I have been with a girl for over a year and a half, and we have a six month old child. We have a trying relationship sometimes and have been through a lot.
She is bi-sexual, but we seemed to be committed to be together. After a calm discussion, she said that she thinks that she may be a lesbian, so I decided to break up with her.
We are still friends, and this was a week ago. We do not live together, and are not married (I am paying child support), and I still help out a couple of nights a week with watching our son. She saids that she misses me, but does not want to be committed to a relationship. Other than assisting with my son, I really do not want to pursue anything further because I feel that it won't be in the best interest of our son (given the situation). I don't want to make things more complicated. I don't care about her life choice, just a little hurt. I love her, but I can't do that.
Did I do the right thing by breaking up with her, or what would you have done?
2007-07-18 15:18:45 · 4 answers · asked by Query 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Does she want you for the security and her girlfriend for the sex? I mean seriously - if she doesn't want to be committed you did the right thing. You don't want someone wishing she was having sex with someone else all the time that would be no fun. She probably just likes having you as a backup. Don't fall for it. Help raise your child and move on with someone else.
2007-07-18 15:23:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing. She needs to do some soul searching and figure out what she wants. I can imagine how hurt you must be. She may just be confused. Only time will tell.
2007-07-19 01:06:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay with her. Two parent familys are better for the child. Maybe it will work out. You can decide later if you really need to move on. Don't be in a hurry.
2007-07-18 22:22:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing.
You are involved in the childs live both financially and physically. You let her go to persue her happines and you are persuing your own happines.
I think it is as close as perfect thing to do as it can be.
Alternative is, you both stay together for the child's sake. She is misserable because she a lesbian, you are misserable and the child is misserable because both of you are miserable.
Good Luck.
2007-07-18 22:30:52 · answer #4 · answered by Dimitar A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋