my brother has been with this girl for about a year now and no one in my family can stand her but we still do respect and be nice to her. they are both 17 and are about to have a baby and he is going to be there for the baby even if they are not together. she smokes even though she is pregnant (sometimes dope) she is not clean and does not brush her teeth. she does not even treat my brother good she punches him in the face and calls him names all the time. i am 14 and she is rude to me sometimes. she wont leave my brother alone she has to do EVERYTHING with him litterally. i miss him so much and i dont know what to do about it. and every time they break up she keeps calling and crying trying to get him back. and it works because he is too weak to say no. he has no friends anymore cause she is always by his side and she said she dont even want him to get a job. he mowed once for a neighbor and she went with him just to stare at him for hours. this kills me! what do i do? thanks!
2007-07-18 11:33:19 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Kudos for your brother for being loyal. Loyal men are hard to find. However, this girl does seem to be abusive. Does she realize the harm she is inflicting on her unborn child?
I would anonymously mail her some information, because that poor baby is going to have health problems.
It sounds like this woman has issues on her own, and needs help. (just don't tell her that to her face, because then you'll have bigger issues.) She just seems insecure.
Try sitting down with your brother and talking to him about how you feel. Voice your concerns, and remember to be mindful of his feelings too.
2007-07-18 12:09:04 · answer #1 · answered by Avillie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do. Your brother is his own person and old enough to make decisions for himself. He will learn for himself eventually. Just be a good sister and love and support him.
2007-07-18 11:39:37 · answer #2 · answered by California Kush 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when she does something illegal like doping or drugs just call the cops and get rid of her for a while.
keep using the law against her and try to make her life miserable every chance you get .
hurt her without touching her.
upset her without talking to her
make her become afraid of you hurting her or destroying her life and she ll pack her bags and disappear from your life for ever.
2007-07-18 11:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do a thing except love your brother and learn from his mistakes. Don't have sex before you are ready to be a father, which your brother isn't. Good luck.
2007-07-18 11:37:30 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in similar situation, my older sis is with a "little boy" and nobody in the family likes him, so i really dont have any advise for you but i sympathize with you hope everything turns out ok for you.
2007-07-18 11:38:29 · answer #5 · answered by smoke_horse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋