Why!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

Ok I'm a Christian and I try to be a good one I try to grow in him so does my older sister but when ever we slip and do ANYTHING "wrong" our dad ALWAYS says how her and I are going to hell or the her I not Christians or her and I are going to die at a young age? ect,ect.... EVER time I try to grow in my faith he pushes it all down by saying stuff like that. What do I do and What do I say? THANKS SO MUCH for Your Help!!

Answer 1

I hate to tell you this but your father is 'WAY out of line doing and saying such things. He is *A*typical as a Christian, and not at all representative of Christianity. VERY misguided and very extreme. Very possibly even an RRR Cult lemming.

Suggest you and your sister both go to your pastor and consult with him on this matter. They can be very good at helping to correct such things.

Answer 2

You use what God gave you! Its mounted on top of you neck and is connected to your heart.
It's the secret person you talk to when things get down.
The one thing you can do is learn what your creator plans for his earth and where you fit into his plan.
The point here is when you understand what things are all about you then will be the one in your family that sets the example for the rest including your Dad.
You need to forget what you think it means to be a good Christian, but learn what God requires of you so you can truly be a Good True Christian.
You need to learn what the scriptures say, and then apply them in your life,set the example in the family so the others can also learn.
The frist requirement with a reward is quoted at John 17:3.
To learn the truth of the bible it is always better to ask questions, then see the scriptual answers, these answers will move you to tear off that old personality and put a new one on.
For example Jesus said at Mathew 5:5 that the meek or mild tempered ones would inherit the earth? His forefather King David said the same thing at Psalms 37:9-11. So is God's plan to have people live forever on earth?
Jesus also said how we should pray and at Mathew 6: 9,10. If you read this and give it alittle thought You will understand what he was saying and then look at Psalms 83:18, and Daniel 2:44 and see if this is part of Gods plan? Also look at Revelation 21:3,4 and see if this also fits into Gods plans.
The whole point I am making to you is if you know what God plans, It can make a Big diffrence in your life, your attitude about how you think and feel.
It will give you a reason to have faith and hope, now and in the near furture. Remember that all scriptures are inspired of God and you can use them to help yourself and all your loved ones 2 Timothy 3:16.
If you have questions and want a God given scriptural answer just ask. [e-mail]

Answer 3

Your dad sounds seriously misguided. Our differences in religion aside, does he really believe that children die young because they aren't christian? Because when I worked in a children's hospital, I saw many children die. Several amish children of cancer. I know amish are a christian sect, and in the area I was living in the majority of people identified as christian. Thus the majority of dying children were christian. I don't think they were sick because they'd done something wrong!
You may need to be the teacher in this case.
It happens. Parents are not always right. It sounds like you know that but need validation. I've learned a lot from my children. Maybe you can help him be a better parent.

Answer 4

I hate to say it but your dad sounds like a fat-headed jerk. His narrow minded beliefs are making him that way. It sounds to me like you're already in hell . . . though hell is just a made up place . . . no doubt invented by your dad's role-models. His fear of some mythological hell, and false belief that he's somehow righteous, are driving him to act like a moron. Sorry, but that's what I think. As for you, if you see the "fruit" of his religion, or rather, if you are the victim of it, let it be a wake up call. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree, after all. Do you want to grow up to do the same things to your own children, for the same reasons your dad does them to you?

Answer 5

Remind him who should throw the first stone...

Tell him you are here to learn and God knows that and forgives mistakes. No one goes to hell because of mistakes, you go to hell if you are rotten inside and don't love. If you are sorry about what you did (truly sorry and regretful) God will look down and smile on you. ^_^ He's a good guy, don't forget that.

In those ocasions, just think to yourself, "Lord, forgive my father, he doesn't know what he is saying". That's a VERY powerful prayer, just think in which occasion it was used for the first time...

[edit] do NOT distance from your father. (someone above adviced you that... That's also a sin... just love him)

[edit 2] DO give a star to this question

Answer 6

You realize that your dad is flawed in his thinking and in how he relates to you and your sister. He is trying to be a dad the only way he knows how. He thinks that if he scares you he can control you. So ALWAYS take what he says to you objectively and not to your heart.

Continue to grow in your faith by talking to God directly. When you do something wrong, ask God to help you grow and change and help you to forgive yourself. We all make mistakes. God forgives you.

Answer 7

Yes, say "I was wrong".

God loves you.

Dad may simply be demanding perfection from you and you are inexperienced and immature.

Even adults make mistakes.

Just live and learn. Some parents are like that - they want to brag about how wonderful their children are and all. And if you are not perfect someone may see it.

As far as condemning - well only God can do that and if we believe that Jesus is Lord and want to do better then we're gonna be okay.

Your relationship is between you and God and no one can get between that.

May God bless and keep you - sts

Answer 8

i'm not christian, i'm pagan. just so ya know upfront. any group (spiritual or otherwise) has it's share of fundies. even pagans. these are people who believe only they walk in the light and only they are able to pass on the judgement of their deity. i think your dad may be one of them.

now, growing up is hard and you're bound to butt heads with your father on a lot of issues. i do believe, however, that him frightening you with hell and the judgement of your god is irrational and irresponsible. your relationship with your deity is personal and only your deity (in christianity, i believe) can pass down judgement upon anyone.

you will have to be the parent in this case, because your dad seems to flounder a bit at what to do when you make mistakes. a good response might be, "i'm sorry your mad at me, dad, i will try to do better. but what is between god and i is between god and i."

in the end, only you can really develop your relationship with your god, and i think that you are doing fine. don't let your dad leave a bad taste in your mouth about your spiritual growth. realize that kids don't come with how to books and that even he can make mistakes when it comes to parenting.

after all, one day you will move out and you will get to parent yourself.

Answer 9

Actually, there's a book called Dangerous Wonder by Mike Yaconelli that talks a little about this. Messy Spirituality by Mike Yaconelli is also a good book. Anyway, here's a cool exert from Dangerous Wonder you might like:
"...Christ's disciples, new to the faith, were giddywith the exhilaration of following Jesus. They were clueless and naive, filled with awe and wonder. Hungry,they begin to tromp through a field picking food to eat. Suddenly their reverie is broken by Pharisees yelling, 'WHAT ARE YOU DOING? You are not to work on the Sabbath! Religion is about rules and regulations and you are acting irresponsibly.'
"Dream stealers.
"They might as well have said, 'Look, religion shouldn't make you full of life, it should be a serious business. Religion is all about rules and regulations. Learn where the lines are. Now obey the Sabbbath and behave like the rest of us and we'll give you another chance.' In effect, Jesus said to them, 'You can have your rules. I'll keep giving people their dream of an adventurous faith!' Christ is the Dream Giver who wants us to listen to His dream for us so we can run like children in the fields of His grace." -Dangerous Wonder, about Matt 12:1-8

I'll post a plain Bible verse now:
"As it is written:
'There is no one righteous, not even one;
there is no one who understands,
no one who seeks God.
All have turned away,
they have together become worthless;
there is no one who does good,
not even one.
'Their throats are open graves;
their tongues practice deceit.'
'The poison of vipers is on their lips.'
'Their mouths are full of cursing and bitterness.'
'Their feet are swift to shed blood;
ruin and misery mark their ways,
and the way of peace they do not know.'
'There is no fear of God before their eyes.'
"Now we know that whatever the law says, it says to those who are under the law, so that every mouth may be silenced and the whole world held accountable to God. Therefore no one will be declared righteous in his sight by observing the law; rather, through the law we become conscious of sin.
"But now a righteousness from God, apart from law, has been made known, to which the Law and the Prophets testify. This righteousness from God comes through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus." -The Bible, Romans 3:10-24

Good luck. :)

Okay, one last one:
"But the other criminal rebuked him. 'Don't you fear God,' he said, 'since you are under the same sentence? We are punished justly, for we are getting what our deeds deserve. But this man has done nothing wrong.'

"Then he said, 'Jesus, remember me when you come into your kingdom.'

"Jesus answered him, 'I tell you the truth, today you will be with me in paradise.'" -The Bible, Luke 23:40-43

Answer 10

Wow, your dad needs to be humbled and learn that no one's perfect and that God excepts us at different points of growth. That is wrong for him to tell you you're going to hell if you sin. He is sinning by telling you that and discouraging you. The Lord said that it would be better that a millstone be tied around someone's neck and he be thrown into the sea than to cause one of His little one's (like yourself) to stumble. Our God is a forgiving and loving God. A true Christian won't use that as an excuse to sin but we all fall short of the glory of God every day. God bless you.