Am I a good person?

Question

I'm 20 years old.
I lost my virginity when I was 17. I've had a total of three sexual partners, I always use protection, and I am currently in an exclusive (not married), almost two year relationship with a man. We have sex on a regular basis.
I smoke pot. I have done acid and mushrooms in the past and given the chance, would do them again. I would not do cocaine, meth, or heroin.
I am pro-choice.
I give blood.
I am pro-gay rights.
I volunteer to work with children.
I am anti-establishment.
I believe in global warming.
I do not believe in your god.

Based on this, do you believe I am a good person?

And please don't give me one of those "No one is good but God" answers, I'm asking if you think that, for example, you are a better person than me.

Why?

**So Kiss Me**, I know where I stand on my own "good person" scale. I'm just curious about how I would fit into other people's definitions of "good."

David H, I'm from a fairly large city, the capital of my state, in fact.

alexandria, I don't regard any of the things I've listed here as "mistakes."

Travis J wins for the most hilarious comment so far. So because I had sex and I'm a female, I was the one getting taken advantage of? I assure you, hun, no one had to talk me into anything. ;)

Actually, cloverydudette, my mother and I sit around, toke up, and talk about sex all the time. My mom's awesome.

BluePaddle91, you bet I do. :)

Answer 1

You sound fun to hang out with.

Answer 2

Oh sure I think I'm better than you, but that's nothing personal. My ego has just grown so massive that is has collapsed in upon itself creating a hole in space-time from which not even light escapes.

I find nothing that you listed immoral in any way, shape, or form. Maybe it makes me a little jealous, as you get laid WAY more than I do, but that's about the extent.

As for whether or not that makes you "good", I couldn't say without knowing you better. My money is on that you are good, and probably nice on top of that, but since I have never really had any remotely meaningful interaction with you I really couldn't say.

I am curious as to what you mean by 'anti-establishment'. Do you mean the current establishment? Do you mean ALL establishment? Are you an anarchist? Is this a 'go out and picket' thing or a 'go out and bomb' thing?

EDIT: It also occurs to me to point out that the things you chose to list shows you have an ENORMOUS chip on your shoulder. I see you walking into a room a being like "HEY! I'm a non-christian, unmarried, sexually active liberal! Anybody got a problem with that?"

MORE EDIT: Oooh! I have another one! (and clearly not enough to do *cough*) I note you say I don't believe in *your* god. Does that mean you don't believe in any god or just the Christian one? I distnctly recall a previous question about making that assumption. Did you just?

Answer 3

Good is relative. I agree with the answers that have already said that this information is not enough to guess at a judgment. You sound similar to most of the people I hang around with.
You forgot to add that you often make witty and insightful remarks. You fight unjust prejudice (I see someone already mentioned something about that). You smack of intelligence and a sense of humor.

I would say that you are old enough to make the choices you have made for yourself yourself. I would not like to see someone too young following some of your examples until they were old enough to make informed choices (say a 13 year old would have to be exceptionally mature for me to believe that they were not making an uninformed mistake, but I would consider 25 a little old to just start making choices and testing limits).

What/who are your moral inspirations? How do you hold true to them and yourself? How well do you handle failure? Success?

My god despises those without a sense of humor. He would be just fine with you.

ADD: Besides it is hard to guess at judging you. The mask hides you so well...

Answer 4

did i used to date you? seriously, i'm not in a position to judge you...oh, i'm definitely NOT a better person than you...i'm struck by how much we have in common, although i was quite a bit wilder, more extreme, and less responsible than you...i had a time in my life where they only thing i wouldn't try was anything you had to shoot up-a key difference is that i was extremely promiscuous...fact is, i didn't even know the names of some of the women i slept with...i'm not proud of that, but i have come to terms with my past...i, too, am a blood donor-i also volunteer with children, and am a foster parent...i am against this stupid war in iraq, i understand the threat of global climate change and the need for us all to do what we can to help protect our planet-as for gays, i have gay family members and friends-i don't preach to them, they know the bible as well as i do, and i don't love them any less and i do believe that their rights are as important as mine...i believe that your heart is in the right place-to me the essence of being a Christian boils down to 2 things: loving God with all you have, and loving others as yourself...i know you don't believe in God, but you seem to truly grasp the essence of the second part...and that is a truly good place to be in these days!

Answer 5

You are not a good character, but I wish you the best. It bothers me that there are horrible men to take advantage of the likes of you. I think you have some conscience left, which is a valuable thing from the point of view of seeking good. You sound like a misled child and an ill-used female. I think the guys that have been in your life have been worse, and I wouldn't give them a half of the regard I would show you.

Answer 6

Can't say for sure until I met you.
I reserve any personality findings until I have had a chance to personally meet them.
I can say you have not done any more or any less than the average person.
I do not judge.
Being good is a virtue.

Get A Grip.
Cheers.

Answer 7

not enough to determine if you're a good person!!! you can have all those qualities but still trip blind children walking down the sidewalk and walk away laughing hystericaly. but i guess if you have to ask yourself whether you're good or not. you probably are. cuz mean people already know the bad deeds they've done and dont care. so yeah.
also good person=nice person
a person who does pot doesnt mean they're bad.
my 3/4 of my school band does stuff liek that and they're hella funny. :D

Answer 8

actually you sound a lot like myself. i love myself and who i am. i have no regrets and dont believe i need to. i'm not ashamed of anything i stand for or anything i've done to myself in my life.

we are not perfect, mistakes are made and people are sometimes hurt by our actions, though not intentionally.

The God I believe in doesnt 'see' things the way humans do. God sees our intentions and our deeds and judges them according to GOD'S standards and Love....not ours that we set upon ourselves.

Everything comes down to two things: Love and Fear. ultimately it's one or the other of them drives us to do the things we do. some people have more Fear of life and choice than others....which is ultimately their own choice on how to react to that Fear. the same goes for Love.

so. based on what you've given, yes i do think you're a good person. you make your choices and dont impose making the same choice on others. THAT is what makes a good person.

Answer 9

I'm not a person to judge but I think there is good in everyone. Even if I do think your list of things boasts of many immoral things you have earned some respect from me for defending other beliefs (such as Islam). Peace.

Answer 10

you are...though i'm a little frustrated about the gay rights and what do people mean by that...i mean that i have noticed that many gays bring the hitler out of me and i think that the rest of the world who do not want to be identified in a group of people should have rights too.i don't want to abuse people or interfere in their lives and i certainly don't want to be a king or a queen....and i can't understand how can someone want to be or be "bourgeois" without being an educated human-you earn nothing when you get to be something you want without understanding it-...

Answer 11

You sound like you are the kind of person who likes to live life and have no regrets. From what you have posted about your personal life, you seem like a good. If you want to know if I am better than you, no I am not. Plain and simple.