Do all men really have to look at porn to be sexually fulfilled or are there any good men left?

Question

I consider myself an attractive woman who should be able to keep a man but discovered this morning I am not enough.

Thanks to everyone who answered me. I was very upset when I posted this question. I still have not talked to my boyfriend since I posted this, but I definitely think I can work it out with him since reading your posts. I want to be what is most important to him and everyone has made me realize that I most likely still am and that he is just an average man doing what average men do.

Answer 1

That's what I wanna know too.

Answer 2

That's probably not a true statement. I expect you are completely adequate and capable of keeping a man. The problem is that most women grew up being princesses and they don't realize that in the adult world a princess wears a crown and that doesn't necessarily translate into marital bliss.

What does make a difference is if the woman finds and is in touch with her true femininity, and learns to use it to ensure her own happiness in a relationship. But what normally happens is, she just abdicates and complains that he doesn't pay any attention to her.

The cure for this marital blahs is for her to become proactive and ensure that her man never has a "loaded weapon" that he could unload elsewhere. So from now on, at bedtime and anytime you see him with the porn, TAKE ACTION. Silently and without asking him for anything, take charge of his weapon and show him that he doesn't need any other stimulation than that which you can provide.

Eventually, he'll lose interest and take the initiative - then you'll be the happiest woman in town and he'll celebrate his masculine libido.

Good Luck

Answer 3

There ARE a few good men left out there.
If your man looks at porn, don't think that you're not enough. You're worth so much more than that! If this guy is your boyfriend, I'd suggest leaving him to his own devices. If he's your husband, I would really encourage you to try to communicate to him how this makes you feel. This is a tough issue, and can become a battle of misunderstandings, but you don't want to end a marriage over it. Talk, Listen, Try to understand. If counseling is required, use it! (Most churches offer free marital counseling) Good luck!

Answer 4

Ohh come on! Just because a man looks at a little porn doesn't mean that he's not a good guy! And besides if all men who looked at pornography were bad then who would be left? Everytime I turn on the TV I see titts & ***.

I think you are feeling a little insecure about yourself & looking to blame outwardly to rationalize it. Take a deep breath & chill out! If you pick up any textbook (made after 1980) on Human Sexuality they all will tell you that men become aroused first by their eyes. Men fall in love with what they see. And a blond bomshell wearing red high heels & fish-net stockings is like unbearable for them. Men are visual beings - we are not so we tend not to understand. Women fall in love usually with their ears - I love you baby, you so beautiful baby & I want to be with you always baby. Men know this - although they don't understand it - they do it because it turns us on.
Maybe try talking to him about it - maybe he was just curious...to condem a human being for looking at something is selfish. People are curious by nature & are drawn to things for more reasons than he could ever explain. Cut him some slack...if he hasn't locked you out of the bedroom so he could be alone with the computer then you have nothing to worry about.

Try opening your mind a little...think outside the box (no pun intended). Instead of thinking to youself "He looked at porn so that makes me not good enough" try thinking "He looked at porn & even though those women are attrative he's my man & wants me still".

Sometimes we just have to learn to let things go!

Answer 5

Cut the guy some slack. Most men watch porn while in a relationship out of convenience. They know their gf cannot always be up for sex at the exact moment that they are. Be thankful that he's not cheating.

Answer 6

Looking at porn means nothing, I started looking at porn when I was 16 and preetty much was done with it by 17, but still there are older guys out there that like that and its not a big deal, you shouldnt feel bad about that.
Well unless your dude is looking at gay porn.

Answer 7

Not all men need to look at porn and just because a man doesn't look at porn doesn't make him a good man.

Answer 8

Not all men are into porn. My man can't even watch a couple making out on TV. He says what's the point, the real thing is better. I love my man.

Answer 9

Your not enough for that or those men, but I'm sure your more than enough for the right guy. I hate porn. Its so degrading to women and sad that it needs to be so prevalent in our culture. Attraction to me is honesty, caring, understanding and acceptance.
Hey I'm no saint in other areas of life, but my wife was severely sexually abused as a child and finds sex repulsive as one can imagine. I accept that, and I accept her because her other qualities far outweigh my need for sex.

Answer 10

Porn has nothing to do with you. Men like visual stimuli. Most guys I know enjoy porn. But better than that, they enjoy checking out porn with the women they love. Loosen up and try viewing it with him... I kinda dig it.

Answer 11

actually no men look at porn coz it just catches them. their eye are gateways to lust. its easier to imagine you fantasy with visual help than to work for it. so there is little fulfillment just eye candy. and just like candy it only tastes good for a little while which is all they can handle. but for a man to be in love he can learn dish all he can eat. and that is more than just fulfilled it is happiness in taking of someone else's needs