Any Suggestions on How or what I can really say that will help our situation? cause Her parents are trying to rip us apart. Thanks
2007-07-18 11:04:59 · 19 answers · asked by corey p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry Misspelled Girlfriend. (in a rush)
2007-07-18 11:06:47 · update #1
Well im 18 and she is 17
2007-07-18 11:10:28 · update #2
First of all, stop focusing on what her father thinks so much. Its nice that you care dont get me wrong. Its actually very good. Just dont care more about him than your girlfriend because that is where your attention has to be.
Just show her you care about her. Go visit her, bring her a rose, call her over the phone. That will be noticed by her dad. Which dad wouldnt want to have someone treating his baby girl respectfully. He might not tell you he notices it, but he will. Daddys are so jeolous because they think girls are so fragile and can get their heart broken easily.
***Just dont bug her either, if she needs time to be on her own. let her. Sometimes parents dont like it when boyfriends try to take over there baby girls life. She needs to have family time so her parents wont feel neglected. Cuz then the blame is going to you. Be understanding. You need to be the perfect guy in there eyes.
*****Be truthful to her. *******
****Actions speak louder than words.****
2007-07-18 11:17:26 · answer #1 · answered by tata 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you do in the first place to lose their confidence in you?
The only way you can prove you love their daughter is show show it. Apparently, your actions in the past have not made them very comfortable with you. Hopefully, you have a decent job, savings, a car, and some future aspirations. Treat her with respect, be courteous when you are around her parents and watch what you say. It takes a while to gain a parent's trust. But, if you try long and hard enough, it can be done.
2007-07-18 18:09:26 · answer #2 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen there is nothing you can do except to keep trying maybe her parents will come around. there is one other have your girlfriend set up a meeting with you her and her parents. Tell them how you feel and be real . then let her parents talk . also let your girlfriend have a say to cause every body needs to talk. this is serious if you really love this girl do it stand up and have a meeting with her and parents
2007-07-18 18:14:49 · answer #3 · answered by julie n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time and maturity. He probably thinks you're a complete loser who is only dating his daughter for sex and is going to get her pregnant.
There are a lot of things you'll have to do before convincing him you love his little girl. And the final thing is marry her without getting her pregnant first. But before that, have a college degree, have a successful career. And those are just the basics. At 18 you have nothing to convince him you even know what love is.
Frankly if you told me you loved my daughter I would sit you down and ask you to convince me. By the way I would know you're going to fall flat on your face on that one. Then I would ask what you think responsibility to my daughter means. Again you'll fail that one. Talking to him is just going to confirm what he already knows.
Honestly I think your best bet is drop the idea of even mentioning love to parents because they already know you can't even define it. At 18 everyone has an unrealistic faerietale notion of love.
2007-07-18 18:08:41 · answer #4 · answered by elurle 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing much you can do to help it, the situation , i mean. just be the same person you are, genuine and sincere. he will notice that you are different. dont do the obvious, and dont try too hard to please him, its his daughter you are after, not him, so just be you. he'll come round eventually. and if he dishes you with bitterness, dont run away, face it like a man. that will get to him and just might soften his heart towards you.
you cannot make someone to love you, all you can do is express your love and present yourself as a loveable person, the rest is up to them
good luck
2007-07-18 18:12:47 · answer #5 · answered by Dar' Lene Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You: "Listen Mr. (her last name),
I love your daughter. I understand why you are afraid to let anyone in her life, but you have to know that I would never hurt her. I will keep her safe, and if she doesn't want me in her life, I think that needs to be her decision. Your word is the best, but I am only here for her, and I will never be the same person without her. At the end, I will be here for you, your beautiful wife, and my sweet (her name).
2007-07-18 18:12:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love this girl then you need to tell her parents straight that you are serious. basically you just need to sell yourself...say your a good person and you would never hurt their daughter.
sometimes girls parents will not accept their man because they're afraid of losing their child that they once had. but if this a serious thing then they need to accept the fact that you and their daughter want to be together.
good luck! and don't let them get to you! xxx
2007-07-18 18:10:32 · answer #7 · answered by substitute_for_real_emotion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't always impress the parents. Just tell them that you are a real man and would never cheat or do anyting to hurt her and if they can't accept that, then fine, but them hating you will never make you stop.
2007-07-18 18:08:05 · answer #8 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try http://www.themostexpensivewish.com/ ; it's a good way to tell your girlfriend's father you love her and want to make her happy ; make a wish for your love and your future ; perhaps he will be touched and will understand... Good luck!
2007-07-18 18:16:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gave very little information to instruct the advise.
But a father's jobs is to protect his little girl - and their daughters are their little girls forever.
2007-07-18 18:08:32 · answer #10 · answered by keezy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋