What's up with my parents?

Question

They get annoyed whenever I ask to go out with my friends, and I always have to beg them. I'm not even allowed to have sleepovers.
My cousin's parents on the other hand, allow her to spend time with her friends, have sleepovers....they even allowed her to watch the 5th Harry Potter movie at midnight, they're allowing her to go to the Harry Potter midnight party on Saturday, and she can get the book at midnight. She can do fun stuff like that.
Me...my parents would NEVER let me go ANYWHERE at midnight. Which is totally not fair.

So who do you think is more reasonable, MY parents, or my COUSIN's parents?

HAH. ....to everyone who thought i was 12, i'm 16.

Answer 1

omg please get over yourself. no child should be out after midnight. when you are 18 or old enough to move out and live on your own, have fun staying out as late as you want. until then, follow your parents rules.

**haha, it must be sad when everyone thinks you act 12 and you are 16. :)

Answer 2

It sounds like your parents are a bit overprotective. And that your cousins are not enough. You should try having a real sit down, no yelling talk. Tell her how you feel and ask to come to a compramice. Don't ask to go anywhere at midnight or anything, that'll just upset your parents. Ask to make a curfew together, and agree on how often you can go out with friends and do sleepovers. Let her know that your not expecting what your cousin has, but that you would like to talk about it.

Answer 3

My parents were the same way. Are you the oldest? Have you shown tendencies of being irresponsible in the past? And how old are you?

You must think of how your parents perceive you. I understand that you may not be doing anything 'society' classifies as wrong, but your parents have different standards, and proving that you should be allowed to see Harry Potter at midnight (or similar things) is going to be no small feat.

The WORST way to prove to your parents you should be allowed to do things is to say "My cousin gets to do it!". What you need to do is pose the argument that you are responsible enough to be given this privilege (and you must acknowledge it as a privilege, NOT a right). You need to come to your parents calm and ready to talk. Give them specific examples of how you have been responsible in the past (ie, completing all your homework every night, acheiving goods grades etc). Tell them you feel you've earned a reward, and feel that (insert fun thing to do here) would be something you would like to do.

You must be reasonable and willing to compromise. It takes baby steps to get to the ultimate goal. Be prepared for later curfews, but still early curfews, calling to check in and parent supervision. If you are persistent and continue to prove to your parents that you are a responsible young lady, they will EVER SO SLOWLY loosen the leash up a bit.

I really feel your pain, but this slow process is really the only way to get what you want, because then your parents also feel they are getting what they want - which is a responsible daughter they can be proud of and know that you will be making smart decisions.

Answer 4

Obviously your parents have their reasons for not allowing you to do these things. You never mentioned how old you are or how old your cousin is.

The thing is, each set of parents are different. Some parents are a lot more lax than others. It's doesn't mean that one set of parents are better than the other...it just means that they have different parenting styles and neither one of them are wrong.

When you are a parent, you will understand.

The fact is this, you are a minor and as long as you are a minor and live with your parents, you have to do what they say.

Answer 5

You haven't told us what your age or your cousins age is so it is difficult to make a judgment on this but if your parents don't want you to go out it is because the Love you and don't want anything to happen to you. They may be over protective and need to understand that you are growing up and need to be trusted to go out on your own. However this being said it could be possible that you have already proved to be untrustworthy by getting into trouble when left on your own. I just don't have the facts to give an opinion.

Answer 6

Totally going to depend on how old you are. If the answer is 12 then your parents are right on the money. If you are 23 then its time you moved out and got your own place. If somewhere in between the word is "compromise"

Answer 7

First part they shouldn't do but the 12 midnight one I understand cause they don't want you out late. Most parents are like this

Answer 8

When I was ur age I thought the same thing about my parents but now that I am mucch older I am glad my parents did what they did. I am thankful to them and I appreciate them. You don't understand the feeling of being a parent that's why you think they suck but when you grow up and not screw up ur life like some people you will be really thankful to them.

Answer 9

I don't know the whole story here. I don't know how old you are or how old your cousin is. I don't know if you've ever given your parents reason not to trust you. I don't know if your cousin's parents are too permissive. There isn't enough information to make an informed decision. Perhaps you're not old enough to be out at midnight. One thing is certain -- your whining is certainly annoying.

Answer 10

Well, your parents sound like they care a lot for you, and being out and about is not always the best idea, So, I guess I have to side with them, because it's better to be considered over cautious then not caring at all.