she will not let me go to the movies with friends alone, go to the mall with bunch of friends without a parent, not letting me have a myspace, not letting me have contacts... i am 12 years old. what do you think?
2007-07-18 12:03:58 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
No.7 yrs from now you will understand WHY she does these things and doesn't allow you to run wild.When your friends start getting pregnant, arrested etc you will understand.There are predators on the internet and she is protecting you.I'd rather be a little over protected than thrown to the wolves hon.In the mall there are predators who look for little girls like you.A group of girls your age can disappear and not be found, or get into trouble.
2007-07-18 12:08:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's tough being a parent. I'm sure she still sees you as her little baby. And even as grown and mature and smart as you think you are (and probably actually are) there's still so much about the world that you simply don't understand, and she does. As parents, we all see so much of the news of girls your age that are kidnapped and killed, often in public places doing normal average things like going to the movies and malls. It's terrifying and it's easy to backfire and just try and keep your kid locked up at home as much as possible. Or girls who chat online and have myspace pages and friend someone they think is their age (or within a few years) and who's just so cool and nice and friendly and it ends up being someone who's 20, 30, 40 and a predator.
Your mother is just trying to look out for what's best for you. You can try and talk to her and explain your side of things, but so much of freedom simply comes with age and patience.
2007-07-18 19:09:43 · answer #2 · answered by Rhiannon 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think she is being a little overprotected but that's what moms do. At age 12 you should at least be allowed to go to the movies and the mall with a group of friends... but if boys are present the girl ratio should be more. I agree with her about the myspace thing though, they have a kid one for your age called yearbook (i think). You should talk with her and ask for a little more freedom, prove to her you can handle the responsibility.
good luck
2007-07-18 19:15:34 · answer #3 · answered by wildflower 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think your mom is a smart woman and needs to start traveling the country giving other mothers talks about what NOT to let young girls do, LOL. Too many girls your age are getting into trouble doing things they're not really ready to comprehend. Go and hug your mom for being a wonderful person!!
2007-07-18 19:08:31 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Informed 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No. Prolly seems unfair right now, but all she's doing is raising you right.
You'll thank her one day.
Tori is right, more people would say yes in that section, but it doesn't really make them right.
They are in the same situation as you, and want to vent about it.
I am 16.
Its not like i've forgotten that fast what 12 was like.
But (Tori is right again=D) I am a parent.
2007-07-18 20:51:13 · answer #5 · answered by Catherine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow..I got stopped when I was a tween by my neighbor's cousin for walking in a nice neighborhood by myself....and than on top of that my mom is Arabic so she didn't let my sister go out and do anything until she was about 15 or 16...With me even it was 16 until she allowed me to go see a boy or talk to them on the phone.....you're in what probably going in to the 7th grade...yeah I guess that's a difficult age b/c you're old enough to want to do things but young enough to where it's unsafe....But it's better to be protective than not safe, esp. these days because parents can't even be trusted when it comes to abuse....
2007-07-18 19:31:19 · answer #6 · answered by Summer C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's the same age I was when I wanted that stuff (except for My space - that you shouldn't want). Ask her if you can have those as a 13th birthday present - new age, new privileges. If she says "no" right away, take out My space first. If she still says no, then take out movies alone with a friend. Then take out the mall. If you present her with the options, one at a time. That way, they seem like less to ask.
2007-07-18 19:23:52 · answer #7 · answered by Artemis 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. Your mom is strict, but not overprotective.
My 12 year old doesn't do the things you listed either.
2007-07-18 19:12:38 · answer #8 · answered by not yet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont EVER ask a question in parenting if you want teens advice. EVERY SINGLE person who said "no she is not to overprotective" is a mom or a dad. She is being overprotective dont listeen to the parents, post this in adolecence to get better results.
P.S.- I didn't mean to offend anybody by saying this.
2007-07-18 20:16:31 · answer #9 · answered by Tori 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She might be over protective BUT she just wants you to be safe. There are soooo many bad people out there now that do TERRIBLE things to girls like you.
Think of this way....there are many kids out there that have parents that don't give a rats a$s about their kids. Yes, they get to stay out all night and what they want but they also end up in jail and/or on drugs or booze. At least your mom cares about you. I understand at your age that's hard to understand but trust me, you'll thank her for caring about when you get older.
2007-07-18 19:09:10 · answer #10 · answered by snakekeeper27 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋