I'm conflicted...I'm still in love with a man whom I dated for 8 months, had the best sex ever, and tons of fun. We broke up because he didn't feel in love with me...just cared about me and had fun with me. Now he's seeing someone new but still wants to play a few times a month with me. I would love to but know I couldn't handle it...or could I? Any similar experiences.
2007-07-18 14:16:29 · 22 answers · asked by pollyp 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Forget about him and go date other guys. He wants you as part of his harem. If you don't want that, leave.
2007-07-18 14:18:58 · answer #1 · answered by Mike M 4 · 8⤊ 2⤋
Polly don't even give it a thought. Is that what you really want of life to be someones toy, at his beckon call? I have a daughter your age, and I would do my darnedest to stop her from being used by anyone, especially a gigolo like this guy of yours. Your young yet, don't waste your life on someone like this. What kind of happiness are you really going to have down the road? Don't you want to spend your old age with someone that loves you not just for sex, but for you. What kind of a life will you have for a couple of fun days a month. Com-on get real. Find a good guy for yourself. Are you an old dish rag? Only to be used once in a while. I think not. Good Luck, be the lady I think you are.
2007-07-18 22:33:25 · answer #2 · answered by Butch. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm fairly close to your age and not married and never will be. I always tell the woman up front there will never be a wedding in the future. I don't lie or lead anyone on. We can have a lot of fun but any time it isn't what she wants I'm not trying to convince her to give up what she wants.
It sounds like you two simply want something different in life.
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It doesn't sound like he lied to you or led you on so I'm a little surprised at the childish comments.
"He wants you as part of his harem"
"don't let him use you this way"
She's an adult older than most or all of you. If she doesn't have a handle on her life then shame on her for reaching 46 and still being a child.
2007-07-18 21:21:30 · answer #3 · answered by elurle 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Me personally I am 20 years old and I don't have time for someone to be playing with my feelings or being someone's sideline hoe. If I am going to be with someone I am not sharing with another chick so at 46 if somebody is still coming at me with that, It would not even be a thought of "can I handle it"? You should be in a healthy sane relationship with someone that wants you and only you, and if not you need to tell them to keep it moving because your a grown *** women and you don't have time for childish games.
2007-07-18 21:28:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well all depend in what you expect from this relationship.
If, even thoug you are in love with him, you still want to have sex, go ahead and accept his conditions, but if deep inside you were expecting to live with him or maybe get married, I would not reccomend to stay in.
So, coldly analyze the situation and decide what is best for you and stick with it!
2007-07-18 21:28:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are 46 and you should know better! This guy is a jerk for wanting to cheat on his new girlfriend by using you. Also, YOU are the one who will get hurt in all this, not him! What are you thinking? You still love this guy, and he will break your heart again. He does not care about you. You need a guy who will care about YOU. They are out there, but you have to stop thinking about this idiot.
2007-07-18 21:24:34 · answer #6 · answered by sportguy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I understand your feelings but don't let him use you this way. You deserve better. You deserve someone to love you as much as you love them. This man does not. He wants his cake and ea it too. He knows you will comply because you love him. Don't do this to yourself. Try to get over him now. I know it's hard. I have feelings for someone that does not feel the same for me. At the same time, I would not like it if he used me. I wouldn't let him. I'd rather be alone, hard as that is. In time, you will find someone who will love you as you should be loved.
2007-07-18 21:23:51 · answer #7 · answered by motorgirl56 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get out now why you can. He obviously is only interested in one thing and you are bound to get hurt. You have to protect yourself. It will be hard to part ways now but think how mych more difficult it will be down the road when nothing in your relationship changes. Good Luck! You deserve a man that will love you not love your body! You are more than that!
2007-07-18 21:20:26 · answer #8 · answered by Mindy R 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes. I had a very similar experience. Please don't do it. While you are with him you will feel great and think that he might care about you more than he says he does, and you will get your hopes up no matter how much you tell yourself not to. And then when you get home, and hear about him and his new girl, the pain is so unbearable. Spare yourself.
2007-07-18 21:23:40 · answer #9 · answered by lisa42088 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it takes a person who knows how to seperate friends who can be intimate together from ones who want more. If you want him back without seeking for a new guy yourself, you might be in for a bad ride. but if your strong enough to know your friendship ends at that intimate level and you both just need a release now and then go for it.
2007-07-18 21:20:00 · answer #10 · answered by Aggin Tad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you know better and you know that you know better...this is just the case of being vulnerable and missing and wanting to be with the man you think you love...i'm not saying you're desperate...because you're not...it's a woman thing...we want to be there and love and care for that one guy you love soo much even if he doesn't love you back
please don't fall into the trap and remember your worth as a woman...if he's just wanting to play, he's not worth it, you know that...just keep getting your inner strength and you'll be fine ;)
2007-07-18 21:22:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋