so this married guy has been hitting on me... I find it very tacky but hes an old friend so I don't want to be mean. How to best approach the situation?
2007-07-18 15:49:19 · 14 answers · asked by krissy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try not to talk to him as much, may just be the guys just having a little fun but if he keeps going ur gonna have to ask him or mayb even tell his wife.
2007-07-18 15:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by 342515234 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that he is making you very uncomfortable, you do not appreciate the attention, and that he IS married.
If you continues to hit on you after you have clearly stated this to him, avoid being around him. If you asks you why you're not around anymore, repeat the first paragraph.
As someone else stated, he is not a true friend if he is putting you into such a position.
And remember - not all guys take "hints." Be straightforward and tell him.
2007-07-18 22:57:57 · answer #2 · answered by dustytheenglishteacher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some married guys just like to see if they still "got it". I find it tacky, but they think that other women are flattered. My husband would never do this. I would always ask him where his wife is, or what would she think or just disapprove of what he says as sometimes guys are just looking to get a reaction
2007-07-18 22:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by MMMomma C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straight up with him ask him what his problem is and if he isnt happy married then he should get a divorce tell him how tacky it is if your not honest he wont get the picture.
2007-07-18 22:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by ???.??LIFE'S THE PITS??.?.?? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him alone, he is married. he has his own life. Although he's an old friend, in the end you'll look just as guilty. And simply for respect out of his wife, just let him be, it's one less girl she may have to worry about.
2007-07-18 22:53:54 · answer #5 · answered by sweetsistah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask him if he's joking, or if he's being intentionally inappropriate. If you phrase it that way, he'll probably say he's joking but I believe he'll pick up on the fact that it makes you uncomfortable. Or, just tell him the way he talks to you is insulting and disrespectful and you'd like it to stop. It's not being mean to tell someone they're hurting you, it's just being truthful.
2007-07-18 22:56:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's no friend, a friend wouldn't put you in that postition.
Tell him you are not interested, period. Tell him if he brings it up again, you are going right to his wife. Don't be nice about this, it makes you look like you like the attention.
2007-07-18 22:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and tell him you enjoy his friendship and don't want to be the one to hurt his wife or the friendship the two of you have.
2007-07-18 23:00:44 · answer #8 · answered by Gail M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to put out or shut up , then show him the tape recorder!!!
2007-07-18 22:53:06 · answer #9 · answered by MR Obvious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
EREINS ANSWER IS GOOD -- ADVICE ON DIVORCE OR NOT IS NOT A GOOD IDEA NOR IS THREATENING TO TELL HIS WIFE -- BUT DON'T PLAY HIS GAME -- BE HONEST -- TELL HIM STRAIGHT UP YOU DON'T APPRECIATE HIS MOVES AND ARE NOT INTERESTED -- GIVE HIM NO ENCOURAGEMENT --
2007-07-18 22:54:55 · answer #10 · answered by prgsas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋