When I get mad at my bf most times I start yelling?

Question

What can I do before I get to that point?

Answer 1

Leave the room until you calm down.

Answer 2

Taking a deep hard look into this situation, we may find it interesting to learn that most of the time when one person has a habit of yelling at another person, its because that person sees them selves as smarter or more intellegent than the other person, and in some warped way feels that they have the right to treat the other person in that manner. This, however is not true. Girls, try a little understanding. Young men are not that bright. Although they may possess the raw intellegence needed for life, they still have clouded judgement concerning most things because usually the only things on thier minds is women. This keeps them from being the caring & compassionite bf that you would like them to be. Be partient, they will snap & eventually come around. in the mean time, give the guys a break. Thie sense of hearing is just fine. Yelling will not change anything about the situation!!!

Answer 3

If he's doing something that's bothering you, try talking to him calmly about it instead of waiting until the point where you are mad. If he does something to really piss you off.. go for a walk or listen to some music... spend some time alone until you've calmed down and then try and talk to him about it. Trust me, you'll accomplish a lot more this way rather then yelling. you think guys tune you out when you're talking.. it's even worse when you're snapping lol..

Answer 4

First of all, yelling resolves nothing. All you doing is worsening the situation. You really need to caculate in your head before you lose it, why are you so upset? Nobody should ever be able to bring you to the point to lose your cool. Definitely think before you say anything, breath a little, but focus on the most important part, is it worth getting upset over?

Answer 5

If you are yelling it is an outward sign of an inward hurt. Talk to him about his actions and see if what he said or did was really out to hurt you and if yes, then you two made not be made for each other. Yelling on the other hand is a downward spiral that breaksdown the relationship. If you truly love each other, do those things that love would do and apply to your lives and this will save your relationship and put you on the grounds for marriage..

Answer 6

Just take some deep breathes and think about the situation more clearly and try to see it from his point of view. If this doesn't help, then just tell him exactly why you're mad and what he's doing that's making you angry.

Just try to talk to him... communication, respect, and honesty are the keys to a healthy relationship.

Answer 7

I do that too. But I do it with every one.

normally I carry hard candy in my pocket and when I feel mad I eat one, it keeps my mouth busy while I think of some thing better other then yelling.

Answer 8

One of the hardest things to do is to take a time out. But in this situation it is necessary. Just tell him "I am angry and can't talk right now or I'll loose it. Give me some time and we'll chat when I calm down." He'll respect you so much more for that and it will save your relationship.

Answer 9

1. Realize that your anger is yours...it belongs to you and it is your feeling. Take time to feel how anger feels in your body. Realize that anger is your reaction. he cannot really cause you to be angry.
2. learn techniques like counting to 10, taking 4 deep breaths before you talk, etc.
3. Learn to talk about your real feelings (i'm disappointed you came to pick me up later than we agreed)
4. Try listening to you bf and his point of view.
5. Try yelling and hitting pillows when you are alone to get those feelings out.

Answer 10

+ask yourself what he did wrong in the first place and excactly what or why your mad at him. then decide if its worth yelling at him for. you dont want to come off as an annoying girlfriend so make sure its worth you yelling. give him a break sometimes and ask him about it =]

Answer 11

Talk to the boyfriend before you yell, listen to what he has to say before jumping to conclusions. Maybe you need therapy, my ex use to yell at me a lot then he got therapy.