My boyfriend has had a problem with drugs. I told him that it was them or me and he chose me, but then i found out that he was just doing them behind my back and lieing to my face! I swore that i would never forgive him and i still haven't, i wanted to break up with him but then he went to his dad and told him the truth and now he's only allowed to see his father and I as well as taking drug tests. Im very proud. But should I stay?
he is doing better, he's doing really well and he does love me. And i love him.. but i still don't know what to do.
2007-07-18 14:13:55 · 9 answers · asked by April D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's willing to change, and made an effort and take actions. That's really good, and it goes to show how important you are to him. Drug is not an easy thing to kick. You need to give him time. Your support is very much needed in a time like this. Get past your anger and betrayal and give him the love and support he needs now.
2007-07-18 14:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would also say forgive him there is no need for holding a grudge it only leads to more nagativity. But i would move on for awile at least and see if he cleans his act if he does starting over with him may be a choice at that time. I would be weary of trust in some issues because he lied to you before. You shouldn't just put up with it after all you did give him a choice and it seems like he wanted to have his cake and eat it to. You should be all he needs to have fun not random drugs thats just going to lead to possible death and you fealing even worse because the person you love is now dead over something dumb.
2007-07-18 14:23:10 · answer #2 · answered by Frazier 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should forgive him this time. everyone makes mistakes and he came clean to you and is trying to make himself better. i think you should just tell him how much you care about him and how badly drugs could mess up his life. he needs someone there to support him through this and i think you could be that someone. my bf and i had this same problem with me and drinking but he stuck by me and made me realize how stupid it is and hes made me a better person and i love him so much for it. and later your bf will realize how much you've done for him and he'll thank you for not giving up on him.
2007-07-18 14:28:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive, but move on. Let him and his father deal with his problems. Don't get sucked into them.
2007-07-18 14:19:06 · answer #4 · answered by lisa42088 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If in doubt, keep out. You say you love him, but are you in love with him. There is a difference between the two.
2007-07-18 14:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems like he cares about you but he is soo into drugs that he cant pick between the both of you.so i think you should forgive but dont forget
2007-07-18 14:20:50 · answer #6 · answered by Bridget S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!! u might just distract him. u shldnt stay with him cuz he loves u.. if u love him then u will give him time to figure out himself.. and if it was meant to be then he will come bak to u sobber and clean
2007-07-18 14:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by lalala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no. get out of there QUICK.
one lie always leads to two, three, four.
drugs always lead to problems, addictions, readdictions.
once he gets his life 100% stable and keeps it that way for an extended period of time,THEN discuss getting back with him.
2007-07-18 14:17:17 · answer #8 · answered by Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him no one whats to get hurt buy a guy doing all those bad things so yeah i think u deserve better
2007-07-18 14:21:46 · answer #9 · answered by hihi227!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋