Well, I am going into my second year of high school and I people who know me think I am a geek... The point is yeah I enjoy computers and technology I am happy because I am making $$$ a month of doing web development online... But yet again I have no girl friend... I am a nice caring guy. Once a girl said I was to caring ( she was emo ) But I am kinda skinny... But anyways... I am always their for a girl if they need help or advice on something I will stop what I am doing and help her...
Why don't I have a girlfriend yet? Oh, I am a little shy sometimes...
2007-07-18 13:38:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like to me that girl didn't know what she was talking about. You can never be too caring unless you get obsessive. Now that is bad, but sounds like to me you haven't done that. Just wait, and you'll find the right girl for you, trust me. Girls at your age are inmature and can't value a good guy as well as they will be able to in a few years. All you need is a little confidence and you'll be perfect! So don't worry, you'll have a great girl soon. Just keep holding out and stay who you are.
2007-07-18 13:45:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Matt, let me tell you a little story.... my fiance used to be the biggest dork in high school, he never dated as he was more into playing soccer and studying... Well you should see him now, when he showed me his old pictures I could not believe this is the same guy... the point is, don't worry too much bout girls, the fact that you are making good money from this young of an age shows that you have a really good head on your shoulder= a good future! My fiance is a scientist right now, looks damn hot, makes good money, and has me in his life (I used to be a model when I was younger)... When we go out girls always look at him and some even hit on him while I'm around... You are going through the most awkward years of our life cycle and everything that you say from being a geek or shy is completely normal...just make sure you don't let some pretentious narrow minded school kids discourage you in life...
2016-05-17 05:00:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
High school is an awkward time for everyone. First off don't compare your experiences with anyone yet. There is no par or benchmark you need to make. There are girls in high school that appreciate a nice geeky guy when they have one. Some of them love computers as well! You're still very young and you have lots of time. Plus, I know plenty of girls that like skinny computer guys.
Keep doing what you're doing. Try to stay social though. Throw parties, invite people over...talk to that cute girl in your math or science class! You never know, she might be into the same things you are! The more social you are the better. That way you have the best of both worlds...we all know "geeks" are not the most social off all creatures which has its cons. Don't be ashamed of who you are and what you have or have not done. Don't worry you'll find her.
Trust me. It all changes after high school.
2007-07-18 13:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by kaye t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine that you are who you are. Be comfortable with yourself and show no apologies for it. You want to attract a girl who likes the person that you are. High school can be miserable in terms of dating because some people are so hung up on fitting the cliche of "normal" and "cool". The key word here though is "some" people are concerned about being cliche; not "everyone". Somewhere there is a girl that would adore a guy like you, but it just might not be the right time and place for whatever reason. When you do find a girl that you like let her know how you feel in a straight-up manner. You honestly have nothing to lose, and you increase your chances of finding a girl quicker. I think it is always better to know that someone likes you or doesn't like you rather than dreaming about it. You will find someone sooner or later if you just keep chugging along, like who you are, and are not afraid to tell girls how you feel about them!
2007-07-18 13:54:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
*SIGH*
Mr. Nice Guy, huh? See, always being there for a girl is the type of thing that will land you straight into the friend zone, and you'll end up being her "emotional tampon". The way I was brought up, I was taught to be the dominant male. That means, I don't listen to girls complain about how their boyfriend is mistreating them or how crappy their job is. I'm not saying be an asshole, but be a man...if there's a difference.
If you want a girl, you have to change your attitude also. Don't go looking for a relationship. Let relationships build. Talk to new girls, make small talk (about interesting subjects...not computers), have no expectations when talking to girls (this will make the fear of rejection go away and you'll be more confident), be mysterious, etc. I'm trying not to type up a storm, but from the position you're in, you seem like you have a long way to go. Just contact me if you need me to go into detail.
2007-07-18 13:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this probably sounds cliche, but all good things come to those who wait.
You don't want to "settle" for just any girl, so that you can say you have a girlfriend. You want to date someone who compliments you, someone with whom you have something in common.
What kind of girl are you looking for? What qualities do you want in a girlfriend?
Are you looking for those attributes or are you just seeking 'a girlfriend'
Maybe therein lies the answer as to why you don't have a girlfriend.
Remember don't rush it, let things happen organically!!
You'll find her!!
****Girls love confidence! Don't put yourself down by saying you're a geek, or you're too skinny. Focus on the positive things about who you are! Highlight those, girls will notice confidence!!! :)
2007-07-18 13:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by Sumie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man. I hope you're not starting with the nice guy syndrome. It doesn't work. Be yourself. Someone will like you for it. You seem to be really concerned with image, like 'geek' and 'nice caring guy'. Don't go down this crazy road of judging yourself and trying to fit into categories.
You don't have to try hard to get girls to like you. Either they do or they don't. Don't force it. You can't make someone like you who doesn't. Not everyone is going to like you. That's OK. You don't need everyone to like you. Just one special girl.
2007-07-18 13:49:20 · answer #7 · answered by LG 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll grow out of your shyness! i was that way too & didnt have a boyfriend for awhile, then got one a year out of high school...you just got to wait til you're out of high school and don't have that reputation anymore and can be yourself, or get a new job and get out more
2007-07-18 13:46:24 · answer #8 · answered by renee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its all about the appearance
i think nerds are hot
i went out with one once
2007-07-18 13:42:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe ur ugly. Or heres something girls like funny guys .Be funny
2007-07-18 13:41:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋