the other day my ex told me that he was moving away forever and he seemed happy about it. of course i wasnt happy because i still love him but there's nothing i can do. he said he doesnt love me anymore and i know it's true because he's not the same around me anymore. i want to write him a letter to tell him how i feel and that i still love him and that i want us to keep in touch even though he's 3 hours away. do u think that would be a good idea?
2007-07-18 15:40:20 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-07-18 15:42:51 · answer #1 · answered by woowooowoooowoooooo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I answered a question of yours earlier about wanting to cut this same ex MIL and her son -- your ex husband -- out of your son's life forever because you dislike them. I think that you're a sick, twisted person who would benefit greatly from some therapy. Seriously. And don't write the letter.
2016-05-17 05:58:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st thing you need to ask yourself is 'why is he my ex?' Remember a relationship only works when both people want to be involved.
You say you know he doesn't love you anymore by the way he behaves around you, clearly things have changed. So now ask yourself, 'am i still in love with him, or am i in love with the MEMORY of what he was once like?'
The answers to these questions should give you a clearer view to your question. I mean do you really want to give your time, energy, emotions and love to a guy who is about to move 3 hours away from you?? If it was me, i'd want a guy who is willing to hang around.
hope this answer helps you a bit. GOOD LUCK.
2007-07-18 15:53:54 · answer #3 · answered by buddsbait 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write the letter but don't mail it. YOu need to vent, get it out of your system. He has told you he does not love you anymore so it is best to let him go. It is the only way that you can start meeting other people when you have let this person go and are ready to move on
2007-07-18 15:43:46 · answer #4 · answered by MMMomma C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no i dont think its a good idea. im sorry that youre still in love with him, but if someone tells you that they are not in love with you anymore...get the hint..you are going to have to let him go. if you write a letter pouring out all your feelings..hes going to do one or two things..laugh and throw it away because hell know youre still hung up on him or boast to his buddies that youre all on his jock..
healing takes time..try dating someone else..if you have to write him a letter..just wish him well and see if you can still be friends..if you want. he doesnt feel that same way about you as he once did.
2007-07-18 15:53:46 · answer #5 · answered by sweetness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah write him a letter but don't be too obsessive. Telling him you still care and he will always have a place in your heart is a good way to express it. And if you can still be friends good for you. Keep in touch. Just be careful because if you still love him and he doesn't still love you. Its def. gonna hurt if he meets a new girl. Its still ok to love someone that you can't have but try to get over him. Maybe try dating around a little bit. Just remember you can't help who you love. And if he doesn't love you then you need to respect that.
2007-07-18 15:49:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only 3 hours away? My ex is 2,000 miles away....
I still keep in touch with him up to this day. I'm not sure about telling your ex what you feel, but at least send him letters or e-mails just to see how he is doing. You two may not be dating anymore, but it doesn't hurt to keep in touch as friends.
2007-07-18 15:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, it is better to break all ties and move on.You are just torturing yourself if you keep in contact. He has made it clear that he does not have feelings for you and the more you hang on the harder it will be to get over your ex. Dont waste your time and energy on a dead end road. You will get over him in time and eventually you will find someone else who will love you in return and someone who deserves your love. I am so sorry you are having to go thru this hurt but your heart will heal in time.
2007-07-18 15:52:03 · answer #8 · answered by momo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a good idea. He doesn't want to keep in touch, and he probably already knows you still love him. Telling him will probably just make him want to get away sooner, to be blunt. Use your time to let him go and get over your feelings for him, and find someone who loves you back!
2007-07-18 15:43:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. If he has made it clear that he doesn't want you, please don't make the same mistake I made (you know putting your heart on the floor for him to step on when he leaves). I wrote my ex a letter that managed to circulate itself to people that I did not like that winded up making fun of my feelings and I winded up feeling like a fool. Just simply tell him that you hope he keeps in touch while he is gone. Save yourself the heartache.
2007-07-18 15:45:02 · answer #10 · answered by Mysterious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. He doesnt' want to be with you... chasing after him isn't going to get him back and it'll just make you look creepy.
If you still need to get what you ahve to say off your chest, write a letter to him saying everything you want to say... pour your heart out. AND DON'T SEND IT. This'll get it off your chest. Good therapy. Then you can move on and quit obsessing over someone who doesn't reciprocate your feelings.
2007-07-18 15:50:55 · answer #11 · answered by deepvioletfire 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋