!
2007-07-18 18:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him to bugger off. Although when your in love I guess it's a lot more difficult. If someone loved and cared for you they wouldn't cheat on you. Why did he cheat in the first place if he loves and cares for you? I guess tell him exactly how he made you feel. Does he not realise how much something like this can hurt someone? I would re think the relationship as a relationship needs trust. I would get rid of him, find someone who is gonna treat you better and really love and care for you.
2007-07-18 15:59:42 · answer #4 · answered by xoɟ ʍous 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's is not your best friend. He doesn't care about your feelings, even if he says he does. People show you how much they love you by how they treat you. He doesn't love you, or he wouldn't cheat.
You need to ask yourself why you are putting up with a man who cheats on you, and doesn't respect you.
And why do you love someone who treats you so terribly?
::What should i say to him that will make him relize how bad he has hurt me?::
You should say, "Good-bye" and never talk to him again.
2007-07-18 20:50:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i wouldn't say anything...i would just cut him off and not contact him again, after all this was a very short relationship so i think you should just finish it...not tell him and let him wonder why you left him, if he is cheating why should you care about what your going to say to him? he didn't care about you when he was porking all kinds of girls...just walk away and don't say anything....ain't you glad that you found out now instead of a few years down the road? best to end it now while the going is good...he said he loves and cares for you...NO HE DOESN'T....he's not only a cheat, he's a liar too....
2007-07-18 15:58:49 · answer #6 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you were best friends before you started dating, I am assuming that you both are capable of talking to each other rationally and that you must know a lot about him. Ask him why he cheats and if he has done this before to his ex-gfs, then you should know what to do. You deserve better and you can always find love in someone else.
2007-07-18 17:13:39 · answer #7 · answered by snoringcouchprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't tell you to give him up because i know how hard will it be for you . and also i can't ask you to cheat him because it will be a disaster if you did .
but i can tell you something else . you can give him the feeling that you are cheating him and that you don't care for him anymore.
he says that he loves you . if he really does he'll blew his top and will be very angry . in that situation you should be calm and tell him that if he was angry because you cheated him for a short time he have to imagine the pain he caused to you by cheating you in months. after that when you see that there's some regret and everything is alright you can tell him that you care for him and that you didn't cheated him.
* believe me . he won't realize how bad he has hurt you till he try that hurt and that pain .
Good luck
2007-07-18 16:05:53 · answer #8 · answered by Amy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a guy, I would advise you to just end it and go on. If you say anything, he could walk away feeling smug or believing you are somehow weak for being bothered enough to mention it. Sounds horrible, but some people think of it as a badge. I've done the same thing when I was younger. End it, tell everyone you know, but don't let on to him.
2007-07-18 15:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by GoGoGleason 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love hurts, do what's going to make you happy in the long run. If he says he'll stop, then he'll do what it takes to stop. If he's not willing to change his ways or habits, then he really isn't worth it. If he truly loved you and didn't want to lose you, he would do what it takes to keep you around, not push you away further. Also, don't let him get away with doing this, if he knows you know about it but don't make a fuss over it, he's going to know he can get away with it cause he knows he can just come back to you whenever he wants!
2007-07-18 15:56:30 · answer #10 · answered by sweetsistah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm...You may love him, but it doesn't sound like he good for you. It will be hard and you will be hurting for a long time. You are going to reach within yourself and good people around you to get over him. You also will have to get over the mistrust you will feel for other men you meet in the future. It takes a long time. Give yourself some breathing room.
2007-07-19 10:48:40 · answer #11 · answered by Shanni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋