my mom wants to go back to my country. i dont wanna go. im really scared, because she always says that she will pack some things, and go away from my dad. i wanna stay with my dad because my mom cant take care of me. she always asks if like i have clothes, because well i dont really know but that scrares me too. people say i will get through this but i really cant. i dont know what to do. what if she really does pack some things and we will just get out of here. i wanna stay with my dad, he said he will take care of me. but hes pretty pissed off, because he has to pay the rent and bills all by himself. i dont know what to do. im really scared. because i forgot my language. i know perfect english and a few words of my language. what do i do? plz help..i really want this to end. i cant get through it. its not that easy. IM REALLY SCARED!
2007-07-18 12:15:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i play online games, listen 2 music, and talk to people to get this off my mind. should i do it right now?
btw, my moms talking on the phone with my aunt and she is talking how she needs to figure out how to get out of here and what she will do when she gets back to our country? OMG THAT SOUNDS SCARY!!?!?!?!?!?!?!? PLZ HELP!!
2007-07-18 12:16:39 · update #1
Femme - i was born there i know everything about it. i wanna stay america. theres nothing excited about going back to my country with a mother which cares about only about cigarretes and coffee.
2007-07-18 12:22:12 · update #2
You don't have any choice. You know, being afraid and being excited is really different sides of the same coin. Since you have no choice just change your attitude so that this will be more exciting. You have a great opportunity to learn another language and learn about another country and culture. Get excited! :)
2007-07-18 12:20:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is so terrifying! I am so sorry! Right now you must be feeling so helpless and not in control of anything in your life. I am pretty sure that you can CHOOSE who you want to stay with. as long as your dad is willing to have you and he is the one that cares for you the best, thats where you should be. I dont know your mom, but if you can, you should tell her how scared you are and how you want to stay here with your friends and as a family and how you are worried about school there since you dont know the language anymore. I am sure there is a reason your mom wants to leave so badly, and as a mom I can tell you she will not want to be a country away from you so she is probubly feeling pretty torn up too. I want you to remember something that is very important. REMEMBER you are yet a child, and while now it may feel like you have no choice in your life, YOU WILL. You only have 5 years until you are old enough to be free of your parents legally. it may seem like a long time but it will go by fast. Hang in there. Concentrate on preparing to be out on your own. Try to do well in school and take occupational classes so you can get a good job out of highschool. If you have to leave, remember that there is internet all over the world and you will be able to stay in touch with your friends here and come back if you want as soon as you are old enough. Also, about your dad, if your mom leaves he will be paying all the bills by himself anyway. I dont know if he can get child support from a mom overseas but you could even get a job to help with your expenses like food and clothes. As bad as this is (and its pretty bad) try to think of those who are worse off and count your blessings, it helps. Good Luck. Jen
2007-07-18 19:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by Jenster 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax a little , your Mom will have trouble getting you out of the country if you really dont want to go.
I would talk to BOTH parents and tell them you are really upset by whats going on , but that you feel you are now at home in this country and dont want to go back, but you want to stay here with your Dad .
If you spoke another language as a kid you would probably pick it up again fairly quickly. You may need to decide who needs you more , your Dad or your Mom.
Thats something you shouldnt need to deal with.
2007-07-18 19:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your parents need to sit down and talk about this properly - there might be some heated discussion, but at the end of the day your parents need to think about what you want as well. You can explain why you want to stay with your dad and say that you will visit your mum if she does decide to go back to her country.
2007-07-18 19:22:09 · answer #4 · answered by Monkey007 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have a long way to go man, you havent even begun. you will do fine. Just do whatever you do. Keep doing one thing that you love doing the most. That will be the thing that will keep you out of depression and stress. Dont worry about how shaping things., because things will shape around you, only if you believe and keep doing what you do best. The reality is harsh, but your parents wont live forever, sorry to say that if it hurts. You have got to worry about yourself, and you have got to build yourself. These problems are nothing. Nothing is a problem that cant be solved. Distance yourself from all these worries, and you will do fine. You love basketball, keep loving it, and keep playing it. Sports is something you can hang on to for the rest of your life, its your escape from everything. thats why some say that sports is the greatest thing ever.
Great athletes focus, and block everything else. Then they are called great.
2007-07-20 01:08:03 · answer #5 · answered by I|A|X 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im really sorry your feeling like your in hell rite now. sometimes i feel like that too. tell your mom that you feel more comfortable with your dad. tell her that your dad would take care of you more cuz dont guys have "guy stuff" to talk about or something? maybe your parents are starting to get divorced and im really sorry if thats gonna happen. just talk about how u feel with your parents. i think thats the best way.
2007-07-18 19:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her if she goes, she goes alone. If she tries to make you, you will tell your father and you will call the police. The police will help you if you tell them that you don't want to leave the country. Are you a US citizen? If not, then find out how and get busy. She can't take you back if you are a US citizen.
2007-07-18 19:23:04 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to your parents let them know how you feel and if they still dont listen i dont know what to say just know it really isnt the end of the world life goes on you can adapt who knows maybe it will be better over there
2007-07-18 19:25:00 · answer #8 · answered by 0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ur 13 now
and if u live to the age of 100 that means youve only experieced 13% of ur life, meaning you have another 87% of life to enjoy :D
2007-07-18 19:21:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can't you sit down and talk to both of your parents together and tell them how you feel. They should do what is best for you. Maybe, if you talk to them they will see it is you and your future that is important.
2007-07-18 19:22:19 · answer #10 · answered by aj's girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋