I realize that this is something that is normal to some extent, but it's really getting out of control. He either has one or both hands down there at all times. While he's eating, sleeping, bathing, standing in a check out line at the grochery store. It's funny, but getting annoying now. We are constantly reminding him to pull his hand or hands out! I have also let him know that it is o.k to touch himself there, I don't want him to feel bad about it-I just want him to go to his room. He's 6 years old and this just started about 3 months ago. Any advise will be appreciated!
2007-07-18 15:23:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Teach your son what is public and what is private. Give him places that he is able to touch himself, ex. bathroom and bedroom. Explain that he need to be alone when is touches himself and not with friends or family. The more you down play the action the faster it will stop. For example, if he starts in a store ask him if it is public and private. When he tells you it is public then give a look that tells him to stop. When continue your shopping.
2007-07-18 15:33:36 · answer #1 · answered by jens 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We went through the same thing, and we just kept having the "private parts, private places" conversation until the message sunk in. Sometimes I don't think they even realize they're doing it. What about just saying, "Oh, go wash your hands now" every time you see him with his hands in his pants? I don't mean in an angry or punishing way, but just the same as we wash our hands after we go to the bathroom, we should wash our hands after we touch our privates. Don't make a big deal out of it, but if he has to go wash his hands every time he touches himself then he'll probably get tired of the hassle and stop doing it in public places.
2007-07-19 01:53:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep up the reminders that it's inappropriate to do in public and also make him wash his hands every time you catch him doing it so that he becomes annoyed with washing his hands every friggen second.
I teach this age group and all the boys are constantly itching, touching, scratching etc. so I feel your pain :) Be thankful it's not the other end he's scratching heheh
2007-07-18 23:47:54 · answer #3 · answered by Maren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why he's doing it. Mine says it keeps his hands warm! LOL! Mine doesn't do it so much in public, but I'd say ignore it, as long as he's not pulling his pants down, you should probably not make a big deal about it. I'll just say "hands" to mine and he gets 'em outta there.
2007-07-18 22:43:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speech time!
" I know you like touching yourself, and I know it feels good, but you don't do it in front of other people. It's rude, like picking your nose. If you feel like it, go to your room and shut the door." [ this worked for both my boys ]
If he does it after the speech, take him to his room immediately. If in public, take him home and put in his room.
After that, work out more repurcussions - wearing scratchy mittens? 6 is too old to keep doing this.
Also - is his underwear too small? Shorts or pants too small?
Allergic to new detergent/softener? Urinary tract infection?
Rash? You or husband need to check it out.
2007-07-18 22:43:22 · answer #5 · answered by Nurse Susan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha, it sounds so cute but when it actually happens to you...it's not that cute huh? well, it's completely normal...according to Freud that is the time where they start realizing touching their genitals gives them pleasure, so it'll be very hard to get him to stop. i, myself, don't have any kids so i don't know how to solve this...but just keep telling yourself he'll get out of this stage soon...he will.
2007-07-18 22:49:38 · answer #6 · answered by fairy_wings527 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if i was you i would try to get him more interested in something so he doesnt think of putting his hands down there which will help him get into the process of not needing to put his hands down there.
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2007-07-18 23:04:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His pants are too tight. Get him larger underwear with less restrictive elastic.
2007-07-18 22:32:22 · answer #8 · answered by jamoca 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him if he dont leave it alone it will swell up and fall off...my son had that problem..thats what i did..i told him if he keeps doing it when people r around it will fall off...it worked..he never did it again in public...and no it didnt traumatize him telling him that...but it did work
2007-07-19 06:59:23 · answer #9 · answered by kcaverly73 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my oppinion i would just let him be. Let him go hang around his friends and then he will see that they are not doing the same thing and that is not so "cool" and he should stop.
2007-07-18 22:33:27 · answer #10 · answered by lifeguard50020042005 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋